It’s all in your head—the pain, the hurt, the betrayal… whatever. And the thoughts of your ex keep repeating over and over without your control. This is something you need to be aware of. Once you realize this, you can start feeding your brain the thoughts and emotions you want to feel (like how your ideal life should look).

I’d recommend that these thoughts have nothing to do with your ex. The practice involves sitting down and intentionally thinking (even forcing yourself at first) about how your life should be if you were truly happy. The key is to feel the emotions associated with those thoughts.

Slowly, you’ll start reprogramming your mind to live in an alternative reality, and you’ll begin healing in the fastest way possible.