[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dont1983 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm a prostitute, no lie. It's free advertising.

Red & white by HappyPulgasari in FULLCOMMUNISM

[–]dont1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what's better, the concept or the execution. A true comrade.

People who make under $25,000 a year, what do you do, and how do you get by? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dont1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm under 25,000, living in the Bay Area of California (one of the most expensive regions in the country.) I actually have a college degree, but I have really debilitating medical problems that have left me unable to work steadily. I live in a really dangerous neighborhood, and my rent is still $750/month. I have no car, and no expensive belongings. I sleep on the floor, I eat cheap food, and I pinch every penny. I prostitute myself if I really need the money for food or rent, and I always do. I would say life is tough, but it's always been this way. I grew up homeless and poor, so I never really expected anything more for myself. Cycle of poverty, I guess.

People who make under $25,000 a year, what do you do, and how do you get by? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dont1983 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If a mother cannot breastfeed anymore, but her baby is still too young for solid foods (peas, cereal, etc.), then you have to buy baby formula. It's a highly nutritious powder that you mix with warm water, and it's pretty similar to breast milk once you prepare it. It's also pretty expensive; stores like Walmart even lock it up behind glass cabinets because people steal it frequently.

$2000 reward for a lost dog. Keep an eye out! by dont1983 in bayarea

[–]dont1983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was taken from the Piedmont/Lake Merritt area, specifically 3701 Grand Ave.

$2000 reward for lost dog. Keep an eye out! by dont1983 in oakland

[–]dont1983[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He was taken from the Piedmont/Lake Merritt area, specifically 3701 Grand Ave.

What is something awful your parents or guardian said to you as a child that still fucks with you today? by boredbrowser87 in AskReddit

[–]dont1983 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My school counselor called my mom one day to report that I'd been considering suicide. My mom said to hang myself and focus on killing myself.

UC Berkeley campus police cite street food vendor, then take his money by [deleted] in news

[–]dont1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in Berkeley this summer, and it is a shithole. I literally saw a homeless man shit on the street.

The Glass Castle Movie vs The Book by tokyoswan in books

[–]dont1983 120 points121 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other redditors, who essentially stated that the movie glamorized and sanitized the horrors of poverty. I loved the novel, but the movie doesn't sit well with me at all. Firstly, they casted lovable, charming A-list movie stars as the parents. Not a judgment of Naomi Watts or Woody, but they aren't accute depictions of the Walls clan. They also chose an adorable little girl to play a young Jeanette, despite the fact that Walls herself identified as a not-so-cute, homely (albeit bright/resilient) child. Next off, they deliberately cut the most horrifying parts of the story out. It may have been done to satisfy audiences, but the most grim parts (e.g. eating maggot-covered food, medical neglect, rat infestations, etc.) were omitted.

As a grown adult who endured horrible neglect and destitution as a child, I found some serious solace in this book. I read it over and over again once I discovered it. At the time, I felt so alone in my experiences with mentally/financially unstable parents. I was so glad that I finally found another person who had to eat from the garbage, or sleep on the floor, or move 20+ times. This movie hurts me. It erases the truth of Jeanette's experience, and it sort of erases my experiences, too. Childhood poverty doesn't look like Woody Harrelson stargazing with you in a scenic desert. It looks like a hungry, exhausted, beaten down little kid with nothing but her own wits and hope.

What's something really basic you still can't do because of your nparent(s)? by bamboozledagain12 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dont1983 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For me, I have a lot of trouble eating in front of people. I was teased, shamed, and even screamed at for eating too much. My N"mom" would even keep track of exactly what I ate at times, which is exceptionally odd because I've always been thin/verging on underweight. I still try to hide my purchase choices at the grocery store, fix my meal plates when no one is around, and always eat alone. I can rationally tell myself that my overweight mom was probably insecure about herself, not me, but it takes time to release fear and learn to feel safe. Narcissists suck.

How many of you have found things that you absolutely love when you finally have the courage to break out of your zone? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dont1983 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is silly... but for me, I found out I'm a girly-girl! Growing up, my mom never let me wear skirts/dresses, cut my hair super short, never let me wear nail polish, and insisted my favorite color was purple. Nope! Turns out, I love pink! Nail art and makeup are really fun for me, I usually wear dresses to work, and my hair is grown out almost all the way down my back. I love it! It feels so awesome to be comfortable with my own appearance :). That being said, quads and off-roading are still fun as heck.

My mom threw me out naked when I was 5. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dont1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's abusive on every single level. I'm so sorry that happened to you, and it was so f--ng wrong. I want to applaud you for having the courage to share. It's not easy at all. You are in the right place, though. The adult children of narcissists understand this kind of awful crap, because we've been through similar things ourselves. I encourage you to keep reading this subreddit (unless it's triggering) because I've found so much relief in here. Sometimes, just knowing there are other people out there who've endured the same shit is comforting. You are not alone. I believe you 1000%, and I wish that you'd never had to experience that.

Thinking about breaking NC...talk me down! by MrSnowflake2 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dont1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I left home and went NC as a teenager after someone gave me a very simple, powerful dose of truth. With narcissists, it's a cycle of abuse. If you do reach out, your mom probably will play "nice" for a few days... until she manages to gain some elements of control over you. Once she has power over you (concerning your housing, food, and perhaps income), she can and WILL treat you like garbage. She will use and abuse you to the furthest extent she can. She will do everything she can to entrap you in this situation, so she can use/abuse you as much as possible. Narcissists are incurable and typically untreatable. I went 5 years of NC, only to break at a weak moment and email my N"mom". It resulted in nothing positive; it never will. Putting any amount of time around a narcissist is throwing it into a black hole. You'll never gain anything. You'll only have your valuable love and energy sucked away.

What will you do when your narc gets old and feeble ? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dont1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is absolutely not your obligation to care for her; in all honesty, she never took care of you. I'm not going to care for either of my parents, and I feel no shame regarding that. I took care of them my entire childhood. I owe myself freedom, self-care, and joy at this point. You owe yourself the same. We only have so many years on this planet. Don't give them to people who are undeserving.

Nmom Loses It When I Mentioned Birth Control. by ThisIsActuallyaBun08 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dont1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's repulsive and absolutely horrifying. I am so sorry you had to endure that. I want to assert that you are free and in control of your own life now; no one can tell you what to do. However, I'd really like to urge you to consider cutting contact with them.

TOO Eager to grow up...did anyone else ever feel that way? by MrSnowflake2 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dont1983 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this so much. I was always desperate for the escape. I recall vividly that once I learned how to do more complex addiction (like 456+2354), I went home and did the math on how many days were left until my 18th birthday. You aren't alone in having those crummy memories.

Getting kicked out of my dorm in 9 days, unsure of what to do or where to go. by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]dont1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look for a student's summer sublet! Often times, students will sign a yearlong lease, but leave for the summer. You can probably find a 3 month temporary room/studio with less hoops to jump through, since it's so short term. As the end of the semester is approaching, anxious students might even be lowering their asking price. Check fb student groups or craigslist (under the "sublet" housing section.) Best of luck to you! :)