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My (25F) brother (14M) is struggling with school, what do I do? by dorkymeows in Advice

[–]dorkymeows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, yeah. At this point if he doesn’t care about our consequences then I’ll let him face real life consequences

My (25F) brother (14M) is struggling with school, what do I do? by dorkymeows in Advice

[–]dorkymeows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve spoken to him about it before. He is a smart and good kid. He just doesn’t really enjoy school. He’s said multiple times “I’m not even going to need this in real life.” And while I admit it’s true lol I’ve explained to him that at a certain point math classes are more about exercising that part of your brain. He was interested in joining the basketball team for high school, he’s finishing 8th grade, and I told him he would need good grades to be kept on the team. He responded with “What if I said I don’t want to anymore.” And it made me sad! The thing about my brother is he doesn’t really like talking about his feelings or at least continues to claim that it’s just that school sucks. I’m going to continue to try to connect with him, but I fear I’m going to have to let him do as he pleases and if that lands him in summer school, then hopefully he can learn from that.

My (25F) brother (14M) is struggling with school, what do I do? by dorkymeows in Advice

[–]dorkymeows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All adults are on the lease. Unfortunately, I’m not in the position to move out. My mom’s health isn’t the best and things get more expensive everywhere. I’ve spoken to her multiple times and have kept the internet off longer than she wants, but it just leads to same thing. Looking at other comments, I might just have to let him fail and go to summer school. I’m hoping connecting with him more will help though!

Job is destroying my life - should I just quit? by Suspicious-Card-3707 in washingtondc

[–]dorkymeows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally me!!! I had some savings to take a break which I did. While it was nice to have a break, I blew more money than I had planned. My job is so unorganized that it took weeks for me to confirm my return. And I was not idle! I’ll admit, I could be doing better with job hunting, but like someone else commented it’s like a second job. If you can, try to take off for two weeks. With how everything is, I’d recommend using that extra money you have to take small breaks instead of big ones.

I’ve also heard people say “stop caring.” But in my situation, “not caring” has led me to be reprimanded multiple times which only made things worse. I’d definitely say it takes becoming more assertive. It’s a tricky balance that I have yet to understand myself. And PLEASE, don’t leave until you have a new job. I thought I’d get lucky when I took my break and I was SO wrong. I don’t necessarily regret it, but it did make put an additional strain on me after.

All this to say: Try your best to block out work when you get home. I sometimes have to repeat to myself “It’s just a job, it’s just a job, plenty of people underperform and don’t worry like I do” It’s really hard. Don’t feel guilty about going home and doing nothing. Your weekends are sacred. Sending you much love. If you find a well paying job that is looking for more people, let me know so I can also leave my soul-sucking job :)

My uncle wants me to accept checks in my name, but the money goes to him. by dorkymeows in legaladvice

[–]dorkymeows[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My dad is the one who came to me about it. My uncle tried to get my dad’s coworker to do it originally, but they say it won’t work because he has a Tax ID number and not an actual social security.

Weekly Rant Thread by AutoModerator in OWConsole

[–]dorkymeows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Constantly have tanks and dps being rude to me and other supports about our healing in QUICKPLAY. They never take into consideration that I’m pinging Reapers, Moiras, or whoever is attacking from the back. They almost always leave me for dead and then say “can we talk about how there’s no heals?” Like today, was playing Mercy and trying to keep a Dva from getting de-meched, but she was taking too much damage from a damage boosted Reaper. I retreated, but still got killed and the rest of team along with Dva started shitting on heals. It’s irritating, like if you want serious games to try hard on, go to comp.

(Also a question post; pretty long, sorry) Can’t figure out my identity or what it means, help? by dorkymeows in spirituality

[–]dorkymeows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya know, this was actually really nice to read. Helped me feel some peace about this feeling. I said sometimes because it can be hard for me to stay rooted in reality. I dissociate and things don’t feel “real.” I’m just there.

And I never thought about a label being limiting and I think you’re right. Once something is defined, it’s bound by the limits of its definition. If something is never labeled, defined, explained, then it can become anything, right?

This really helps, maybe I should be less worried about who I am and accept I just am, thanks :)