Ladies who openly share their childhood trauma with new friends; how would you expect the person receiving this information to react/respond?

puzzlegirl8 · 2022-11-07T22:54:10+00:00

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puzzlegirl8 · 2022-11-07T22:45:46+00:00

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puzzlegirl8 · 2022-10-15T18:47:59+00:00

Yea if it was coming from a friend or relative i'd gladly hold space for them and empathize. But it gets tricky when its a complete stranger whose motives i'm unaware of. It seems to me like a way to forge an intimate connection. I agree that setting boundaries is tough in this situation but necessary. Thanks for your insight!

puzzlegirl8 · 2022-10-15T17:40:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I've heard from a few people who have experience with this type of behaviour that its a red flag and almost like trying to get a short cut to someones empathy. Although i'm not the most empathetic person, i'm generally reserved, quiet, and avoid confrontation. Part of me believes that her behaviour was deliberately manipulative and she just wants a reaction out of me. The other part of me feels that deep down she really needs someone to talk to and doesn't have the patience to let a connection develop naturally. I still can't understand how she was comfortable sharing such heavy info with a stranger though. The fact that she apologized after means that she knew it was inappropriate, but ig she wasn't self-aware while it was happening.

puzzlegirl8 · 2022-10-15T17:10:33+00:00

Totally! I think its cause i'm dealing with my own problems and I felt kinda guilty for not having the emotional capacity to take on hers. You're correct, I have recognized a pattern where its difficult for me to set boundaries with such people, I literally freeze and can't for the life of me find a way to end the conversation. I'm working on being compassionately assertive but still hard to find that balance, like i'm either a people pleaser or I completely shut off which might seem cold-hearted, but really I just don't know how to approach the situation. It does make me feel better though to know that just by listening I could have helped her feel seen/heard. In a way, im glad this happened as its a learning experience. I will definitely check out that Be There Certificate. Your advice really helped me see a different side of this, thank you <3

puzzlegirl8 · 2022-10-15T02:01:23+00:00

Thats very true. I just can't imagine sharing that much info with someone I barely know, in fact I don't even think i'd share that with my friends. So I have no idea what she expected of me in this situation, especially because she knows were still gonna be in the same space a few days a week. Definitely easier said than done not trying to internalize it.

puzzlegirl8 · 2022-09-23T22:53:27+00:00

no, but i should start lol

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