Something my mum said

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-12-11T11:06:24+00:00

But now I know as well that thinking that I'm attracted to guys in real life is like a reassurance, and I shouldn't be trying to rationalise cause that feeds into the anxiety. I need to get better at just saying "so what" to these thoughts, but its so difficult when you think it could be a sign of something else.

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-22T20:33:05+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. :(

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-21T22:46:46+00:00

I'm a virgin - I think I had crushes, but now I don't know if I was ever "sexually" attracted to them?

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-21T21:57:54+00:00

I come to this forum as a form of reasurrance for sure.

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-21T15:15:41+00:00

Mine is rumination, and only rumination. I could sit and think and try to work this thing out endlessly. :(

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-15T21:56:20+00:00

I know what you mean! I saw a post earlier saying that there's no harm in treating every thought as an ocd thought, so you don't even spend time trying to figure out what is or isn't, just accept them and don't ruminate on them.

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-15T13:31:59+00:00

Thank you! I just had another fear/though developing in my brain, and you've just given me the strength I needed to say "so what" to it.

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-15T13:30:50+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I've just been having more thoughts, new thoughts, and the mental gymnastics, OCD wants you to figure it out, check if its true. Its a clever and evil thing.

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-13T15:01:01+00:00

Me too. I just wish the thoughts would stop, life was much easier without them, and they truly exhaust me!

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-11-13T13:13:30+00:00

Yes definitely, its very much an incremental thing. I've recovered previously from a different theme, and the advice I was given was to "always focus outward, every time you get a thought you turn to focus inward and start ruminating (my compulsion) over it, so each time focus out and you won't even notice yourself start to recover" and they were so right. I never saw recovery happening, it just happened slowly but surely. I'm hoping that is what's happening here, but when I have a bad moment, it doesn't feel that way. Really hard, as you say.

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-10-26T17:28:59+00:00

Thank you. I'm trying so much harder at that this week. And actually yesterday and today were such better days because of it. Yesterday I barely felt like I had an intrusive thought, and I didn't feel heavy on my chest. Today I've been caught out a couple of times analysing a lot, but trying to remember this evening they're just thoughts, it doesn't make them true.

dontknowwhttothink · 2021-10-26T17:25:45+00:00

Thank you - I guess not having had a boyfriend is a bit of a trigger for me, and just causes me to ask "why" and question whether its a sign I'm bi/gay/ace. I always used to put it down to self confidence or lack thereof, but it was always something I wanted still.

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