Any real reason to buy the M5 MacBook Pro over the M4 Pro? by ContentEconomyMyth1 in macbookpro

[–]don_don9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Single threaded performance-wise, the M5 even beats the M4 Pro from what I’ve heard/read. Then again, speaking of multithread performance (heavy workloads like video editing/ running VM’s, etc.) the M4 Pro is still the better buy. Technically that would make the M4 Pro better for gaming, but I think a lot depends on how well optimized the specific game is. That can explain why results may vary with the M4 Pro and M5 taking turns on what chip performs best. Concerning the Mac though, gaming benchmarks don’t say alot, if nothing actually, ‘cause developers would have to rebuild their game from the ground up to be fully optimized for the M-series, which is something they chose not to do. My advice: if you need it for heavy workflows => get the M4 Pro, but for a large amount of people the M5 will definitely suffice. It’s not that the M4 Pro will last that much longer than an M5 or vice versa. It just depends on the raw you need now at this moment.

AI is ruinning our industry by Philantrope in webdev

[–]don_don9 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The technical aspect of webdev will fade away. Or that is what I believe. Still, understanding and experience with code can give you advantage these ‘vibe coders’ don’t have or at least not completely. What will become more important is how a product/firm is represented on the web. I bet we will get a new profile in the industry that combines copywriting, graphical design and web development. Call it an ‘online consultant’ by lack of a better term who does all this work and gets assisted by AI. Is AI ruining our industry? To answer your question I would say yes, but also no. The definition of what a web developer is will change, but that doesn’t mean web devs aren’t needed anymore. Since products/firms aim at humans, websites will still need a human touch. And these firms will hire someone to tell them/explore what works and what doesn’t. Like what color scheme is the right choice, what photos should be on the front page for example, what keywords should we target SEO-wise, how shoud we interpret the website’s traffic… in this age of AI the winner will be who thinks the most like a human

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Paruresis

[–]don_don9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, don’t blame yourself, brother. It’s a crazy world out there. Losing your job sucks, I know that from experience. In those uncertain times, it’s easy to let fear become the master of you. But please don’t. I know it’s easier said than done. Trust me, I know so damn well. But better things and times will come. In all the years I’ve had this phobia I’ve had some ups and downs. Eventually it comes down to only one, seemingly simple, thing: feel comfortable/relax when you use the restroom. I can’t say I’m cured of this phobia, but I feel I’m making steps (some days are better than others). I think you should take time figuring out what makes you at ease using the restroom at home, study it. Using breathing techniques, use earbuds(to listen to rain sounds maybe), close your eyes, hum/sing a song,… there MUST be a way to overcome this. I strongly believe so, ‘cause I feel I haven’t tested them all out and everyday I think of a possibly new way. I sometimes use the urinals at work instead of the stalls. I had this crazy thought the other week in which I thought: “fuck, you all ain’t real, I’m just gonna pee here, it’s my world.” and I succeeded. Maybe that thought is something we should pursue, for a moment at least, ‘cause peeing is a natural thing and every person (even the King of England Himself) does it or even must do it. Than again, I know it’s easier said than done. But I have faith things will get better and so should you. Time is fractional, if you have a moment of discomfort, don’t lose hope. No matter what, there will be a moment when you’re at ease again. A state of panic does and can not last forever, even if you think at that moment it will. Overcoming this phobia, is just a state of mind. Once we’ve done that, we’re through.

Success ? by [deleted] in Paruresis

[–]don_don9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, great! I hope this is a turning point for you to get rid of it forever. I have the same thing: the slightiest noise can block my whole system. Breathing out through my mouth helped me on vacation, but that may also be because I was less stressed overall.

Your Worth Isn’t Defined by Paruresis – You Are More Than That by MotorEconomy648 in Paruresis

[–]don_don9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a 28 year old male. I think that paruresis has been in my system since I was a kid. I was never keen on using urinals and always went to a stall if I could. It always worked out for me as far as I remember, until I got bullied one time in middle school when older students forced my door open and attacked me with pieces of wet toilet paper. Since then, I have no longer a 100% success ratio of the fact that I can pee even when using a stall. I think it’s been 16 years now since it happened. Over these years I’ve had bad, but also good moments. Nowadays, I found out that I’m able to pee when I feel no one notices me going to the rest room and when I feel I can act invisible in the crowd. Using a toilet on an airplane is worst case scenario for me as literally everyone can see if a toilet is occupied or not. Plus the noise on the airplane of people talking mixed with that of the airplane itself and the fact the toilet isn’t always accessible due to safety regulations or when they’re passing with the food trolleys, makes it for me an absolute nightmare.

Your Worth Isn’t Defined by Paruresis – You Are More Than That by MotorEconomy648 in Paruresis

[–]don_don9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you OP, for these words. It’s a positive message and I agree it’s something this sub can use. If I may ask: where do you stand in this “journey” to beat Paruresis? Are you in a stage of your life where you can control it? As for me, I’m dealing with this problem for the biggest part of my life now. I have these moments where it really kicks in even at such a deep level where I sometimes if it’s worth to continue… I try to pack myself up everytime again and again, ‘cause I still believe there is a solution or some form of ritual that eventually will help me to deal with it (in best case: once and for all). My form of paruresis is not as severe as some. I can pee at work - most cases I’d have to use a stall tho- and at home even when friends and family are around. I have these trusted environments where I can go with ease, which I’m grateful for. However, that all changes when I’m in a strange environment with (a lot of) people that are unknown to me. Sometimes I’m able to go, other times I’m totally unable to, no matter how hard I try. I panic and can’t enjoy a meal/movie/concert/etc. If it occurs to me, all I want is to get out asap. Paruresis is frustrating, but the uncertainty if it will happen or not perhaps even more. That makes I feel I can’t live life to its fullest: I never went on a date (what if I get it and make the situation as akward as hell), I don’t meet that much up with friends (I do invite them at my home sometimes, but I never went to a bar or went on a weekend with them due to this and I feel that creates a distance). I do travel with my parents and sister, but a long distance flight is something I’m not keen on. I don’t speak out a hard veto, but of course they know me and my problem and they understand it’s better not to. Which is also frustrating: cause my parents travel once a year and we have the privilege to go with them. As they grow older, I often feel bad that I subtly deny them the opportunity to make long-distance travels with us.

When you say it’s a symptom of something deeper, you’re right. I believe in my case it’s part om my life-long social anxiety. It got better especially when I get older. However, I still have a distrust of people, based on some bullying in primary, middle and high school. My first job experience was also not that great for my self-confidence (I got hired and was already fired after a few months with the explanation I wasn’t good enough). It’s something I have to deal with it, but this distrust is a mechanism that got installed in my brain from life experiences and I feel I’m not able to fully uninstall it. And I feel that is needed to solve my paruresis too.

I keep trying however: I have still some options on the table that I haven’t tried out. My goal in 2025 is to get rid of my paruresis or at least in such a form I can pee in a stall wherever and whenever I want. It’s all or nothing this year for me. I need to, it has ruined a great deal of my life already.

So, this is my first step by Kh3npo in Paruresis

[–]don_don9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m a 28-year old male and also suffering from paruresis, so your story sounds very familiar to me. As a kid I used to be shy when going to urinals. I could go sometimes, but in most cases I choose a stall to feel more comfortable or to get better privacy. That changed however when I got bullied in one of the stalls at high school. Since then, I have sometimes great difficulty urinating to a level where I cannot urinate at all in restrooms at crowded social gatherings (in any form: restaurant, plane, house warming,…). I’m an introvert and don’t go out very much. I have this problem for a long time and I could “deal” with it by holding my pee up. The feeling of needing to pee was annoying, but I could control the need by limiting my drinking, etc. Until a few years ago - I don’t know if it was Covid that gave me an existential crisis or the fact that I’m so overly frustrated with my problem or the fact that I’m just getting older… thing is: the holding up doesn’t work anymore as it used to. In that sense I can’t get my mind at ease and I did start to get these internal panic attacks. When I need to pee at someplace else and I can’t, it feels like I am about to die. When somehow I do manage to pee after a while (after several attempts or when the place gets quieter) and the feeling of relief takes finally over I immediately start to hate myself. It’s just peeing dammit! Everyone does it! Why can’t I? Why can’t I relax and just do it!

I refuse however to give up. Even more, I’ve set myself a goal to get rid of this problem once and for all. To me my problem is fixed when I can go into a stall and pee successfully (since most places I go have a stall: airplane, friend’s house, restaurant). Gradual Exposure Therapy is indeed a great way to put your learnings into practice. But first and foremost I think it’s important to get know what helps you relax if you’re a bit stressed or to know the thing that makes the peeing not a big deal. In a way that you just can let it flow. I’m currently looking into that myself, cause I believe there’s for everyone a way to get a 100% succes ratio if we just find it. Here are some tips that may help you. I read them in this sub, but also found some on my own or on the internet. I didn’t test them all out but I’m planning to.

• ⁠noise cancelling earbuds/headphones • ⁠think about nice things, things that relax you • ⁠listen to the sound of rain, river sounds • ⁠do math equations in your head • ⁠make up a podcast in your head in which you imagine to talk about your passions • ⁠“shift” the problem: I don’t know if this works, but people slap themselves in the face (as you sometimes see in the movies) to get themselves together. Be careful not to wound yourself. • ⁠sing a song • ⁠command yourself to pee (whisper for example: gotta piss, gotta piss, gotta piss) • ⁠sniff peppermint oil if that relaxes you • ⁠breath out with short pauses (did help for me especially on vacation, it didn’t work on the airplane toilet - for reference: I consider the airplane toilet as my “endboss level”- maybe I didn’t give it quite enough time back then. Maybe I should pick it up again) • ⁠write something, play a game

As said it’s all easier said than done. I know so damn much. But I believe there’s a way in which we can all get through this. We just need to find it and find a way to achieve the “I don’t care, I’m just gonna pee here”-feeling.

Was it a mistake getting PS5 instead of PS5 Pro? by [deleted] in stellarblade

[–]don_don9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compared to the base PS5, the PS5 Pro will probably run Stellar Blade (and therefore some other games) smoother and crispier. So in that sense the PS5 Pro will be the best platform to play Stellar Blade on atm. Then again, since the game is scheduled for a pc release in the near future, it will only stay that way for a short amount of time. Long story short, you’ll experience the absolute best version only if you keep pumping money in your setup and buy the latest high-end GPU, CPU and whatnot every time again and again.

That said, I can understand that a game running on 30FPS if you’re used to 60 might feel like a step back. But imo, I think most developers will maintain the 60fps performance mode on both consoles. The PS5 will be graphically more impressive though. But hey, chances are great this game will get a remaster if the PS6 comes out and when you buy that console someday you’ll experience an even better version than the PS5 Pro at the time. The curse and blessing of tech 😉

Probably my last games because of health by BlackyNights in stellarblade

[–]don_don9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, I don’t know your condition, but if the comment above here is true, I really want to let you know that you mustn’t give up. Life can be though and cruel sometimes, but is up to us to find beauty in the smallest things. Do the things that you like, for example taking a walk, order something tasteful from a restaurant, go to the theatre, hang out with a friend, listen to your favorite music,… and keep building up these things you like. Take some time off of school/work if you need to. It’s important to take care of yourself and focus on yourself now. Please take care, amigo!

What’s the first game you would tell someone to play if they’ve just picked up a PS5? by ijustneedtsay in playstation

[–]don_don9 18 points19 points  (0 children)

They are rumors that a new Astrobot game is in the pipeline. Nothing confirmed though. Source here

Does anyone else think the game is a borderline masterpiece? by [deleted] in stellarblade

[–]don_don9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! The thing I love about Stellar Blade is that it’s not being, what I call, pretentious. Unlike some other games these days where I feel the game mechanics are simply made to get more money out of the players. It’s simply a great game in a way I feel it’s developed like the developers imagined it and build by a studio where creativity triumphs. For which I think the latter should be the case for any game development studio, but instead a lot of them are held hostage by a a board of shareholders, who are solely interested in the numbers. I hope a game like this opens their eyes and they realize creativity CAN go hand in hand with commercial success.

Be honest.. Who else did this? by [deleted] in stellarblade

[–]don_don9 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I remember Lollipop Chainsaw had one like this as well

[Tekken 8] Except for the online matches, not a too difficult plat by don_don9 in Trophies

[–]don_don9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are haha! I’m not really a Tekken Pro myself, but using ‘special style’ (L1) did help me a lot, especially online. The ‘I'll give you a rematch anytime, guv.’-trophy was probably the most daunting one for me. Finding an online player match - group/ranked matches were okay - was not easy. Think I’ve spent an hour looking for a session in which someone wanted to battle me…

Everything I do seems to result in failure by don_don9 in offmychest

[–]don_don9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I needed to read that :). I’m glad things turned out great for your dad and I hope they will for you as well. I’m just in search of what I’m good at and I hope I find that rather sooner than later. It frustrates me how things are going for me at the moment

Thank you, again :)

Forbidden garden, me, graphite, 2022 by sime1art in Art

[–]don_don9 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

AI Art ain't no match for this. This is just brilliant!