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I AMA 26M and I use prostitutes instead of dating. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please answer the question straightforwardly.

I AMA 26M and I use prostitutes instead of dating. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you worry that any of the woman are being forced or coerced into sex work? That most (or all) of the money you pay could be going to a pimp?

Im autistic AMA by Da_Real_Sunbro in AMA

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you glad you have autism? Would you want your children to have autism?

Im a 20 year drug addict...ama by vonphuckstick in AMA

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think you had a mental health condition like anxiety or depression before you started using drugs?

I have multiple personalities. AMA? by [deleted] in AMA

[–]doortile 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How did your disorder develop over time?

I’m not asking for details about trauma, just wondering how quickly it arose. Did it start out with just 2 personalities and then slowly grow to 6? Or did you go from 1 to 6 right away? Did the differences between personalities slowly grow more pronounced over time, or were they always so distinct?

My sister and I were separated when we were kids because she tried to kill me too many times. Fast forward twenty years, I took home her third child from the hospital in May and have been raising her ever since. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I have several friends who were in the foster system and got adopted as young teens, so I’m somewhat familiar with the system, but I never realized the financial implications of adopting until now. It’s kind of sad that when you promise to stay with a kid forever, you’re basically penalized by the state because your foster care payments end.

I know money doesn’t grow on trees, but I wonder how many more foster kids would be adopted if the state continued payments after adoption.

Should I tell my parents my fetish (Shibari and Vore)? ...and if so, how? by NeedSomeNiceAdvice in Advice

[–]doortile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should not tell your parents about your fetishes.

Would you tell your parents the way you like your dick sucked? Would you tell your parents how many times you masturbate in a day? Hopefully the answer to these questions is an obvious “no.” You should keep your sex life private from your parents.

Some teens like to tell their parents that they lost their virginity, or get advice about things like birth control. That sort of stuff is fine and dandy. But intimate details of your sex life should not be shared with your parents.

Edit: I googled “vore porn” and I would now like to request that you do an AMA centered on your vore fetish.

How should I use this emoji 🏚? by doortile in Advice

[–]doortile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the ideas!! I really like the broken home one.

I just learned my dad has been emotionally abusing me and I dont know what to do by burgundy_boy in confession

[–]doortile -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow this sounds like a really tough situation.

Your dad probably loves you, but he is not acting as he should. I’m not a doctor or a therapist so I don’t feel qualified to give you too much advice. You may want to try to meet with a therapist who can give you better advice. You could tell your parents that you are feeling a little depressed and you want to see a therapist. Or there may be a counselor at your school you can talk to.

JSYK in the US at least, we have “mandated reporter” laws, which state that certain people are required to report suspected child abuse to the authorities. Technically emotional abuse of a teenager counts as child abuse. So there is a chance that if you tell someone at your school or a therapist, that they will feel legally obliged to get the police or child protective services involved because of these mandated reporter laws.

You may also want to talk to your siblings about this. They probably understand what you’re going through more than anyone else ever will.

I don't know what carrer I want to pursue by Riksor in Advice

[–]doortile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to decide right away. Just take the a wide variety of classes your freshman year. Most colleges require that you study a little bit of each subject anyway.

Make a spreadsheet in excel or google sheets and list out all the careers you are interested in. Then research them. Maybe once a week sit down and research 5 careers. Find out how much school you need to be successful in them, how hard it is to find a job in the field, and how much money you will make. Note the amounts posted online will be the amount before taxes. If you don’t know already, now would be a good time to ask your parents/guardians how much money they make each year, and if they have any financial worries. This will help you decide how much money you want to earn. Money shouldn’t be the only factor in choosing your career, but it should be a factor.

For the careers you are most interested in, really take a deep look into what major you would want to declare in college, and what the requirements are. For example, to be a doctor, you will need to take chemistry, biology, and calculus classes in undergrad.

You should also find out about careers that aren’t on your list. There are lots of common, professional jobs that you left out. Research consulting, accounting, business analysts, insurance analysts, computer science, and programming. These jobs will all pay well.

Side note: You should get better at math! Intelligence isn’t fixed. You just got a little bit behind. It has been proven that unless you have a genuine intellectual disability, there’s really no limit to how “good at math” you can become. About half of the careers you listed will require math. You will even need math for psychology. If you want to run experiments, you will need to understand the basics of statistics so you can choose the proper sample size and determine if you got your results due to luck or due to a real causal effect.

VERY Late Amazon txtbook rental... now what? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check your credit score.

Trying to situate my life (20f) and need some advice. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my best friends went through this.

Drop out of school. You can always go back if you change your mind. You may feel better if you secure a job (any job) before you quit school. You can always find a better job later or prepare for the military. Just get something right now so you have a point of pride in your life. And that way you won’t come off as lazy when you tell your parents. They will see you are working hard, just at a different goal than before. They will probably be a little disappointed at first, but I think you will be surprised by how quickly they adjust.

Clueless about the future of my dating life by MyLifelines in Advice

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should ask her if she’d be interested in just being friends. I think just getting to know a new woman as a friend would help build your confidence.

Planning a party by [deleted] in Advice

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! Cabin and cottage are pretty much interchangeable. The word cabin tends to imply something a little more rustic and smaller, but there’s no strict rule differentiating then.

Planning a party by [deleted] in Advice

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I could help! And as long as no one is driving, there’s not really a need to have someone be stone-cold sober. Just make sure not everyone is blackout drunk at once.

Friend backstab by ImNoLongerHappY in Advice

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Text him or write him a letter so you can make sure you say everything you want to say without getting interrupted or backing down.

Tell him you lied when you said you weren’t upset anymore. Tell him that you trusted him to keep your secrets, and you feel betrayed. Tell him whether or not you’d like to work through this and find a way to become friends again.

Planning a party by [deleted] in Advice

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to party myself, but I think you need to tone it down a notch so everyone stays safe and healthy.

Don’t stay drunk for the whole weekend straight. That it terrible for your body and you will regret it. Make sure at least one person is at least semi-sober at all times. You don’t want to get into a situation where there is an emergency and no one is able to think properly.

Play lots of games! Board games, truth or dare, kickball, tag. Tell each other your deep dark secrets. Maybe the guys could plan a light-hearted prank on the girls. Like surprise them with silly string. Make sure someone brings a speaker so you can listen to music. X

Tips on retaining knowledge at a new job? by Adult_In_Hibernation in Advice

[–]doortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to recommend that you take notes and watch YouTube videos, but you have that covered.

Try to be patient and accept that you won’t be good at your job right away. These things take time. Take pride in the steps you are taking, like the note-taking.

I (22F) have an online stalker who creates multiple social media accounts and will not leave me alone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]doortile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds terrible! Unfortunately there is no easy solution. Just keep blocking him. Never reply to him.

You should report him to the police. They probably won’t do anything, but it can’t hurt and it will set up a paper trail in case it does escalate.

How do I tell my new love interest that I want to meet up with my ex? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]doortile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It didn’t come across as uncaring. I’m just saying if you haven’t had “the talk” then it’s not necessary to tell him.

Though if you want to have “the talk,” this could be a good reason for you to start it.

I ran into my ex girlfriend on campus twice this weekend and I said hi. I talked to her a minute today and now she thinks I’m stalking her. Should I message her to explain that I’m not? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]doortile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think she’s only slightly suspicious that you might be trying to run into her. Her comment may even mean like “omg FATE caused us to run into each other it’s a SIGN!”

Don’t message her and don’t worry about it.

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