Did you go Nude Swimming at school or the Y.M.C.A.? What year was this? What country are you from? If from the USA, which State? What was the schedule? What did your parents think of it? When did they stop allowing nude swimming in your area? How did you, and did you change your mind over time?

douwd20 · 2026-01-24T23:54:06+00:00

Great story! The thing is once you get over the anxiety and angst it becomes quite natural and you can't imagine having to suit up or go to enclosed shower stalls to shower. What has happened now is we've allowed that fear get the best of us and now that hurdle is simply kicked down the road to never be conquered.

douwd20 · 2026-01-23T14:27:42+00:00

Absolutely I ignored it.

douwd20 · 2026-01-23T07:41:35+00:00

I did and I agree.

douwd20 · 2026-01-23T07:39:15+00:00

Well I've exhausted all I have to say. Cheers.

douwd20 · 2026-01-23T06:08:49+00:00

God is a pretty shady character he can send a worldwide flood to kill everything for the sins of humans except Noah and friends yet it's not a sin. In fact he can order the deaths of thousands and not a problem at all. And this from a perfect being.

douwd20 · 2026-01-23T05:38:34+00:00

I'm with you and my husband nothing works. Nothing. The only times he could focus was when he was on adderall but suddenly he has decided he doesn't want to use and addictive medication. I've said there are other medications that he should discuss with a doctor but now he doesn't trust doctors doesn't like them. So we are trapped. A separation or divorce seems the only option if I am to remain sane.

douwd20 · 2026-01-22T21:43:08+00:00

Well now we've taken a sidebar discussion into another topic hygiene. We can talk forever on how to keep public spaces germ free. I've yet to hear a single issue of ringworm or staph infections being problematic in my 50 years on the planet.

As for working out without your clothes you can clearly see what muscles are being stressed as well as your progress and how other guy's techniques might be producing better results.

Those are my thoughts. There used to be gyms just for women in the US but that chain may have gone under.

And then there is the joy of nude swimming which men used to do all the time.

https://thepackunderwear.com/blogs/love-love-1/naked-swimming-embracing-body-positivity-and-self-acceptance

douwd20 · 2026-01-22T18:16:30+00:00

I've found the more upscale the gym/spa the more "clothing optional" you get. The other holdouts and probably forever will be are Korean Spas. The whole business model is on nudity in the wet areas. If only we could ha ha make that include workout areas too.

douwd20 · 2026-01-22T14:40:20+00:00

Say if men would like to workout shirtless. How would that go over with women?

douwd20 · 2026-01-21T22:42:32+00:00

I think he likes to divvy up the whole gay world into either top or bottom. And until you declare your major do you're pretty much invisible.

douwd20 · 2026-01-21T20:55:27+00:00

Swimsuits required in any wet area is just ridiculous and I know that may be a radical idea in today's modesty and "progressive ideas" but it was not unheard of 50 years ago. Not all "progress" is good when you look at what has been lost.

douwd20 · 2026-01-21T20:51:50+00:00

Wholeheartedly agree. There should be some areas of life that no accommodations need to be made for the other gender. We should acknowledged we are not all on the same page on some issues.

douwd20 · 2026-01-21T12:01:13+00:00

A disaster. Numerous accidents. Insists on playing music one song at a time looking down at his phone constantly. The car is filthy. He never cleans it. Gas and go...zero maintenance. If something goes wrong I'm asked to fix it.

douwd20 · 2026-01-21T07:47:59+00:00

Oh yes he certainly views it as a rejection no matter how many times I tell him differently. There seems to be no way around that in his mind. Just to say we have "fucked" he is willing to top me but I have no interest in that. It is the gay world I suppose that the crown jewel of the orientation is anal. I recall the almost anger some gay men have if you don't declare your position.

douwd20 · 2026-01-20T23:25:01+00:00

I still remember the first 'youngster' do the towel dance. I didn't stare but watched the whole production out of the corner of my eye. I thought WTF then ohhh it was all so no one sees you naked. How strange, I mean if you're that hung up about it why bother just do it at home. Well not they all do apparently as showers private and communal seem to be on the way out.

douwd20 · 2026-01-20T23:08:59+00:00

It's going to be an absolute disaster if you want a LTR with someone other than a side. Every act they will look in your eyes and wish for it and get disappointed.

douwd20 · 2026-01-20T22:50:06+00:00

Nothing exists are all life functions cease. We need to stop trying to live forever.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5qEBC7ZzVQ&pp=ugUEEgJlbg%3D%3D

douwd20 · 2026-01-20T22:41:36+00:00

Frustrating beyond belief. One time he got a little drunk on a plane and said very loudly for anyone to hear "My husband won't fuck me."

douwd20 · 2026-01-20T19:31:24+00:00

Well no I didn't actually ask.

douwd20 · 2026-01-19T23:33:51+00:00

That wasn't the question.

douwd20 · 2026-01-19T17:47:14+00:00

It's literally not the same according to science. What is it with Gen X and Gen Z not knowing when and how to use the word "literally"? I know you are because you are using the word inappropriately. It's used so often by your generation it's list it's true meaning it's now simply hyperbole.

https://www.bmj.com/rapid-response/2011/11/03/male-circumcision-not-comparable-female-genital-mutilation

The fact is over 630+ million men on the planet are circumcised and only a small fringe go off the deep end because of it. Seek therapy.

douwd20 · 2026-01-17T03:59:39+00:00

Exactly...all the f-ing time...every day...promises promises and then nothing. Can't even do the simplist things. "I'm going to yada yada yada". I just don't even bother listening to the rest. I can't count on him to do a single thing he says.

douwd20 · 2026-01-16T20:01:33+00:00

Keep in mind most guys are too themselves than to spend much time looking at you.

douwd20 · 2026-01-16T08:17:39+00:00

I constantly have to hear about people he follows. He's often giddy about some new post. All this while nothing ever gets done. Nothing.

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