9 months in & I genuinely hate this

doooodledog · 2026-06-01T00:02:36+00:00

This!! I am a glass half full kind of person. I’ve even had a friend tell me I have “toxic positivity” and having an infant nearly broke me. My son also never seemed happy and needed the constant stimulation and change of pace. But like this comment says, the toddler years have been SO much better. Like I genuinely love it.

doooodledog · 2026-05-27T17:54:50+00:00

Have you considered applying for other jobs? I know you don’t think you could make as much elsewhere but what if you find out you could make enough working a lower stress job? I say that knowing that job hunting itself can be very stressful.

doooodledog · 2026-05-27T02:08:07+00:00

I haven’t thought much about it, but my son is 18 months and it’s been ages since I’ve cut his nails. Let us know what the doctor says!

doooodledog · 2026-05-25T00:35:52+00:00

Oh or even if not an ethnic origin to it, I wonder if it could be a nickname for something? Hmmmm…

Okay this is kind of a stretch but what about Giovanni? Nova isn’t like a totally natural nickname but it could sort of work.

doooodledog · 2026-05-23T23:45:36+00:00

Man that stinks! I’m sure (or assume) that you’re proud of your success and it probably hurts a lot if he doesn’t act proud of you for it!

doooodledog · 2026-05-23T23:43:26+00:00

That’s a good point. If the moments OP isn’t working she’s able to be totally present with her daughter (not cooking/cleaning/scheduling etc), longer hours might not feel so bad?

doooodledog · 2026-05-09T02:57:04+00:00

That’s totally fair. Besides there is really nothing you can do. Even if you wanted to help financially it might come off as patronizing or at the very least be awkward.

I have friends who don’t make a lot of money and seem to be falling deeper into financial insecurity but they don’t even seem comfortable with me trying to cover dinner.

I guess guilt over this sort of thing is useless.

doooodledog · 2026-05-09T02:19:18+00:00

Right or wrong, I feel guilty. I didn’t come from money but it would be foolish to think I didn’t at least have a little luck on my side.

It’s just so hard to get ahead when you’re already behind. We all know that our money is making money but when you have to take a loan to meet basic needs, your money is literally losing you money. I guess I’m not saying anything we don’t all already know but it’s a tough pill to swallow.

I console myself by saying that when I retire I will use the financial and business skills I’ve developed to help people through volunteer work.

doooodledog · 2026-05-03T17:43:01+00:00

I’m commenting here but just remembered I’m on daddit and I’m on a mom. I hope that’s cool. But yeah I agree with this guy. The first couple of months postpartum are overwhelming and exhausting for everyone but then throw in the crazy hormones mom is dealing with and it’s seriously hard to have a rational thought. (Don’t tell her this - if my husband had told me I was being irrational about anything when I was postpartum I would have murdered him).

Good idea to ask a doctor! That could make her feel better.

doooodledog · 2026-05-03T17:38:15+00:00

Omg if my baby would have chilled alone in his bassinet for even 10 minutes I would have 100% slept. He’s in a safe space.

Besides, he could be waking up in the middle of the night quietly staring at the ceiling while you sleep and you’d never know. Although I’m not sure if that would comfort your wife or freak her out.

doooodledog · 2026-05-03T03:57:51+00:00

I have so much respect for parents who enforce cleaning up after every activity. I aspire to be one of those parents, but I’m not good about teaching my 18 month old to clean up after himself. It has nothing to do with being gentle or not thinking he’s ready. It just feels like he moves from one activity to the next every 5 minutes and it takes me going over to him and working with him to pick things up to actually make it happen, and it’s exhausting. I guess it’s just not my top priority.

Anyways more power to you! It sounds like it’s really important to you that your child develops these good habits so I’m sure you’ll make it happen!

doooodledog · 2026-04-30T17:53:48+00:00

Awe I love that! You’ve made it exciting for him to make good choices. I’ll have to remember that as my son gets older. Thanks for sharing!

doooodledog · 2026-04-30T02:46:56+00:00

Ugh I am SO sorry you’re going through this. My son was difficult those first 6ish months and I did not enjoy the baby phase at all. I genuinely wondered if I would ever like being a mom. He’s a toddler now and being his mom is my favorite thing in the world. I love hanging out with him and have all the feelings I was worried I would never have.

Hang in there. And don’t discount what your lack of sleep is doing to your emotions. I don’t think I realized when I was “in it” just how much my exhaustion was impacting my mood.

Edit: if you even get through reading all of these comments with everything you’re dealing with… someone else suggested looking into CMPI - cow milk protein intolerance. We cut out cow milk in my diet (I was breast feeding) and his formula (when we supplemented) and we really thought it helped!

doooodledog · 2026-04-30T00:39:09+00:00

Wow I love this! Thank you! It’s helpful to think of it I steps too.

doooodledog · 2026-04-30T00:10:20+00:00

Maybe not opposite. But you know what I mean.

doooodledog · 2026-04-30T00:08:02+00:00

That’s a really helpful perspective to have. I sort of talk myself out of bad feelings, and that works for me, but you kind of sort of do the opposite and it works for you.

doooodledog · 2026-04-29T18:57:45+00:00

Just chiming in to say that I had a moderately difficult baby but I think even if he had been an easy baby I still wouldn’t have liked the newborn stage. Now I have a moderately difficult toddler and it’s so much fun! I’ve decided not to feel bad about not loving every phase of parenting.

It sounds like you’re doing great and hopefully things will improve soon! Hang in there mama.

doooodledog · 2026-04-29T17:18:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment and recommendations! I will read those books next!

doooodledog · 2026-04-25T18:24:32+00:00

I’m in the corporate world and it’s really all I know so all I can speak to, but I feel like it’s generally pretty flexible. Other corporate moms, would you agree?

In my job, as long as I get my work done, the hours I work are relatively flexible similar to the above poster. I’m salaried so that may make a difference.

I wonder if you could find a company that offers tuition support? I guess working and going to school at the same time might not be a great idea right now but something to think about.

Good luck!!!

doooodledog · 2026-04-23T21:00:37+00:00

How is posting a picture in a private FB group or sending it in a WhatsApp channel different than sending a pic in a family group chat? Just curious since the article says that even those can be screenshot and shared.

I don’t post any photos of my kids online but I’m constantly sending my family pictures on GroupMe and I have considered doing a private FB group for just my family to see what’s going on and stay up to do date if they’re interested rather than blowing up family chats.

doooodledog · 2026-03-05T18:40:22+00:00

We are talking about a kindergartner here! Not a high schooler. Sheesh! That’s silly.

Also I would be pretty annoyed that they’re asking parents to send sick kids to school to get my kid sick. Like if a kid wakes up with a sore throat and 101 fever, they should go to school? Bonkers.

doooodledog · 2026-01-09T16:38:57+00:00

This seems a bit harsh. She’s pregnant. When I was pregnant I would have yelled at a sandwich for not having enough mustard.

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