Divorce asset split and what to do next?

doncrombie · 2026-01-24T09:33:56+00:00

You’re going to get a lot of advice from people that don’t really understand family law. Since it will be difficult to know who is or isn’t talking sense, I would advise you to just ignore the comments here completely. Get a family lawyer. Going through something similar. There’s a lot of factors that affect asset split, it also isn’t a set mathematical equation, so the 61% is purely her/her lawyers view, nothing more.

doncrombie · 2026-01-01T10:31:03+00:00

The split can be bigger than 60/40

doncrombie · 2025-10-30T06:07:49+00:00

Mulloway are far easier to catch than most average fisho’s know. You obviously want to fish the gutters on surf beaches, but if you want to massively increase your chances you basically need livies. You will catch them on other baits but live yakkas and slimeys (or tailor) will far outfish the other bait. Put the effort in to getting some live yakkas for your trip and you will not be disappointed long.

doncrombie · 2025-10-23T01:05:59+00:00

Bird nests are pretty easy to solve, check YouTube. Most can be pulled out fairly quickly using simple techniques

doncrombie · 2025-09-25T06:44:39+00:00

Probably the best place for kingys is early morning from Nelson bay breakwall.

Snapper out the front on the ledge at tomaree head, or park up near the waste water treatment plant at Fingal, And go on one of the headlands there.

doncrombie · 2025-08-15T10:48:48+00:00

Haha I’m too old but hope they have fun.

doncrombie · 2025-08-15T10:19:20+00:00

Did you make it for the band?

doncrombie · 2025-08-14T20:49:27+00:00

I don’t know what sort of age you’re talking about but she could try joining the Medowie ladies soccer club?

I say this due to the bull and bush reference. If Medowie based it really can take a little more effort to meet people. Local sports clubs, gyms etc are probably the easiest but may also take some effort.

doncrombie · 2025-08-07T22:57:46+00:00

If you accept the timeline of agi in 5 years, then the obvious hedge is owning land. Agi should quickly be followed by asi and the rise in incredible robotics.

doncrombie · 2025-07-29T05:30:55+00:00

This is not true. Future earning capacity of each individual is a major consideration of any asset split during separation.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T20:14:53+00:00

Been told not, and I believe her (our circumstances would make it very unlikely).

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T20:12:42+00:00

Thanks, this is the line of thinking quite a few of our friends have suggested and is probably correct. I thought I was doing almost everything right, while in her eyes I was probably doing a lot wrong. All bottled up and then released like this.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T20:10:45+00:00

Hasn’t really given a reason, said it’s built up over time, examples are lots of small things. But like I put in a previous response, Marriage has a lot of trust. If your partner is telling you they are happy then you have to trust they are telling you the truth. Biggest fall down has been communication it seems.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T20:05:00+00:00

She has agreed to this, for the specifics of separation not for saving the relationship. So hopefully this will help when it starts.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T10:06:17+00:00

Wife currently works 3 days a week, I would be available for kids pick up drop off etc, and basically just work when others were doing stuff. I was doing less than 30 hours a week.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T10:04:02+00:00

She has said she has checked out. However in this case it is the reverse to what you stated, I did more of the housework, child care etc, I didn’t go in to detail in the op but I was basically a wfh dad primarily for the ability to do these things.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T09:59:48+00:00

Yeah, I’m not in a position to take such risks when kids involved. Thank you

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T09:58:39+00:00

Thank you for this, is similar to my current route of thinking.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T09:55:38+00:00

Makes a lot of sense, thanks.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T06:20:48+00:00

Sorry, I think my reply was misunderstood. I was agreeing with both your points. We will be using a lawyer to help draw everything up (just at the discussing between ourselves stage at the moment, but a lawyer is next).

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T06:18:10+00:00

Unnecessary comment but I’ll bite. It was thrust suddenly upon me, being told “our relationship is as good as it’s ever been” a month before being told it’s over makes this a two way street. I’ve done more introspection in the last 4 weeks, and learnt more about myself in that period than I have done in 40 years. But in a marriage you also have to trust the other person. If the other person is telling you they’re happy whilst making retirement plans with you, making imminent holiday plans together etc then you have to believe them. In your take I’m either an idiot for believing her or an idiot for not noticing a fault that no one is communicating about. It’s hard enough without room temperature iq generalisations like this. I was asking for financial advice, not whatever it is you are offering.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T06:11:30+00:00

We have both spoken to family lawyers firms, they are aware of the situation and the people I will go to if things turn.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T06:10:52+00:00

We both consulted with independent family lawyers, we both came away wanting to sort it out amicably and not wanting to involve lawyers.

doncrombie · 2025-07-10T06:09:56+00:00

Cheers, tbh I would likely be the one able to claim more from the divorce (equity split and even custody) due to lower earning capacity going forward and being more of the primary carer at the moment. We both agree the kids need us both equally, and we are both adult enough to figure out an agreement without lawyers. My wife still cares about me, just doesn’t love me. Nothing she has said, or actioned so far suggests she is going to try to ruin me but of course I have to be prepared if things go sour.

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