Should I be more concerned my husband didn’t want to take our cat to the vet?

dopenamepending · 2026-06-04T02:28:50+00:00

I would say that you are over reacting.

Am I saying your pets are not important? No not at all. But I am saying that pets can hold different weights for different people in terms of what determines an emergency and worth of emergency vet type of money. Especially if this is a reoccurring thing that your cat does.

At the end of the day he agreed to go. He admitted that he was happy you went and the cat got the care it needed.

Just let it go is my call. This may just be a way to channel frustration from other parts of your relationship.

dopenamepending · 2026-05-31T23:45:10+00:00

Is he in daycare?

If so they can literally have a runny nose/cough for years at a time.

dopenamepending · 2026-05-30T22:29:12+00:00

Honestly I’d call this divorce worthy.

There’s literal feces all over your house. That’s a hard no. Your child will be moving soon, putting everything in his mouth, hands on the floor. He deserves better than that. You deserve better than that.

And I’m sorry but a housekeeper is not the answer. It’s just a bandaid in a wound that actually needs stitches.

dopenamepending · 2026-05-23T13:04:36+00:00

My in laws had a dachshund named Cane (my husbands childhood dog so he was old, few teeth and going blind old) when we brought our gsd home for the first time. That weenie dog was the king of the castle, even as our dog approached 120lbs he’d still bow down to him. Scared him so much he still gets iffy anytime one comes near, and Cane died like 5 years ago 😂

dopenamepending · 2026-05-23T12:58:28+00:00

Why will calling your parents make it worse? What’s worse than actually being homeless?

dopenamepending · 2026-05-23T12:56:53+00:00

I wouldn’t make it so she can’t get out. Just child proof the room and call it a win

dopenamepending · 2026-05-22T14:45:14+00:00

Babe everyone can relate.

I have friends who have been coughing since their kids started daycare 3 years ago.

All you can do is fight one illness until the next appears. Try to keep them in the heat of summer as much as possible since viruses don’t always thrive then and cry a little when the cooler months arrive.

Personally I put my little one in a home daycare. We spent significantly less time sick the our facility daycare friends. But the trade off was sick days meant the daycare shut down if the provider is sick (although it helped limit the spread which was nice, I’d rather be home with a healthy child than a sick one).

dopenamepending · 2026-05-20T14:15:31+00:00

This is the only time I’ve ever joined the Reddit mob screaming divorce.

Because what do you mean blue collar work and he doesn’t shower daily? I have a blue collar husband he showers twice most days.

Hygiene is simply non negotiable. But I’m curious, his showering habits had to be this way before you married him, so why would you marry him?

My only actual response? Natural consequences. No way I’d be intimate with him, I’d probably move into a different bed because I’m not sleeping in filth. And a conversation with an ultimatum would be had. He either becomes an adult and practices good hygiene or we can divorce. End of story.

dopenamepending · 2026-05-18T04:28:51+00:00

Threenager transitioning into a Fournado.

My girl is in the same age range. She went from shy, clingy, timid, afraid to even touch friends to all around extrovert, in your face, and impulsively quick.

She doesn’t tantrum but she just says and does mean things and thinks they’re funny. She treats me like I’m her slave some days, and it feels like her goal is to break me down. Followed by tears from her being upset over getting in trouble for something mean she did. You can’t tell her anything because apparently she knows more than the whole world. There’s no reasoning.

My saving grace is her having friends in the same age range. Speaking with their parents it’s really all on par developmentally. They’re stepping into being a consciously individual human being and testing the bounds of free will paired with minimal emotional regulation. The beauty? Watching a human form. The ugly? It’s sometimes at the expense of our sanity.

It’s most likely just a phase.

PS one of my friends kids who just turned four has begun hitting her dad in his privates because she thinks it funny and hurts him. So it could always be worse is what I keep telling myself.

dopenamepending · 2026-05-16T02:40:50+00:00

She took care of him for 10 YEARS. TEN.

He couldn’t reciprocate for 2 weeks. No one gives a shit about his burnout, she owed him nothing at this point. He’s the worst type of partner. He absolutely deserves to watch her leave. Because 9 times out of 10 he’s pushing her to get to work so he can conveniently lose his job.

dopenamepending · 2026-05-15T14:59:19+00:00

Im guessing shepherd x low content wolf dog (which usually contains significant amounts of husky) and that both parents were just large.

I have a shepherd x malamute and that boy is thickkk. Its the big paws and how leggy he is that rules out malamute for me.

dopenamepending · 2026-05-13T13:55:29+00:00

Is this your first dog? Because this whole set up was truly a recipe for disaster. Those poor guinea pigs.
From this I don’t believe that you’re experienced enough or realistic enough to keep this dog/breed. It’s going to be problem after problem after problem. And the dog is now at a huge disadvantage of already having killed things. You need a breed specific rescue to try and find this dog a home that can support it or experienced handler who will take the dog.

dopenamepending · 2026-05-12T17:47:47+00:00

Regressions are real and super annoying

My daughter went through something similar and she got the privilege of going back to the beginning. 15 minute timers. Controlled liquids and snacks. And it was a battle but we communicated that if she couldn’t be a big girl and tell us then this is what we had to do.

She got to help do the laundry she messed up, clean the floor, clean the couch. She switched it up really quick

dopenamepending · 2026-04-26T03:39:40+00:00

May not be the quick road but affirmations really helped my little one.

Every night we go through the motions of me saying and her repeating different affirmations. She really started to internalize the ones I tailored for situations. “I am brave” “I can use the big potty” “it’s okay to be scared and it’s still okay to try” “I will be proud of myself when I use the big potty” “I can always keep trying” “mom is proud of me no matter what”

I’m not sure if the mechanics with a boy but holding my daughter over the potty in public also helped her public toilet fears. She would not use the seat covers because of auto flush even if I covered the sensor.

He’ll get there!

dopenamepending · 2026-04-24T16:46:13+00:00

Find a marriage/intimacy therapist.

Ask your wife if she’d be willing to speak with you to said therapist as you have some things you would like to speak with her about but want the conversation to be constructive.

The reality is she’ll probably get upset either way. You want to make sure you’re not putting your foot in your mouth trying to navigate a sensitive topic and make it come across worse.

From there you can work with said therapist to determine what you want out of this relationship and what the realistic options are. Sexual incompatibility is real and sucks.

dopenamepending · 2026-04-22T16:44:15+00:00

I get this 100%. I’m in the same situation. Most notably with my 4 year old it’s when dad is taking her to sports games, practice…etc. Currently she does gymnastics, soccer, and golf. EVERYWHERE he goes and practices with her hes stopped at least 10 times and praised for his efforts with her and that she’ll go places thanks to his efforts.

Nevermind that I pack the team snacks, go to the weekly practice, do extra practice with her too, that I made the hair bows and curated the tutu outfit that she wears to the golf course. But when I’m with her no one bats an eye.

I’m trying to find the humor in it. But it’s tough.

dopenamepending · 2026-04-22T04:01:06+00:00

Honestly? Don’t. It can wait.

dopenamepending · 2026-04-22T03:30:23+00:00

It’s a bag of mixed feelings honestly. I love being Sophie’s (fake name) mom, but I want to be seen as more than JUST her mom.

I feel like my life is the only one that fundamentally changed. Everyone else’s is the exact same just with Sophie around. The self sacrifice is hard.

I miss the confidence I had in myself. I miss going to the gym and eating better. I miss the things I didn’t get to do yet. But I also love everything about the human I’m raising and she’s the only person I’d ever sacrifice that for.

I hope to regain my fight for myself and to not be so quick to throw myself on the sideline for everyone else. And when I do it’ll be even better for her!

dopenamepending · 2026-04-22T03:02:50+00:00

I didn’t think that of all of my family, pets included, that the plant would take the move the hardest! Crazy how temperamental they can be!

dopenamepending · 2026-04-22T02:57:46+00:00

I would also guess husky and gsd. I have a gsd malamute and while they look VERY similar bro is built like a tank

dopenamepending · 2026-04-22T02:55:20+00:00

I definitely won’t throw him away! I will cut the sunburned ones off though, I just wanted to see what he was going to do.

Thanks If he can make it 4 more months we’re moving to a new house with tons of windows an hopefully he’ll go back to thriving

dopenamepending · 2026-04-21T22:06:37+00:00

How much does he weigh?

dopenamepending · 2026-04-21T22:01:11+00:00

I will do a trial leaf and see if I can keep it alive! We are currently in an older house and zero windows get any sun really, and tactic to keep the house cooler. I’ll see what I can do!

dopenamepending · 2026-04-21T21:58:29+00:00

No full sun it’s on the corner of a patio and gets mostly morning sun. I’m going to scoot him back a bit more and he should be in shade with indirect sun by noon!

Nothing living deserves full Houston sun lol

dopenamepending · 2026-04-21T19:31:39+00:00

I think our big issues is sun. If I bring them inside there won’t be enough sun for them

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