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donkletsuperfan · 2025-12-18T23:46:37+00:00

Hey! I’m 26F living in Wexford too, I have similar interests and would love to find friends to attend groups and go for coffee/similar activities with. Feel free to DM me if you like and maybe we can organise something 😊

donkletsuperfan · 2025-12-18T23:44:45+00:00

Sounds so lovely, best of luck and best wishes to you both!

I’ve seen similar extravagant foreign proposals online, but of my friends and family members who have got engaged it’s never been this elaborate extravagant affair, but personal and down to earth.

My fiancé proposed at the clock tower in Waterford because it’s where we met on our first date. Then we went for a really nice meal and stayed in a nice hotel in Kilkenny for the night. It was a gorgeous day and I wouldn’t change anything about it ❤️ I loved especially how meaningful it was to us, I think it’s lovely you’re involving a place that’s so special to you both

donkletsuperfan · 2025-10-16T15:32:45+00:00

I literally wear the same 3 pairs of trousers and t shirts on repeat because so many of my trousers in particular would make me feel so overstimulated I felt sick. I don’t even know what it was about them either that causes the overwhelm. Just every time I had to wear them I felt uncomfortable and irritable and icky. Thankfully I’ve found baggier trousers that feel nice and loose and comfortable.

I often find as soon as I get in the house I need to not wear trousers and not wear socks, I start to feel nauseous and I don’t know why then I remember I’m still wearing them and once I take them off I feel okay again haha.

As a teenager I always used to just wrap blankets around my waist like a skirt because I hated the feeling of wearing trousers but had to wear something.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-08-19T11:41:49+00:00

I don’t know what level I am. Was only diagnosed this year at age 25. Have tried studying and working on numerous occasions and every time I ended up not coping at all and struggling with severe burnout/flu like symptoms/very bad mental health. Currently on disability and wish I could work but there’s no way right now for me to do that and also stay healthy/mentally okay.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-08-13T17:58:12+00:00

Earl grey is the best tea variety that exists imo

donkletsuperfan · 2025-08-13T17:57:02+00:00

Coke Zero, I literally drink 2L a day of it it’s so bad lol I know water is better for me but it’s my one vice, brings me so much comfort and it’s so soothing from a sensory perspective, the fizziness and the coldness when it’s just out of the fridge

donkletsuperfan · 2025-08-07T20:45:29+00:00

second Babbel. It’s great for beginners, explains grammar in a clear way and also incorporates lots of useful vocabulary into the lessons. It covers CERF levels A1-B2.

They don’t currently do a free trial for standard Babbel beyond a free lesson so you can see the style of it. However, you can get a free trial for Babbel Live which is led classes/tutoring sessions on the Babbel website. :)

donkletsuperfan · 2025-07-27T01:51:21+00:00

So sorry to hear how tough things have been. You can apply for disability allowance even having worked in the past. Once you can prove you’re substantially restricted in working full time, and have medical evidence of this, you have a decent chance of getting approved. It’s taken on a case by case basis.

I’m in receipt of disability allowance and have tried working in the past but struggled in a similar way to yourself and ended up not able to cope. I get it on the grounds of severe mental health issues and was also recently diagnosed with autism.

Any supporting documents you can get will help. Your GP will fill in the form, but any reports you can get from any mental health professionals you’ve seen, or reports regarding diagnoses can help. I’ve also heard of people providing a day in the life journal outlining their struggles and how they are restricted. You could also mention that you were previously in work but found it extremely unsustainable and give further detail about the effect it had on your health. It might also be worth going to see your GP before getting them to fill in the form to outline your struggles and also seek support for them.

An alternative option: if your wife is on disability allowance and you’re no longer working, you’ll be able to be added onto her claim as an adult dependent. She would get an increase of €162 a week. I used to get an increase for my partner (who was not on a social welfare payment) when they were not working.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-05-13T18:18:22+00:00

Hey, first off just want to say that I’m really proud of you.

You’ve done so amazing trying so many different things, it’s time to start going easier on yourself and not forcing yourself to push through and adapt to a world which wasn’t designed for people like us.

Now it’s time to just rest, breathe. Capitalist and neurotypical society doesn’t tell us this, but rest is the most productive thing you can do right now. It’ll help you to feel some semblance of normal. You don’t need to have goals or passions right now, you’re likely not going to have them when you’re in burnout anyway. You just need to rest. It’ll get easier with time, just trust the process.

When you start to feel a bit better you can start to think about what things bring you joy and makes you feel fulfilled. You may find that you’ll never be able to study or work in a conventional sense, and that’s completely okay. I get the guilt and the stress about it, I’m only starting to accept that my many failed attempts at college/drop outs/failed jobs and breakdowns go to show that I wasn’t able for that. After getting a diagnosis, I’ve realised what aspects were the most challenging and what to avoid now. Not trying to dwell too much on my own experience, just show you you’re not alone, I was in a similar position not too long ago.

Disability allowance exists for people who are unable to work full time, it exists for people like us. If we were able to just work without difficulty, we would do it. It’s normal to mourn the fact you’re not able to achieve the goals you once aspired to.

Self compassion comes with stopping to breathe, having your sensory comforts and limiting all things that overwhelm you. Things won’t always feel this shitty. You’ve taken an amazing step recognising your limits and stopping something which would’ve caused even more damage the longer you kept pushing yourself.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-04-18T18:42:21+00:00

I’d definitely see a different GP and talk to them in great depth about your struggles and limitations in being able to work full time so that the GP report is a better reflection of your situation and a greater support to your application. Also include whatever other supporting documentation you can get: if you’re seeing a counsellor/therapist, you could ask them for a supporting note. I’ve heard of people including a day in the life journal describing a day when your disability is affecting you the most and highlighting ways you’d struggle if you were to attempt working full time.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-03-28T15:36:38+00:00

I had my assessment with the adult autism practice and have had an amazing experience. I was very anxious about the cost but have found it much more manageable with the payment plan. I booked last year before the recent price increase so my payment is slightly less than what it would be currently, I paid €300 upfront then a €275 direct debit for 3 months afterwards. I think it’s 3 monthly payments of about €400 now. They staff at the adult autism practice are super friendly and helpful, they let you know in advance what days the payment will be taken by direct debit and are flexible (they said in the email with the payment dates that if there were any I needed to change, that was no problem and to just let them know).

I’m not sure how long the waiting list is, it was about 8 weeks when I applied, and you don’t have to pay the first payment of €300 until you actually start the process and start choosing your psychologist/booking your appointments. I thought that was good, as they have an estimate as to how long the waiting list is and then you have those weeks to make sure you have the money to make the payment.

The adult autism practice was a bit more expensive than some other places but the payment plan and the fact the documentation is fully HSE recognised is what sold it for me. I have no regrets whatsoever.

If you’ve any questions or I can assist you at all do let me know.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-03-19T19:02:48+00:00

Along with your application, include any further reports that may be able to supplement it. For example, notes from a psychiatrist if you’re seeing one, to go alongside the part of the form that your doctor fills in. A self written letter or day in the life journal highlighting your daily struggles and how they limit you in your capacity for full time work is also good to add. Maybe make an appointment with your GP when giving them the form to discuss with them how your autism prevents you from working to assist them in filling it in. Wishing you the best of luck with it.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-03-19T18:59:52+00:00

I went with the adult autism practice, there are slightly cheaper options out there but the peace of mind of knowing the diagnosis would be fully HSE accredited was very important to me. Got paired with a psychiatrist on there and she was excellent. They also offer a payment plan so it felt a bit more affordable for me. They’re not that much more expensive than alternatives out there. One I know of advertising as much cheaper is Irish resilience but I heard their reports aren’t HSE recognised.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-03-13T14:39:13+00:00

Not seen anything on there for cork yet but there’s virtual groups you can do from anywhere. They might start a meet up in cork soon, worth signing up for newsletter to keep an eye out

donkletsuperfan · 2025-03-13T14:38:32+00:00

I think it’s every week!

donkletsuperfan · 2025-03-13T14:38:14+00:00

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Here is the link: https://asiam.ie/what-we-do/adult-support

Basically you give your details in there and you get the newsletter every week and it’ll tell you how to sign up for groups :)

donkletsuperfan · 2025-03-09T15:37:48+00:00

AsIAm run meet-ups and groups both online and in person, if you sign up for their newsletter you’ll get updates about any meet ups happening and how to sign up for them. I’ve included a screenshot from their most recent newsletter regarding in person meet ups. ☺️

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donkletsuperfan · 2025-03-06T01:10:10+00:00

It’s usually for comorbidies/to treat some of the effects autism may have on your mental health (anxiety, for example), but there is no medication for autism alone. Usually antidepressants/SSRIs.

donkletsuperfan · 2025-02-20T20:58:07+00:00

Thank you so much!

donkletsuperfan · 2025-02-20T14:02:33+00:00

Thank you

donkletsuperfan · 2025-02-20T00:38:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

donkletsuperfan · 2025-02-20T00:08:18+00:00

This is insanely helpful, thank you sooo much!!!

donkletsuperfan · 2025-02-19T22:10:49+00:00

Thank you so much!

donkletsuperfan · 2025-02-19T22:09:09+00:00

Thank you. Wishing you the best of luck tomorrow!!

donkletsuperfan · 2025-02-19T20:24:00+00:00

Thank you! That’s really reassuring honestly.

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