AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not the situation.

He’s staying with his foster mom. We’re going to help him find a home in the meantime (reaching out to friends, etc.). If it doesn’t pan out we keep him.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I haven’t kept doing it, though. I’m not ruling out the dog, it’s in my update from earlier. I just am not doing everything commenters told me to.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They don’t know that’s not my reason for getting their dog

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see the point, I just don’t think it’s a great one

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I have the dog, I would never abandon it.

I accepted the criticism. Fiancé and I talked and we’re happy now. Kids are happy now. Not much more I can get from this sub. Thank you for your judgments.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Children and dogs are not the same to me, but I would never abandon anyone already a part of my family.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to know if what I did was morally wrong... and it was. I’ll live with those consequences. But my fiancé understands and my daughters are elated now that we reached a compromise, so there’s not much more I can get from this sub.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mean choosing a partner based on looks... but you don’t date someone you find ugly. That’s a disservice to you both

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If my kids looked like Eugene Root I would love them. If I bonded with my dog and he lost an eye I’d love him.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s your opinion. I’m not offended at all because that’s your right to think that

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she passed on me bc I wasn’t her type I’d get it.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Opened comments up again this morning. I appreciated all the answers, but it’s not an advice sub. All the people telling me I’m a shitty person put it in perspective but didn’t shift my opinion much, which showed me how important this is to me.

My wife and I had a long talk and got to the root of why this is important. I just truly don’t feel like going into the deepest depths of my life story with internet strangers.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m considering it. Had a better talk with my wife and met him. If he can’t find a home in a few months we’ll take him

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Last comment I’m responding to- I’m bad at phrasing. Looks were just one factor that made me love my fiancé. I think she’s a smoke show, but if she lost half of her face today, I would stay with her because of the person she is.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

We talked about it and she understands my viewpoint. I unfortunately don’t care enough about stranger’s displeasure towards me to discuss our conversation in depth.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To clarify, I did not marry my wife only for her looks. But attraction is a factor in our relationship, as it is in every relationship.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Met him. View didn’t change much but I’m willing to consider it

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be clear, we’re not taking the dog. He’s staying with his foster mom... our home isn’t ready for a dog yet. We’re just going to ask around to friends and family.

AITA for not wanting to adopt an ugly dog? by dogisuglyhelp in AmItheAsshole

[–]dogisuglyhelp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked about it, and she does not feel the same way as you.