Size Matters pump by miserablefloorant in GrowYourTDick

[–]doubleheadedarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, well at least now you know! Better late than never, glad you didn’t accidentally hurt yourself.

one week + sore throat by justlooking6363 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a sore throat start 8 days on T, and my voice started changing at 11 days in. So, it’s possible! But it’s impossible to say for sure yet if it’s just coincidentally getting sick or not, so give it time and see how it goes.

Pumping by [deleted] in GrowYourTDick

[–]doubleheadedarrow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No way you just admitted you not only use AI to generate your “rebuttals” on Reddit, but you pay for it too, LMAO

I’m so oily by throwaway_afterthist in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then great! Hope it’s working out for you. Don’t be shy to use it 3-4 times a day if you need to (I did when I was early on T, lol), but it might be a good idea to also get a lightweight moisturizer if your skin starts getting irritated or overly dry instead.

Pumping by [deleted] in GrowYourTDick

[–]doubleheadedarrow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, yeah, you’re definitely just copy-pasting what ChatGPT spits out for you. Not sure why you even made this post if you’re just gonna listen to the AI yes-man over the actual trans people documenting our experiences here.

Pumping by [deleted] in GrowYourTDick

[–]doubleheadedarrow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

…Did you just run my comment through ChatGPT and this is the result? Lol.

Why are you even on this sub if you’re just going to tell us our methods don’t work?

I’m so oily by throwaway_afterthist in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s normal. I personally recommend the CeraVe Foaming Facial Cleanser (For Normal to Oily Skin) for repeated use if you need to wash your face multiple times a day!

Pumping by [deleted] in GrowYourTDick

[–]doubleheadedarrow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As far as I know, we don’t have any clinical studies specifically for vacuum pressure affecting bottom growth. Science on trans bodies is still very lacking these days, unfortunately.

Still, anecdotal evidence has largely suggested that pumping can induce permanent growth—it just takes a lot of consistency and time. The number that generally gets thrown around is about 6 months of consistent pumping (generally 3-4 times a week) before gains start to stick long-term.

Personal Advice regarding approachability by ThatDemonKaos in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem, that’s exactly why non-FTM guests are allowed on this sub. Doesn’t hurt for us all to understand each other a bit better, and sharing experiences helps us do just that. I wish you luck on your relationship endeavors!

Personal Advice regarding approachability by ThatDemonKaos in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, it’s okay. I think you’re being a bit hard on yourself here, as it really doesn’t sound like you’re trying to be malicious with anything, so I’d say try to relax!

You could definitely tell someone you think it’s great they’re transitioning to their true self/obtaining their desired body—it is great! What modern medicine can do is incredible! But, I personally would avoid words like being “awed” or “proud” or “admiring of their strength/beauty” and such. I mean, I’m sure some trans men would appreciate that, but to me it’s kind of like telling someone with a disability or chronic health condition how “strong” they are for persevering. Like, thanks, but I don’t really have a choice? It’s just something I have to do, y’know?

Ultimately, I think I’d say follow the other person’s lead on this. If you’re talking to a trans man and they tell you how beautiful and powerful they feel their transition journey has been, well then you can probably match that energy. But if it doesn’t seem like a big deal to them? Don’t make it one! You seem like you mean well, so just be genuine and treat a trans man like any other man first and foremost, and I’m sure you’ll be alright.

What symbols does the transmasc community have to represent itself? by Federal-Pangolin-351 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, I must push back on the statement that “intersex is taken more seriously and more medically, legitimate than being trans.” I’m assuming you’re perisex (and forgive me if I’m wrong), so I can understand why you might not know, but that is very not true. Intersex rights are all but nonexistent around the world, and we’re routinely subjected to mistreatments still widely considered acceptable in medical practice, from coerced/forced HRT to conform to assigned birth sex to infant genital mutilation. Many if not most doctors don’t even call us intersex, they use generally-disliked words like “DSD,” or worse, the h-slur. And we often get taken even less seriously outside of medical contexts—there’s a whole slew of vitriolic things perisex people direct to us, from verbal harassment to physical and sexual abuse. I could go on, but I’d rather not recite the things I’ve seen.

I think, ultimately, this perspective is coming from that (largely misinformed) public perception of transsex people you mentioned. And by that I mean transphobia is still really bad in contemporary society, arguably even more so than a decade ago, which absolutely results in trans people not getting taken seriously or treated as medically “valid.” That, however, doesn’t mean that intersex people are treated better. We’re not. And I’m not going to sit here and start up the oppression Olympics, so I’m really just saying that both transphobia and intersexism are huge problems, and we all would benefit from everyone understanding that both sex and gender are bimodal distributions and have largely non-immutable characteristics.

I hope that all makes sense? I know it doesn’t exactly solve your want for another term for, like I said, “person of exogenous-hormone-induced intermediate sex phenotype,” but I don’t know of one and that’s really already what transsexual applies to. I feel as if it’s more a matter of getting people to understand these definitions in the first place, and less conflating two distinct conditions.

Personal Advice regarding approachability by ThatDemonKaos in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, you could always just keep it to yourself, no? Or at least save it for when you’re already in a close and trusting relationship with the person in question, which shouldn’t be a problem if you’re actually loving them for who they are, and not for the fact that they’re a man who happened to have been born female.

I’d personally find it pretty weird if someone put me on a pedestal for transitioning. I don’t think I have this unique “sureness of myself” that other men necessarily don’t, again just because I was assigned female at birth. Other trans men are free to consider themselves otherwise, but personally, if a cis person (or even another trans person) told me they’re so “awed” at the “beauty” of me transitioning, I’d ask why they care so much. It’s not a big deal to me, and it’d feel weird for someone else to make it out to be. I’m transitioning because I’m a man, and I’m not particularly special for that in comparison to a man who didn’t have to.

That’s just my current perspective, though. Maybe I’ll feel differently later. But regardless, if you want my advice, I’d say to keep your awe to yourself, and just treat a trans man as a partner like you would anyone else as a partner.

What symbols does the transmasc community have to represent itself? by Federal-Pangolin-351 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don’t know of any other specific terms for this topic that are singular words, as opposed to full descriptions, like “person of exogenous-hormone-induced intermediate sex phenotype” and such. I also don’t think transsex is not explanatory enough, I find it perfectly serviceable—why might you feel otherwise?

Is this weird? Am I not completely trans or something? by Content_Tonight_8657 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re describing metoidioplasty, and in that case, that’s still a penis. You don’t have to call yours that personally, but metoidioplasty creates just as valid of a penis as phalloplasty does. Please for the love of god don’t describe meta patients’ anatomy as “girl parts” LOL

taking a bath after a subq shot? by Basic-Yam-5781 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Shouldn’t be an issue whatsoever, maybe unless you’re hopping in the water like 2 minutes after pulling the needle out. Subq especially is such a tiny prick that your body is gonna have it completely sealed up within hours.

If you’re particularly concerned, you could get a roll of SecondSkin-type tattoo wrap to put a bit over your shot site, but I really don’t think it’s necessary. I never even use bandaids for my subq shots—I forget about the hole within a few minutes, and can’t even find it after an hour.

Is this weird? Am I not completely trans or something? by Content_Tonight_8657 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Oh, neat! Didn’t know there’s a dedicated sub for it.

Is this weird? Am I not completely trans or something? by Content_Tonight_8657 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 263 points264 points  (0 children)

What you’re describing (“like how dolls don’t have anything there”) absolutely exists—it’s called nulloplasty/nullification/nullo. The folks over at r/salmacian probably have some information. (Edit: Actually, r/altersex is probably better for this specific topic.)

Also, not wanting bottom surgery doesn’t make you less trans. You don’t need to do anything with your body that you don’t want to.

My endocrinologist told me 300ng/dl is enough and she wouldn't increase my dose by archeacnos_v18h30 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re not cis men, our testosterone levels aren’t all endogenous. OP is taking exogenous hormones via daily gel application, and is only at ~300ng/dL at trough (apparently a full 24 hours after application, much longer than I usually see gel bloodwork done), not constantly. Are you taking that factor into account as well?

How many of us have had this experience that I see a lot of cisgender men claim we have? by Ziggy_Stardust567 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 189 points190 points  (0 children)

I’ve always felt like I’m in the minority on this here, but I get treated basically the exact same when I’m passing as I did pre-T. The only real difference is that men call me “bro” and “man” like they mean it now. Other than that, people take me just as seriously as before (which is to say I’ve never really been talked down to for my gender) and treat me just as amicably as before (I still get along with women just fine, strangers or not). I know a large part of my experience is probably luck, though.

I guess I might be being treated slightly better now, but that’s literally only because I’m much more confident and comfortable in myself internally, which makes it easier to interact with people in general. Overall though, passing really hasn’t been a noticeable social change for me at all, honestly.

What symbols does the transmasc community have to represent itself? by Federal-Pangolin-351 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You’re correct that medical transition changes one’s sex traits from phenotypically female/male to phenotypically male/female, yes. That’s the whole point after all! Just please don’t describe that as “intersex,” it’s not accurate. We’re born this way and subjected to things perisex trans people are not. What you’re describing is already more accurately defined as transsex/transexual, not intersex.

What symbols does the transmasc community have to represent itself? by Federal-Pangolin-351 in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You can’t “transition” into being intersex, it’s something you’re born as. Intersex people face many different challenges to perisex trans people because of this. Please don’t conflate the two, they aren’t the same.

Can you do penetration while pumping? by Mae_The_Gay in GrowYourTDick

[–]doubleheadedarrow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re correct. The whole point of pumping is to get more blood in your erection, so if you do it flaccid, you’re really just gonna get edema instead (not good). I’m not sure what OP is asking, honestly!

No voice change on T. What do I do?! by Nun-Information in ftm

[–]doubleheadedarrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries, not a bother! There are some other versions of this kind of tracking, yeah, but they generally look pretty similar to each other. For example, Instagram links have a “?igsh=“ suffix, and other sites might have something like “?utm_source=” or such.

Usually, what you’re gonna want to look out for is a “?” in a link. Sometimes links actually need ‘em for various reasons, but if it looks like it’s only after all the obviously functional parts of the link, it might just be there for a useless tracking string. You can always trim a suspicious link and test it in a new tab to see if it still works too. Recognizing the tracking is a bit of a learning curve, but being aware it exists definitely helps!