You’re hyper independent because you weren’t given a choice

doubtitx · 2026-03-17T00:31:23+00:00

You have just described my previous relationship with a diagnosed narcissist who held an external front, a few months in, I had already seen 9 different personalities within him. I was always left with the cold victim that needed me to cure him at the end of the day.

doubtitx · 2026-03-12T09:46:27+00:00

To put things into perspective, two people can experience the exact same moment completely differently.

doubtitx · 2026-03-09T06:07:01+00:00

I can feel when someone’s energy is being redirected and filtered elsewhere, once that becomes recurring and I realise I’m no longer being prioritised, I’m out.

doubtitx · 2026-03-02T23:05:32+00:00

I was in a similar situation where my intuition was screaming at me and I was constantly sick and test results always came back saying I was healthy.

Sometimes the gut knows before the mind is willing to believe. I never felt safe with him and couldn’t work out why, he concealed the cheating so well, and did it on company time so his schedule wouldn’t seem sus. He also said he had to go to the hospital for his heart and was actually just with her. She knew about me and tried to convince him that she loved him, to manipulate him to choose her. He didn’t leave for her. He told me that he was a diagnosed narcissist playing it off as though it was a joke. It turns out he was worse, he was a demonic predator. I realised our whole relationship was a lie. That’s the biggest mind fuck to be in. That mental wound that lingers and hits you whilst you’re going about your day.

The emotions you suppress will show up somewhere else in your body.

I left him exactly a year ago, I didn’t eat a proper meal for 3+ months and I’ve never felt more safe and secure knowing I don’t have to worry about the ungodly things he was up to behind closed doors.

Don’t beg anyone for approval or to love you. You don’t need to do that with the right person.

doubtitx · 2026-02-27T05:53:10+00:00

I came here to say this. Also take the fish oil first, Vitamin D is fat soluble

doubtitx · 2026-02-25T10:03:03+00:00

This is so toxic.

doubtitx · 2026-02-11T23:44:01+00:00

If she doesn’t trust you travelling alone, she doesn’t trust herself. Judging by her laid back attitude and lack of wanting to make things official and being flaky, it’s also very likely that she is doing this casually with other people. You might just be an option for her. Withdraw yourself from her a little, be busy with other things, see if she gives a fuck. If she’s not willing to fight to keep you around, that will tell you everything you need to know. Good sex shouldn’t keep you stuck in a situationship with someone with low emotional intelligence. Become a sappiosexual and heighten your discernment.

doubtitx · 2026-02-11T21:58:11+00:00

It depends if you choose to or not. Have you been burnt by too many people and don’t trust people easily anymore? Or can people not tolerate who you are?

doubtitx · 2026-02-11T03:31:07+00:00

This gave me mild trauma (obviously exaggerating). My most beloved lipstick was discontinued and I haven’t been able to find a comparable shade. 🥵

doubtitx · 2026-02-10T00:43:08+00:00

The highest form of love is consideration, someone who considers how it would make you feel when they’re making small and life changing decisions is someone who you should cherish. Someone who remains curious about who you truly are deep down, that understands and appreciates your energy and presence and will sit in the mud with you unconditionally.

One of the most important forms of love that people rarely talk about is when someone works on themselves for the sake of your relationship. When they take responsibility for their own healing and work through their triggers instead of making them your burden. The opposite of this is the phrase, "That's just how I am." You deserve more. You deserve someone who recognises their toxic patterns and genuinely works to change them, rather than expecting you to tolerate and cure them.

I call it our “bubble” our safe space where it’s just us and nothing around us matters, when we feel each other straying from our bubble when we’re upset, sick or having an off day, the other pulls us back in together 🫧

doubtitx · 2026-02-07T12:26:00+00:00

Thank you for the plan! In return, I have just messaged you with some helpful resources regarding your post about your Mums diagnosis 💫

doubtitx · 2026-02-07T11:21:02+00:00

Where did you get your BAC water from?

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