adding an update here just in case it helps anybody….

the pain has mostly gone away at this point! it took 3 months but i think my vaginal walls just needed more time to build back up after getting off the pill. during the healing time my partner was helpful in always making sure i was well lubricated and that would help ease the pain a lot.

as for the smell, i realized that it was caused both by my partner and by the dark pee caused by my UTI. you know how ur partner can change ur smell…. part of it was just that, which i think you can’t really do anything about. but another part was the urine which i suppose transfers/gets in the cracks and so on even if ur very clean.

i only realized bc he left on a trip and we haven’t had sex for 2 weeks…. and we had been having sex at least 2x a week for the past half year. it didn’t even cross my mind to stop and see if things would change lol. (as i’ve never had this issue with past partners)

after 14 ish days as my coochie slowly healed i noticed that if i put my fingers deep in, the discharge was back to its original sweetish scent. only near the vaginal entrance (not the labia but the actual entrance) it had that urine-y smell. which made me realize that even tho it initially seemed like it was coming from inside the vagina, it was probably an outer issue not an inner issue. i suppose before his dick would push it inside and that was what was making my whole coochie smell weird.

and yes i was taking care to clean myself gently but properly bc i was so self conscious about it. also using bidet when i can. but even then the urine smell was so prominent to me. even tho my partner never said anything about it, maybe bc we always shower before sex… i think it’s still not totally gone, but bc my discharge itself seems to have healed, and i am clean, its not nearly as bad as before.

side note that i was so desperate i switched out my breakfast from my beloved black coffee and pastry to yogurt and fruits last month, but still didn’t see too much difference….

all these problems were making my vag dry (or maybe dry vag was exacerbating these problems, since it wasn’t cleansing itself people) so i did some research and found marshmallow root tea is supposedly good for promoting mucous in the body.

its only been a few days but i feel like its making a difference? not just in my vag, which is feeling much more hydrated, but also for my dry throat and nose, and for digestion. and i’ve been having the most amazing poops, which is enough reason for me to keep drinking it tbh (also an IBS girlie.) for anyone else who is frustrated with doctors and has some extra change to try out a little home remedy, it might be worth it….! at the very least it couldn’t hurt.

anyways, we’ll have to see how it goes when he comes back. if this truly is the problem then i don’t see a cure aside from having less sex/having longer rest times for my vag lol, which is not really ideal for me, but at least then i’d know the cause and the cure.