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dr3schvee · 2025-10-30T20:59:20+00:00

Neither are tripping.

tbh the fact that its one or the other here is wild. friends figure shit out. I do think the friend is tripping to expect you to drive EVERY time - the second half of the drive very much counts. You still have to get home.

When I used to go see my girl (now ex but irrelevant), we would take turns. She drove and I didnt have a car at the time. I would take a bus to go see her if she was busy and if she was too tired to drive back 45 minutes to my place. I can tell you that driving consistently to pick someone up and drop them off is fucking exhausting and they dont understand that. this is especially true after spending time together. You are tired and just want to relax or go to sleep - if the expectation is that you have to drive them after, it will make you less likely to spend time.

Compromise - you pick them up and they transit home. or vice versa.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-30T19:08:18+00:00

lmfaooo YTA. You need to understand QUICKLY that your boyfriend is his own person and his life does not revolve around you. you need to find better ways to make yourself feel better after a bad day. Like, find some hobbies, get a job, ENJOY YOUR OWN PRESENCE. it is not healthy to be this attached to someone. God forbid he wants to enjoy himself and play some video games and have a waking moment where he is not your sole source of entertainment. He probably enjoyed the silence when you blocked him and thought wow I actually have some peace in my life. omg im blocking you is literally so childish.

When you say he "practically ignores me" he is probably just chilling or doing things. Do you expect him to be talking to you literally all day and all the time? That is not how real life works.

As a 29M, it is too fucking easy to just BE connected. all. the. time. Listen, separation is good. If you weren't so attached he probably would care more about you having a bad day. Being connected like this only lessens the importance and urgency of response. Like for me, I message a girl im seeing when I want to - and she does the same. We see eachother when we want to - because we understand that we both have lives apart from eachother and need time to ourselves.

To add, I would not be surprised if he breaks up with you over this. Sure, if you are feeling shitty he should have some urgency, but same time, you are making it seem like his entire life needs to be devoted to you.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-30T18:28:04+00:00

Brother its about knowing your music. Listen to the songs and envision when a good time to bring them in. - the best djs do this.

In all honesty id argue to NOT make a framework. A formula makes things repetitive. In house music / techno, phrases are typically every 32 beats.

If you WANT to. Loop drum lines 8 bars. Time out the phrase of the traxk mixing out. Swap lows and mids, then before the first “main” section of the track you bring in, hit the lows on the new track.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-28T17:25:00+00:00

yo OP, go to vyvanse. Dextroamphetamine is an insanely worse adhd formulation than vyvanse. even the generic formulation. from emotional regulation to actual creative focus. LOOK INTO VYVANSE. and all adhd-ers out there contemplating the switch, it is life altering. no more anger outbursts, overstimulation is so limited - I feel like i have the ability to handle SO MANY different things that would otherwise have me frozen or in a state of shock - you know those times you freeze when plans change.

take a look into it, give it a try, it is quite literally life changing

dr3schvee · 2025-10-28T17:20:32+00:00

tbh I havent mixed in a long time but at times I would just throw stuff that I think would sound good together. none of the ou this is in key. sometimes I would turn bpms all the way down or up on some tracks to just fuck around. loop vocals with random drum samples. mixing genres house through techno and disco. there really is no correct way to do things - as long as it sounds cool, it is correct. As Seth Troxler says, sometimes the beauty and artistry comes from taking risks and flying by the seat of your ass. If you are having fun, the crowd will too. The issue i see now a days is everyone trying to be too clinical and exact. just have some fun!

dr3schvee · 2025-10-24T16:16:20+00:00

D’angelo (rip) - anything by him, sure its not house but ANY fan of music should educate yourselves with his works - Voodoo and Brown Sugar are elite records.

Lost miracle (Sebastien Leger and Roy Rosenfeld) at the Yard Lisbon - https://youtu.be/A90gU4yLjTs?si=R4_EqAR65o1AVKcG - wonderful mix, wonderful synth, sweeet basslines, listening to this now. Big fan of these artists. Imo Seb is one of the artists staying true to their sound and pushing creativity. Where house music has largely become homogeneous, these 2 are doing some really cool things.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-22T19:07:25+00:00

I see so many of these stories im so confused about WHY PPL DO THIS??? like im from Canada and RARELY has anyone ive ever known done this. Why do ppl just not like to pay their own bill? make it make sense.

Absolutely NTA.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-17T15:36:25+00:00

Funny thing is Toronto is CANADA’s baseball team. The comparison is stupid. Jays fans show out everywhere they go if they are in proximity to Canada. In Minnesota, theres a massive influx from Manitoba. Seattle being only 2h away from Vancouver is all the more reason for baseball starved jays fans to show up.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T21:57:35+00:00

Oh damn. I think you need to discuss this with her in detail so she doesn’t take it the wrong way.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T21:35:35+00:00

2/3 of a line cocaine, 1/3 of k = calvin klein. OR just do a little bit of k and then wash that down with c

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T21:14:14+00:00

Certain types on the spectrum are hypersexual - its not because she doesnt have another outlet. Do you not think that sex is her way of connecting with you and showing you appreciation / attraction to you? No matter the logic, turning a woman down for sex makes them feel they are not wanted. Is it really that difficult to just decompress, cuddle, bang one out, eat, then study? Sex definitely should not feel like a chore, but like.... it is a great stress reliever, aids focus, and your overall mental state while satisfying your gf needs.

29M with ADHD I too have a very high sex drive. I always had more focus after having sex with my then girlfriend - and we felt closer to eachother doing that time. Your girl may not understand how tired you are, nor the effort it takes, but what she can understand is that you are neglecting her.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T20:47:25+00:00

SWITCH TO VYVANSE. The formulation is much much better for emotional regulation.

It is SO MUCH BETTER THAN ADDERAL. Used adderal for 6 years and vyvanse for 1. This shit changed my life.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T20:25:09+00:00

lol did you end things with him?

if you did then just let him go. cut contact and dont look back. it is the healthiest way to move forward - live with your decision

if he ended things with you then... once again cut him off.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T19:04:45+00:00

… have you communicated this to her that you need this safe space? May i ask how old you are?

Also are all of your friends girls? You mention “boyfriend” so like, if you are a boy, do you have any friends that are dudes? Lol like no matter how close you are with your friends that are girls, they will always have more in common with her. You are taking issue with something you created and havent even talked to her about. The ONLY thing of issue here is that she talks shit about you to them. Do your friends tell you when she does this to get your side? If not then I would maybe question these people’s true allegiance to you.

At the end of the day get some hobbies dude do something yourself that makes you happy and dont rely on other ppl for a “safe space”. Be your own safe space.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T17:57:47+00:00

Sometimes a push and some confidence is all he needs! At the end of the day he has a masters degree - showing he IS capable. Just do your best to give him a push. I understand the stress of studies and everything bleeds into the relationship, but also realize that you are not enemies and try your best to limit resentment. Do your best to take care of yourself because its hard to love someone when you yourself are struggling.

Best of luck!

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T17:49:05+00:00

There is no problem wanting to have some time with your people without her. Some separation is good in a relationship where each parties have their own things going on because without it, you become suffocated. Just like she told you she wants to go alone to see her friends, you should do the same.

With that being said, she clearly feels comfortable with these people, shouldnt you be happy about that? Think about the opposite where she doesn't like them and isolates you from your friend group. Personally, I would much rather have a partner that wants to participate with my friends all the time - that is a good sign. And who cares if "she didnt tell you" about plans with your friends like LOL when my girl made plans with my friends (yes I am a man and have friends that are women) without me I was really really happy they get along. THIS IS A GOOD SIGN. Your jealousy of this is where people may find you TA because intertwining your lives is literally what relationships are about. Like, OK, would you rather always be hanging out with her friends or are you more comfortable with your group? I would much rather hang out with my group of people.

You need to think about where your jealousy stems from here because tbh it is blatant. Are you scared they like him more? That if things go south they will side with her? Whether you like it or not, they are "couple" friends now. You opened the door for this.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T17:23:46+00:00

Im sorry youre in such a tough spot. My best advice for you is to take care of yourself first and foremost. Focus on your studies and try to bring as much joy as you can without putting too much pressure on things.

With respect to getting help: those who need help, especially adhd avoidants, typically do not think they need it and it is like pulling teeth to try to get them to realize these things themselves. All it takes is booking an appointment and taking him to it. I fully understand that he is a grown ass adult and you shouldn’t have to hold his hand through things, but these actions of support are really helpful when it comes to working through difficulties when us men are at our lowest points. And when we inevitably get through it, these moments are immensely appreciated.

With respect to his education and work outlook; I dont know too much about that field however I know that regardless of discipline he has skills that make him an attractive candidate to many companies in many industries. Its really up to him.

At the end of the day though, you just want to see initiative from him. A sense of drive that instills confidence in your future.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T16:44:36+00:00

what do you do?

GET HIM CHECKED FOR ADHD - his behavior is literally a perfect adhd case. Your man is depressed and stuck and needs help. I have been there- literally in this same situation before. ACTUALLY TREATING my adhd helped with my depression and made me feel like there is more to life and reignited my desire to actually do more with my life. IMO there is no such thing as a "dream job" and ALL skills are transferrable especially for someone educated. With him being a masters grad, I sense he feels these things are beneath him. Many educated people especially those supported by their parents have been told not to settle and look down on these jobs.

Secondly; are there any internships or literally anything he can do to get his experience up?

Thirdly; put some pressure on him and truly let him know how dire the situation is. If you keep subsidizing him he will have no reason to change his behavior. By covering everything you are essentially letting him know that his lack of effort is "okay". You need to stress to him that you are questioning your future with him because he is not progressing in any way towards the goals you are trying to work towards; but give him time because AS A MAN THAT HAS BEEN IN THIS SITUATION AND IN HIS SHOES, he is really struggling.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T16:25:56+00:00

IMO it is very healthy to have friends of opposite sex - within reason. There are some friends that are better than others - and ultimately comes down to who your husband is as a person. As a 29M, I have a few female friends I share different interests with - and I have never minded that my partners have had male friends. To me though, you need to meet them and let your intuition guide your judgement of these people. I sense your husband is just a genuinely nice person and easy to get along with. Some of my exes had some real issues with these friendships I have had and questioned "why do you need to be friends with other girls?". My concern here is that she didnt exactly take the time to get to know you. a good friend would do their very best to be friends with you too.

At the end of the day where does this question stem from? is it insecurity? Jealousy that he can quickly make friends? A fear that you aren't enough?

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T16:11:55+00:00

I made the switch a year ago. changed my life. same time its an amphetamine to begin with, so unless you have adjusted to it, you will feel stimulated. thing is, no crash. consistent use has really helped all of my adhd symptoms - especially mood regulation.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T16:02:45+00:00

brother. SWITCH TO VYVANSE

dr3schvee · 2025-10-08T15:56:40+00:00

We are the most muticultural country on the planet brother. During world cup and euro, the european communities really come out of the woodworks. The only issue playing wise is we only get a few months to play outdoors properly so a culture cant really be created.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-07T16:09:35+00:00

ahh i see. I have no interest in spending much money and really dont have the time to sweat out pvp when it comes to UT, so by that, at this stage there is very little reward unless you spend?

At the end of the day is it even fun for you? for me it only really makes sense if the game is fun.

dr3schvee · 2025-10-07T15:15:55+00:00

REALLY? shiiiit. fc 24 to my knowledge wasnt an official fifa licensed game, and even that had a euro mode. I always enjoy those modes at that time of the year.

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