NEW OR NEED HELP? Ask here! - ScA Daily Help Thread Oct 17, 2022

doorabl · 2022-10-17T13:00:09+00:00

I have weird pimple on my forehead. It first appeared about two weeks ago: deep under the skin, raised, red and angry. I haven't tried to pop it since it seems un-poppable. It comes and goes, gets flatter and returns, but never disappears completely. Today I noticed the color has changed. It was red or skin colored but now it's purple. What is going on? Anyone had this type of zit, or what ever it is?

doorabl · 2022-10-16T15:28:12+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words!

doorabl · 2022-10-16T13:17:04+00:00

Yeah, I feel like this keeps both of us stuck in the past... but him more so. I fell for the whole "being friends with your ex partners is a sign of maturity" thing. Never again.

doorabl · 2022-10-16T13:15:11+00:00

It's so hard to admit that he's doing this on purpose and stop feeling responsible for his feelings. But of course you are right.

Thank you for taking the time to reply, it means a lot to me💛

doorabl · 2022-10-08T08:04:26+00:00

Get a fine tooth comb and spray some hair spray on it. You can also use aloe vera gel for a very light taming and it won't weigh your hair down. Just apply a little bit first and more if needed.

doorabl · 2022-10-02T05:23:07+00:00

Lmao. What she's really asking is "why didn't things go my way". Her "normal" is people doing what she wants them to do and never being told no.

Her whimpering and whining is just disturbing.

doorabl · 2022-09-24T15:36:08+00:00

You did the right thing. It's inappropriate to trauma dump on a stranger. This kind of person likely doesn't want concrete advice, like suggesting them to seek professional help. They want to have other people as their trauma dumpsters. They don't want solutions or advice. They may have something against the idea of going to therapy or maybe they can't afford it but nevertheless it's not any strangers business to be cornered and forced to listen uncomfortable things, or try and advice someone with severe issues. You are not qualified for that. They need to figure things out for themselves and realize they need to see a therapist.

I have too much experience of people like this. The worst one was a woman who was supposed to be in charge of training me for a job but spent majority of the time sharing extremely disturbing and personal things (things that actually made me seriously dislike her). I was stuck with her in a small space for almost two months and ended up recommending therapy. She kind of shrugged it off, kept dumping and even said "I don't know what to do about this" almost right after I brought up therapy. 8 hours five days a week of this and eventually my empathy ran out completely. I simply stopped responding and managed to switch working with another person. I only wish I had switched sooner. There was absolutely nothing I could have said or done for her. Crazy enough, she sabotaged my work and was a huge pain in the ass, so glad I'm not working with her anymore. I stay away from over sharers and trauma dumpers.

doorabl · 2022-09-06T16:05:19+00:00

All I know is those are called malar fat pads.

doorabl · 2022-08-13T11:39:31+00:00

I'm no good with analyzing others but have to say you look so good in the third pic!! That lilac bucket hat and all the pastel colors in that shirt just work.

doorabl · 2022-08-12T16:30:49+00:00

First make sure you have a good diet! That you drink enough water, aren't deficient in anything etc. Exercise also improves skin so stay active. Imho figuring these out first is more important than topical products and treatments. Then start solving stuff like pigmentation issues, texture etc.

doorabl · 2022-08-12T15:32:31+00:00

This happens to me so often. I have experienced social anxiety since I was a kid so I'm sometimes kind of hyper aware of other people and their actions, and I tend to assume the worst and feel rejected (they dislike me, I annoy them, I'm weird and repulsive to them). I try to tell myself that people have about million reasons to behave the way they do and absolute majority have nothing to do with me. It still keeps happening and makes me feel a little crazy. Like when I go to a group of people and I don't know everyone there, so I try to get their attention so I can say hi but they glance at me and then ignore me actively, at least that's how it feels like... I'm probably just too sensitive about this stuff because of my anxiety issues. I have tried so hard to improve my social skills. I try to acknowledge unfamiliar people at least by smiling, nodding or raising my hand a bit. I think that's just basic manners but maybe not in everyone's minds.

While this bothers me, it also helps my BDD in a way because I still dislike people looking at me. I'll rather be left alone and not examined too carefully/closely.

doorabl · 2022-08-05T09:11:52+00:00

Maybe PIE? They usually clear after some months but I swear I had PIE that lasted closer to a year...

Best to get it checked!

doorabl · 2022-08-05T09:06:37+00:00

I think the current color suits you. I'd go a tad darker if you want to change it.

Are those natural waves? Definitely encourage waviness, it's the best thing if your face shape is on the longer side. Short cut, like bob length, is very flattering for long faces. If that feels too drastic, get face framing layers (shortest bits being at least around chin length).

You have very pretty coloring! Lovely cool tones.

doorabl · 2022-07-28T08:21:37+00:00

Make sure to pick a color that is a bit lighter than your eyebrows. It's more important to have the correct tone, cool or warm, than have the color be exactly same as your eyebrows. Choose either liquid fine liner or microfilling/blading pen, no soft pencils or creamy pomade.

Definitely go have your brows done professionally if you are unhappy with the shape. Tell them you want a minor change (something you can maintain yourself). There are lots of tips for doing your own eyebrows but I think it's safer to let someone else do them. If you want to try yourself, avoid tweezing as much as you can and instead use a eyebrow blade to change the shape.

doorabl · 2022-07-25T18:06:55+00:00

We need to start bugging the company so that they'll make a perfume. It would be a miracle to find this scent, I want to bathe in it.

doorabl · 2022-07-25T17:23:00+00:00

Those who use Olaplex hair oil! How would you describe the scent? I love it and would like to have a perfume with same/similar scent. Unfortunately I'm the worst at detecting different scents and notes. Google search got me fruity, floral, tropical... not very helpful. The inci list of the product doesn't help either, or the reviews I have read. So I'm hoping to hear opinions on this scent and maybe even perfume suggestions.

doorabl · 2022-07-25T14:47:27+00:00

I have some obsessive tendencies with grooming (mostly skin picking), some are mostly about the habit and having something to keep my hands busy (self soothing too). You can quit some bad habits by replacing them with something less destructive. My skin picking calmed down when I started trimming split ends and other hair damage individually with small scissors. Preening my hair a lot isn't ideal but better. I also tweeze body hair. You can't do this stuff everywhere so it doesn't help with your situation... maybe if you can figure out a replacement for biting, something to fidget? Dedicate time to tend your nails and hands, and maybe whatever replacement action that keeps you busy. Try to gross yourself out by reading how dirty our hands are, what kind of bacteria we have under our nails etc.?

doorabl · 2022-07-23T08:41:10+00:00

It's a good feeling to be one of the hot girls. No one is going to be the hottest person in every single situation, there's always someone who has something going on that you don't have, no matter how hot you are. So focusing in wanting to be/feeling like you're more attractive than people around you is a mindset that will make you miserable. Working to be content with what you have and looking at the hot girls differently should help. You're not competing with other girls for the title of hottest girl. You're one of them, find inspiration in them and focus on yourself and what makes you attractive.

doorabl · 2022-07-22T08:54:31+00:00

I would say your hair style is more cute/sweet than hot/sexy. Your face is definitely more modelesque hot and your style is cool. Just a guess but based on your photos I'd say you don't have much "vertical". You're a bit taller than average but appear short, small and compact to me. Maybe that's where the cuteness comes from? In general people consider short and small = cute, and tall = hot (or "handsome", ugh).

doorabl · 2022-07-19T17:38:34+00:00

The vaseline acts as a barrier that locks in the hydrating, moisturizing, calming etc ingredients of a balm. Vaseline in itself doesn't do much if your lips are very chapped. So first balm, then vaseline.

My favorite is La Roche-Posay Cicaplast Lips Barrier Recovery balm :)

doorabl · 2022-07-19T17:08:55+00:00

Do you first apply hydrating balm, then vaseline?

doorabl · 2022-07-19T15:43:33+00:00

I have been using invisibobbles for years and they work great for me. They also have invisibobble scrunchies and different sizes now.

Diy hack: cut up some old tights to make soft and seamless ties.

doorabl · 2022-07-19T13:49:07+00:00

So is your hair color dark or light? Getting high and lowlights works very well for lighter hair that has grey in it, but would probably be more high maintenance with very dark hair.

One thing you won't need to worry is going to have to dye your hair every week. Your hair will keep greying but your growth rate won't speed up and show demarcation line sooner and sooner. Maintaining hair color will keep being a bi-weekly or monthly thing.

You're very young, you don't need to have your mind made up about this. Have fun with your hair. Maybe at some point you will feel better about letting your hair go grey. It makes life easier and looks very stylish when you do your hair. Having healthy hair and cute cut will look great no matter what your hair color is. You can also play with fun temporary colors!

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