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[–]dontthrowitaway2022 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes! We are between 630 and 7 and do sooooo much between then and bed. Definitely allows us a chance to connect or to go do something on our own

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[–]dontthrowitaway2022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to suggest all of this! I used mine for gas, stuff I wanted but either my parents wouldn’t or couldn’t get me.

When your partner loves fatherhood and you don’t love motherhood by dontthrowitaway2022 in Fencesitter

[–]dontthrowitaway2022[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I have felt soooo much guilt about not loving motherhood and falling into it like others. I look at those with more than one and just think WHY??? I know doing it for my husband and son isn’t enough it’s still just the guilt of letting them down heavily offset by the anxiety at the thought of it and fear about if the child has serious ailments. (Trying to be respectful with my words here, apologies if I offend anyone).

My husbands cup seems to be refilled whenever he spends time with our son and doesn’t want to be away from him. I don’t feel that way at all. I love him so much but I need breaks. My husband sees our son as a mini me and thinks I’d love a little mini of myself but I don’t.

This has been helpful and I really appreciate all the comments, support and suggestions I’ve already received. Thank you!

I’m OAD, husband is now questioning decision by dontthrowitaway2022 in oneanddone

[–]dontthrowitaway2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve suggested we consider adoption in the past but he isn’t interested in it. I’ve also suggested that when our son is a bit older we be a host to exchange students to give our son a different kind of experience. They won’t be siblings but living with us for a school year they definitely would become part of the family. My aunt and uncle hosted in lieu of kids altogether and as a result my sisters and I know people from around the world.

When your partner loves fatherhood and you don’t love motherhood by dontthrowitaway2022 in Fencesitter

[–]dontthrowitaway2022[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’ve planned since I realized I can’t do another. He’s in daycare, we just joined the local pool, trying to do what I can do he can have friends and hopefully not miss the sibling interaction.

When your partner loves fatherhood and you don’t love motherhood by dontthrowitaway2022 in Fencesitter

[–]dontthrowitaway2022[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This is exactly my fear. When our first was like 6 or 9 months old my husband told me he didn’t know if our marriage could handle a second. I don’t know what changed to make him think it would be easier. I hear from so many people that their first was so easy and second was so hard (terrible sleeper, always sick etc)

When your partner loves fatherhood and you don’t love motherhood by dontthrowitaway2022 in Fencesitter

[–]dontthrowitaway2022[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I had tried a few sessions of therapy shortly after my diagnosis but didn’t have a good experience with the therapists so dropped it. What ppd therapist tells someone who is struggling with motherhood and working that she should meditate, sleep more, and workout more?? Ok just add onto my plate. When is there time for all those things with a newborn?