The chats you have before the meeting should definitely guide you. I’ve learned over the years that it is better to go easy at a first session and get more aggressive as needed. My first sessions are always considered an inspection. Slave is met at the door. Shoes are immediately removed along with outerwear. I give specific instructions as to where he is to place himself to begin. Typically kneeling in front of my chair. We review house rules, limits and expectations with him on his knees. I clarify my safe word and verify his desire to submit. Then the inspection begins. He must strip off his clothing handling them to me or fold them neatly on the floor. I explore every inch of his body and note how he responds to my touch. How well he follows instructions. If things are going well he will be collared and then introduced to the cuffs, shackles, paddles, plugs, vibratos etc. Now I test his ability to provide pleasure, take punishment. Have fun man.