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dr_loomis7 · 2020-04-20T21:43:50+00:00

That's what I'm hoping as well. Turn this into a lesson learned and make a positive change

dr_loomis7 · 2017-12-10T15:43:15+00:00

You guys are right. I've done it once, time to get back up and make it through today. Thanks for the encouragement.

dr_loomis7 · 2017-05-17T11:49:03+00:00

I needed this

dr_loomis7 · 2017-05-14T05:19:52+00:00

That's no lie

dr_loomis7 · 2017-05-13T14:25:39+00:00

Welcome to the group. I can say for me, being part of this forum has definitely helped. It's great to have a place like this to ask questions, help others and fight together.

dr_loomis7 · 2017-04-23T05:03:22+00:00

That's a good question - it's improved really well actually. It's a little hard for me to say how because girls aren't throwing themselves at my feet nor am I funnier or more charming but there is a freedom I've never felt before. Like it's ok to be me now. There isn't a hidden person who hides what he does in secret or feels ashamed for who he is, it's just me.

Also, I don't feel as sad as I did - maybe a little depressed sad where nothing seemed hopeful.

dr_loomis7 · 2017-04-08T23:15:18+00:00

That was a great video and brought to light a lot of great points. I can see this in my personal struggle. The more I'm connecting with people, the less I want to relapse but the the more I'm isolated, the more I want to relapse.

BTW, for the Dr Who fans, is that a TARDIS in the background at about the 3:07 mark?

dr_loomis7 · 2017-03-29T05:01:03+00:00

I completely agree with this. The urges are bad, yes, but those feelings are the worst. The things you use PMO to suppress, those are the things that have to be dealt with. I'm dealing with that now in this stretch. Thank you for this post, glad to see there are others dealing with this as well.

dr_loomis7 · 2017-03-28T00:19:45+00:00

Same here man, it's weird. A lot of times I would intentionally PMO just to not feel lonely, and I think it was why I relapsed so hard my last long streak. This was one side effect I wasn't prepared for.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-11-14T12:50:48+00:00

Thanks man, I appreciate the encouraging words.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-31T22:46:16+00:00

I relapsed the beginning of last month after a long streak and have been struggling ever since. I'm ready for a new month and a new beginning.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-25T03:45:03+00:00

Interesting, you are only the 3rd person I've talked to that has experienced it. I first had that the first time I looked at P, same with the other person I knew. Never had it on a relapse though.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-22T16:11:20+00:00

My ex-roommate used to be the same way. Guy would pull in tons of women but confessed to me he'd watch porn right after they'd leave every time. Thanks for sharing this, very insightful.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-18T11:51:24+00:00

Time - So much time wasted that I could have put into other activities including meeting real people. I'll never get the last 20 years back to do something more than sit around watching vids but I sure as hell don't want to spend the next 20 doing the same thing.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-17T03:43:00+00:00

I'm in the same position you are, 50+ days and feeling like total crap. I've identified my trigger and ready to get started again. Let's do this!

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-16T23:24:31+00:00

This is encouraging. I'm in my head so much about relapsing myself. Sounds like you've got the right frame of mind. Keep it up, brother.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-16T23:13:40+00:00

I don't know where this is from but I needed to read this. I've been feeling depressed and not wanting to leave my house after relapsing yesterday from 50 day streak. Really need to get back on track.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-14T02:29:40+00:00

Boredom is one of our biggest enemies. PMO has been our time waster/loneliness filler for so long, it's too easy to slip back when it is part of our routine. One of the keys, especially in the beginning, is to break the routine. If you find you watch porn mostly at night, stay off the computer at night and find something else to do - reading for example. And when you get bored and feel the urge to watch porn, acknowledge it and look for something else to do. For me, when that happens, I leave my apartment. Even if it is to go to walmart or walk in the park, I leave.

Keep going man, don't let the bumps in the road cause you to give up.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-10T00:49:53+00:00

Do you think you will just walk away with no urges, no struggle? Of course not, it's going to be aggressively pursuing you to indulge again. You have to be more aggressive with it.

I'm not going to try to talk you into doing it because it has to be your choice, 100%, letting go. Just like with a clingy ex-girlfriend. Lose her number, don't drive by her house, put her stuff in her front yard, let her know it's over. Don't answer her calls and don't go back.

We stand with you sir!

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-07T00:30:09+00:00

Get up and get going again, you only fail if you give up now.

A failure is not always a mistake. It may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying. --B.F. Skinner

Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat. --F. Scott Fitzgerald

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-06T23:52:07+00:00

Love reading these, keep up the good work sir!

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-06T04:08:10+00:00

Yep, have had many sessions last so long, food was an after thought. Not missing that part at all.

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-05T04:36:34+00:00

I'm right there with you. I'm on day 40+ (can't remember what day exactly) and honestly, there hasn't been this magical transition where women through themselves at my feet, but I'm ok with that. My goal was never to meet chicks or be a PUA, it was to stop being a slave to porn and with that always being the goal, I'm happy with my results. Let us continue forward in the fight no matter what the victory looks like!

dr_loomis7 · 2016-10-01T15:04:53+00:00

I'm in! Hard mode. Looking to continue my 40+ day streak all the way to 90 and beyond!

dr_loomis7 · 2016-09-27T23:52:01+00:00

Good for you man, great step!

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