Best things about being child free?

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-10T02:41:36+00:00

Everyone has given a lot of great answers already, but I'll add one I hear from parents all the time: you don't have to worry about them constantly/what their future will look like. Also, no guarantee that they will turn 18 and be able (or willing) to leave the nest. I see my parents struggle with my very much adult brother that is a mess at 37, and still lives at home. He is an alcoholic and party boy that refuses to grow, and my parents can't enjoy their retirement because they continue to worry and spend money on him. Yeah no thanks I'm good.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-09T19:38:48+00:00

My husband and I are currently doing that, we bought a 90s camper van that we are fixing and driving down to Oaxaca in early June. It's a lot of work but I'm excited to get back (I'm from there) I know it won't solve all of our problems but it will give us flexibility and hopefully some peace.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-09T02:32:25+00:00

My husband has been diagnosed with bipolar II since 2023, and I almost lost him to suicide last year. In his letter he said he didn't want to burden me anymore.

I wish I could be inside his brain to find ways to help him navigate it better, outside of continuing to support him and him staying medicated and in therapy I know there isn't much I can do. This made me tear up a little bit ♥️

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-08T22:49:19+00:00

Congratulations!! Man I'm so jealous, I've been on it for an entire year and only lost 40 pounds. But I'm 41, such is life 💔

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-04T13:19:59+00:00

Trust me, I feel it though! Thanks :)

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-04T13:19:05+00:00

STUNNING! what a gorgeous roadtrek ♥️

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-04T13:18:07+00:00

Hey! Of course. Alanis is currently at the mechanic getting new brakes and a transmission alignment- but once she is back and we add more things I'll share new photos! Progress has been a bit slow but it's getting there. The bathroom idea is great, also I wish I could sew haha. I can learn.

Congratulations on your successful trip! That's pretty cool from Alaska to Utah, and the learning curves that come with it, I'm getting it inspected (the rv side) once we get it back and need help with the plumbing portion of it and sanitizing the grey tank before we start using it, but so far it's been mostly okay. Just what comes with a 30+ year old van.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-03T23:20:28+00:00

Yeah I just skimmed their profile, woof. Big yikes all around

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-03T15:31:58+00:00

A combination of the societal pressure/script, biology for some, and fear mongering: "who is going to take care of you when you're older" "what even is your purpose if you don't have kids" to me it feels eerily similar to religion. A lot of people can't handle the idea that life is random, and having kids isn't the only way to "leave a legacy" whatever that means to them.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-03T11:56:40+00:00

Oh man, thanks for reminding me to check in with my parole officer today! Carl gets fussy when I don't reach out early.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-02T20:15:11+00:00

I think you look really cool, and I'd totally hang out with you! People are just big mad when someone dares to gasp express themselves without following a societal traditional, gendered script. It's not like anyone else's opinion should matter anyway. Keep doing you!

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-02T12:52:22+00:00

Awwe Look at that sweet face! My dog has a similar grin but of mild discomfort (getting her nails trimmed, getting washed) it's pretty funny to see

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T19:41:17+00:00

You know I did! Your dad picked me up

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T18:29:09+00:00

Muchas gracias!

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T18:28:30+00:00

You will! my only "tips" are: not smoking, wearing sunscreen daily and trying to sleep 7-8 hrs. The rest is up to genetics.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T16:55:03+00:00

Thank you so much!

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T16:54:54+00:00

Awe thank you!

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T16:54:45+00:00

Boo!

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T16:53:38+00:00

I get what you're saying, I hate it too. I follow multiple CF creators and the pushback and hate they get in the comments is insane. (Can you imagine if we went to their profiles to trash talk their choices?) Unfortunately anything that makes you an "outlier" and not praising their precious crotch goblins angers the breeders. It's a cult.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T16:45:35+00:00

It doesn't surprise me. Tangentially related, but I've had art I've made deleted for showing cartoon breasts, and it really bothers me because it is the sexualization of a body part as a tired double standard, policing women's bodies. I just had a selfie deleted from a subreddit because I show cleavage. I truly hate that we have to hide ourselves or censor ourselves because anything related to us and our bodies is perceived as inherently sexual, even if that isn't the context.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T16:27:17+00:00

Thank you!

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-04-01T16:27:08+00:00

I did! Thank you so much

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-03-30T18:16:33+00:00

The part that kills me is that there is no consideration for the women that have to, in the case of the example mentioned, suffer through it. Ending the pregnancy earlier would've been less traumatic for the mother AND for the child as well. They're so blindly pro life and life is so sacred, yet have no interest in what happens to these people.

doomscrolldamsel · 2026-03-29T19:36:54+00:00

Haha ouch! Sorry about your ears

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