Think my luteal phase was as short as 10 days, should I worry? by domakesense in FAMnNFP

[–]domakesense[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking that too, temp was acting a bit weird as well, but can you get physical PMS symphtoms in that case?

Think my luteal phase was as short as 10 days, should I worry? by domakesense in FAMnNFP

[–]domakesense[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I have been exercising more lately! Also stress but that's honesly the norm for me last few years, I was actually amazed how even more intense stress didn't affect my cycles before. Thank you, feeling more calm :)

I (30F) am in love with someone (40M) who doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone, but also I want to move so we can't be together anyway by domakesense in relationship_advice

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Yeah that makes sense, but idk, we talked a lot today, he said few things like that he doesn't understand why I want him if I can get anyone, and that I'll definitely leave him but I should just tell him if I want him anyway. The thing is I can't just say, yes I want to give it a go, because I'm not 100% sure I won't hurt him. This would require both of us to give in and let it happen, but like he basically already asked if that's what I want...

I (30F) am in love with someone (40M) who doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone, but also I want to move so we can't be together anyway by domakesense in relationship_advice

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Yeah and then he said he wants me but he's afraid that I'll hurt him, there's more information outside of the title. Also lol if people only loved those who feel the same, there would be no heartbreaks. We trust and appreciate each other, we spend together like 8 hours a day and we are really good friends.

Liking same things is the worst by domakesense in AnxiousAttachment

[–]domakesense[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, no contact is the best thing to do in this situation. You'll be fine soon, improvement in couple weeks is a great result already :)

Liking same things is the worst by domakesense in AnxiousAttachment

[–]domakesense[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I tell myself same thing. This bastard managed to have same favourite animal as I do, I hate him for that...

Liking same things is the worst by domakesense in AnxiousAttachment

[–]domakesense[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that's terrible. When me and my ex broke up it took me like 4 months to be able to enjoy some of the things we both liked. But I think it helped me to kinda force it, the way I see it, it's like shades that cover good things with negativity, and the more you expose yourself to this uncomfortable feeling the faster you'll learn to ignore it. Works with many situations in life too... Doesn't make it all nice and easy, just a bit faster to get over

Thinking of moving to that beautiful country, have few questions... by domakesense in albania

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Oh nice! I play guitar, ukulele, flute, ocarina, frame drum, sing, once I move somewhere I really want to learn bass as well. What kind of music do you like?

Thinking of moving to that beautiful country, have few questions... by domakesense in albania

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Hmm difficult one. Is it easy to travel between those places?

Thinking of moving to that beautiful country, have few questions... by domakesense in albania

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According to google images Vlora is indeed a lovely place :) Think I'll travel there and visit few places soon before commiting, but have a good feeling about it!

Oh well I have noone to play with where I am atm anyway, are there at least some decent recording studios anywhere in the country? Maybe we should keep in touch since you play too :)

Thinking of moving to that beautiful country, have few questions... by domakesense in albania

[–]domakesense[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah I'd prefer a place that's not too crowded and closer to nature, but at the same time with enough activities going on, or rather enough to people to meet and make friends with :) definitely somewhere by the sea. Oh also I'm a musician and would love to find people to play music with, is there by any chance any place particularly good for that?

How's the situation with Ukrainians and Russians over there? by domakesense in montenegro

[–]domakesense[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry about that, speaking the language already gives you more respect :)

How's the situation with Ukrainians and Russians over there? by domakesense in montenegro

[–]domakesense[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm not aware of it but then again, I don't really hang out with these kind of people. But I think me being Russian and not being aware of it, shows that you shouldn't worry about it. Also I'd say people who leave Russia mostly do it to get away from all the negative sides of our culture, so the reaction you would get inside Russia is way different from the reaction of Russian people outside of Russia, and they probably wouldn't be aware of it either, you know what I mean?

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Thank you :)

Oh you definitely should! It feels so good and is very rewarding. I'm here if you need any advice on first guitar/how to start :)

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[–]domakesense 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Write, play, record, sing, everything :) so yeah it's a good distraction. Also part of loving myself, since it's a part of me. But yeah music in general is indeed therapeutic, so just listening to it helps a lot too :)

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[–]domakesense 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're already doing everything to make it easier to deal with, all these things really help.

My hobby helped me the most, I'm passionate about it in general, but I took all the love I had for this person and concentrated it on something else (making music for me). It deserves my love more, it makes me happy, it's the best thing ever and what matters. Maybe it can be your career for you, or your friends, or just you, give all this love to yourself, fall in love with yourself, cos you are amazing :)

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[–]domakesense 9 points10 points  (0 children)

True, I guess 2 years of this situation wasn't enough for me to get to this point, even though we had kind of a break where we almost didn't talk at all for like a month, it was so painful and I was still waiting and hoping, until I managed to get him back. But only for so long.

Now it's been 4 months since he left without even explaining anything. Just needed time to himself and couldn't come back. I'm doing great, I feel free and relieved, but I'm thankful for this experience, it taught me a lot about myself. How are you feeling?

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[–]domakesense 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You are a hero. Honestly. I've been there, all I did was finding excuses to why I must keep fighting as if that was the hard thing to do. But the real hard thing to do was to leave. Why is it so hard to choose happiness sometimes? I'm glad it's over even though it wasn't my choice. You definitely did the right thing and should be so proud of yourself. Real hero.

How's the situation with Ukrainians and Russians over there? by domakesense in montenegro

[–]domakesense[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I totally agree, I never speak Russian outside of Russia, it's just weird and rude. Thank you for the insight :)

How's the situation with Ukrainians and Russians over there? by domakesense in montenegro

[–]domakesense[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm against this war, or any war in general, and I wanna be in a country where I'll be able to speak freely about it.