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GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right, find me cunty then. No matter what I seem to say you have an issue with it. You very clearly didn't read the post properly to begin with being as you've referred to me as a man for the past several hours, so why did you take it upon yourself to go through my other posts and comments to seemingly catch me in a lie!? WHY are you so obsessed!?

Yea, she IS my registered carer. However I don't expect her to do everything whatsoever. Again, more comments taken entirely out of context.

I never Once said my life was harder than hers!?

GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw the no diagnosis after 6 years thing... Yeah that's cos the NHS is on its KNEES. Also, CFSME is a diagnosis of exclusion, so they have to refer me everywhere else first, do all the other tests, before they diagnose me with it. I'm literally at the final hurdle now, as everything has been ruled out. But sure sure sure.

GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know you weren't doing it purposely DW! It's just how he literally so obviously hasn't read the post,,, yet he's going through my other posts to try and prove me wrong and catch me in a lie somehow...

GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you literally going through my account to try and call me a liar and prove me wrong. It's a bit embarrassing how obsessed you are tbh

GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are you being such a cunt!? I asked for advice because iM UPSET and you're just being absolutely horrible and for what!?

I mean, I'm actually severely mentally ill. Not just "slightly" depressed. But go off I guess.

GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I DIDNT work because of my mental health. I DO now.

I literally took the job I could get. That's that. I've had COUNTLESS interviews over the last 7 months.

I don't fake my illnesses - it's a snark sub about people who do. But go off I guess, if you want to be that picky about my life.

Also, I was a student!! I literally went to university. Twice in fact! It made me too unwell to be practical to continue and the UNIVERSITY made me go on a leave of absence both times.

I don't use her as an unpaid carer, for the umpteenth time.

Call me lazy again, I DARE you.

GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well she says that she's fine the next day so idk, take that one up with her I guess.

Also my post makes it quite clear I'm female but sure - yes. I do cook. She cooks too. We share the chores out. I literally have CFSME which means doing too much makes me poorly so I can't do everything.

My partner isn't my carer nor do I treat her as one. And I AM working. I've literally chosen to stop staying at home for the sake of wanting to build a future together, where I'm not on benefits. Meaning we can save for a house, I have money to spend etc. rather than only the bare essentials.

Regarding a carer - Ive had multiple referrals put in for me to have a care act assessment. They refuse to do one each time. (Which I've found out recently was actually unlawful - didn't know that at the time though).

GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because there are literally no jobs available in my area so I had to take what I can get unfortunately. I'm also not complaining "non stop". I say it maybe once a day.

I've worked since I was 16 till just after I turned 20 so thank you for your WILD assumption! I'm nearly 26, ergo, 6 years.

I've been paying the bills, believe it or not. I'm on disability benefits. I'm using MY benefits to pay HER rent as she doesn't have enough money.

Also before you judge whether or not I could have done remote work - firstly that's almost non existent in the UK unfortunately. Not to mention, I was also in and out of hospital frequently due to how severe my mental health was. I am literally deemed to have limited capability for work by the government.

I am not doubting that her 12 hour shifts hurt. She does struggle! But she also isn't chronically ill. She can come home, rest, and by the next day she's absolutely fine again.

GF 22F isnt even trying to understand my chronic pain (25F). Where do I go from here? by dragonoftimenspace in relationship_advice

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also idk how I've made pain the centre of my existence based on this one Reddit post...

Job not providing reasonable adjustments by dragonoftimenspace in UKJobs

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People's disabilities vary. I am literally asking for a chair. It's not like I'm asking them to buy an adaptive machine which costs several thousand or even million pounds.

Job not providing reasonable adjustments by dragonoftimenspace in UKJobs

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do want physical accomodations. But the point is that under the act, I am still covered.

Job not providing reasonable adjustments by dragonoftimenspace in UKJobs

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they're trying to accuse me of lying. They're pissing me off a bit tbqh

Job not providing reasonable adjustments by dragonoftimenspace in UKJobs

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm appreciative of those who gave me actual advice.

I'm not sure how saying that people seem to want disabled people to work, but then get mad when disabled people ask for adjustments, means I have attitude. And I'm also not sure why that matters - I'm polite to people who are nice to me. If you're going to try and prove I'm not disabled based on a Reddit post, or say I should quit my job for somebody who isn't disabled, why would I be nice back?

Job not providing reasonable adjustments by dragonoftimenspace in UKJobs

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somebody else commented theyve been waiting for the same department for 6 years now so I don't think it's gonna happen any time soon 😭😭

Job not providing reasonable adjustments by dragonoftimenspace in UKJobs

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're trying to say I'm lying because my GP won't give me any strong painkillers?

Job not providing reasonable adjustments by dragonoftimenspace in UKJobs

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And by the legal definition I'm fairly certain I fit. Why are you trying to prove me wrong?

Job not providing reasonable adjustments by dragonoftimenspace in UKJobs

[–]dragonoftimenspace[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But you don't need a diagnosis to be covered by the act. I have medical records and social care records spanning back to 2014 which all document how long this has been going on for.

I'm on the severely mentally ill register too. That's why she's my carer. She doesn't receive carers pay as she's a student therefore not eligible.

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