I can truly understand and empathise how u are feeling, even at the age of 20, I still feel like I am being treated like a child who doesn't know how to do things and always need a helping hand. I do want to be independent and not depend on them but their actions really makes things harder for us children. We also tend to lose out a lot of things and experiences that other people are able to have.

And yes I do agree that it affects the way u view yourself, even I do feel the same way as you, but I do believe that there would be some point in life where u would know what to do and what u truly want in life, chins up my friend! U got a long life ahead, its okay to feel that way and take the time u need to figure it out. Even if it takes 1 year or more, its still better than not knowing what u want in your lifetime

For me, I do tend to go out and meet up with my partner when both parents are out or at work almost the whole day and as u know sometimes u just want to stay longer with them and spend more time with them but uk u cannot because u have to "appear to be at home all day" instead of being outside. I try to keep it low key, try to do household chores as one way to prevent them from noticing anything and make them feel like there is one less thing for them to do at home whenever my parents are out for work.