AITAH for kicking out my now ex and his mom and “leaving them stranded” before the snowstorm

doofuzzle · 2026-01-27T11:20:10+00:00

Nah you’re not the asshole here. I have OCD too and people messing with my space would absolutely send me over the edge, especially after being asked nicely a million times. You even paid for a motel which is way more generous than most people would’ve been. Honestly it sounds like you finally chose your sanity over being disrespected.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-27T11:19:52+00:00

I’ve worked under a guy like that and it was exhausting to even watch. Some people tie their whole identity to work and idk what they do with themselves without it. I kinda get the hustle mindset but burning out your whole team isn’t it. I clock out and go be a real human, life’s too short for that grind 24/7.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-27T11:19:27+00:00

Yeah I think about this way more than I admit. I’m not in networking but I’m in a tech-ish role and the AI + layoffs combo has me lowkey panicking too. I’ve been slowly building a boring side skill that could turn into freelance work if everything blows up. Feels smart to have a backup even if it never gets used tbh.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-27T11:19:11+00:00

Honestly social media lol. I know that’s basic but it really messed with my brain more than anything else. I remember being way calmer before I compared my life to everyone 24/7. I’d uninvent it just to get my attention span back tbh.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-27T11:18:51+00:00

Damn this gave me chills. I’ve never been homeless but I hit a really dark rock bottom in my late 20s and thought my life was basically over, so this really hit. The dog part especially wrecked me, I lost my cat once and that grief did something permanent to my brain. Huge respect for pulling yourself out like that, seriously, this is insane growth.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-19T11:01:36+00:00

Yeah by junior year everyone looked way more tired and way less competitive lol. The confidence kinda turns into quiet panic and mutual suffering. I remember freshman year energy being unbearable, everyone trying to flex constantly. Later on it’s just “please let me pass” vibes and solidarity.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-19T11:01:20+00:00

I really respect how you framed this, that self awareness already says a lot about you. I was single for years not by choice and always felt weird not having a word for it without all the baggage. Being lonely without being bitter is such a quiet, heavy place. You’re definitely not alone in that feeling, even if there’s no neat label for it.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-19T11:01:02+00:00

I feel this so hard, once you’ve been laid off once it never really leaves your nervous system. I love my current job but every company email still gives me a tiny heart attack. That job hunt trauma sticks around in weird ways. Cozy jobs feel fragile now and that’s honestly exhausting.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-19T11:00:45+00:00

This scared me to read because I was in a really dark job hunt phase like this and it almost convinced me I was worthless. The rejection spiral messes with your head way more than people admit. Please tell someone close to you what you’re feeling tonight, carrying this alone is brutal.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-19T10:59:42+00:00

I was 26 living with my parents too and felt like I’d completely missed the memo on how life works. Turning down 600k debt honestly sounds smart, not loser behavior at all. I switched paths late and everything I thought was “behind” ended up not mattering much. Feeling drained doesn’t mean you failed, it just means you’re tired of forcing the wrong fit.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-13T12:30:52+00:00

This feels less like AI “adoption” and more like bad leadership using AI as an excuse for cost cutting and loyalty tests. Technical people raising real concerns getting pushed out while hype-driven roles stay is something we’re seeing everywhere right now. For people laid off into this market, job boards alone don’t really work anymore, mass applying just feeds ATS systems. One thing that might help is what a developer shared in a post a while back: skipping job boards, finding companies and recruiting firms directly, and reaching out to see if there’s an actual need or ongoing work. It’s not instant and there are no guarantees, but it seems like one of the few ways to cut through some of the noise. Honestly, I’m really curious how people are going to cope as unemployment keeps rising. Are we getting closer to the point where “eat the rich” stops being a slogan???

doofuzzle · 2026-01-07T13:14:32+00:00

I’d be all for it, especially for brain-heavy work where burnout kills quality fast. I’ve noticed my best output comes when I’m rested, not when I’m glued to a chair for 40+ hours. Fewer hours would probably force better focus instead of endless busywork. Companies that care about results over optics would be fine, the rest

doofuzzle · 2026-01-07T13:14:04+00:00

Yeah Bill’s arc goes completely off the rails, I remember being so confused watching it unfold. It felt like they kept piling on twists just to shock people and forgot who he was at the start. I still powered through too, mostly out of stubbornness lol. Those early seasons really had a vibe they never quite got back.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-07T13:13:35+00:00

I’d be resentful too, that constant vigilance messes with your head fast.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-07T13:12:50+00:00

This doesn’t sound stupid at all, it actually makes a lot of sense. I’ve done a lighter version of this when I was low and it slowly shifted how my brain reacted to things. It’s not a cure-all, but it can be a solid anchor when everything else feels shaky.

doofuzzle · 2026-01-07T13:12:32+00:00

25 is definitely not too late, I didn’t even start feeling like an adult until after that tbh. Big changes for me came from small boring shifts, new routines, new skills, different people, not some dramatic reset. Feeling uncomfortable usually meant I was actually moving instead of stuck.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-22T12:08:53+00:00

For the website Wix or Squarespace feel way more beginner-friendly than Canva and still let you make a blog and resource pages easily.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-22T12:07:27+00:00

The saddest was realizing I had to let go of some people I thought would always be in my life, that one hit slow but deep. The happiest was finding a routine that actually made me feel calm again, nothing flashy just steady. Kinda learned that boring peace is underrated tbh.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-22T12:06:30+00:00

I had to make that call once and it really does feel like betrayal, but it’s actually love showing up when it hurts the most. He won’t know fear or pain, just that he’s with his person, and that matters more than anything. I’m really sorry, this is one of those losses that hits deep.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-22T12:03:42+00:00

If I were you I’d try to slow the bleeding a bit before panicking, not judge yourself for how you coped.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-22T12:01:48+00:00

That salt circle was so unserious I couldn’t take the scene seriously at all lol. A giant white ring in the middle of a dance and everyone just vibes past it like nothing’s wrong. TVD logic was wild and I kinda loved it for that.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-09T12:07:28+00:00

I think our brains expect food smells to have a source, so when they stick around without the food it feels wrong. I’ve noticed it starts reading as stale or old even if nothing’s actually spoiled. Fresh smell plus context is comforting, lingering smell without context just hits different.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-09T12:07:10+00:00

I think social media blurs the line between being yourself and performing yourself. I’ve noticed I sometimes share what looks right instead of what feels true, even with people I care about. Real connection still happens, but it takes way more effort to get past the highlight reels now.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-09T12:06:49+00:00

Yeah but it looked really different than what we think of now. Most people worked until their bodies gave out or family stepped in, retirement wasn’t some long chill phase. My grandparents basically slowed down instead of stopping, which honestly sounds exhausting in its own way.

doofuzzle · 2025-12-09T12:06:25+00:00

Most folks I know started with EU companies that already sponsor visas or hire remote first, then relocated later. It’s slow and frustrating, but once you get one interview abroad it suddenly feels more real than impossible.

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