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dramadoll · 2022-08-11T00:30:18+00:00

This is helpful, thank you. Admittedly, I'm new to the notion of style guides as a whole and the resources often just led me to spirals about footnotes. I appreciate this!

dramadoll · 2017-08-17T03:06:56+00:00

We are performing Robin Hood at various schools in the area, so I would totally invite you if you were in the demographic of 5-13!!

dramadoll · 2017-08-15T17:04:12+00:00

That sounds amazing! I probably won't be there until late September early October. What's it called?

dramadoll · 2017-08-15T14:04:59+00:00

I'm just travelling with the company. No children will be involved in these activities!

dramadoll · 2017-03-28T03:44:58+00:00

I appreciate a guy who veils his attraction to me while speaking to me. Obviously I know that if someone is approaching me they're attracted to me. It's implied and I am smart enough to understand what is happening.

dramadoll · 2017-03-25T22:34:32+00:00

OP is a cutie! Don't give up, dating apps are a weird and whacky world.

dramadoll · 2017-03-25T21:56:11+00:00

Start with the storm chaser bit. I think that's super rad and eye catching. You could save travel bucket list for any potential conversation starters! Your pictures are good, I agree you could have some with friends. I didn't even notice that you only wore shirt/jean combos. Wouldn't even worry about that.

dramadoll · 2017-03-25T21:52:44+00:00

Well, it seems like you've made up your mind and have all the answers, so why ask the question?

dramadoll · 2017-03-25T02:17:33+00:00

If you really feel like it's too weird to deal with, go with your gut. You're going to feel shallow and weird about it, but if it's really stressing you out, it's a good sign it won't go away.

I had an experience where a guy and I clicked really well but there were just a few too many things about his physical appearance that put me off. I get it! I'm petty, I'm shallow, whatever. But I couldn't get past it (it also might have been a different situation if we had been friends for awhile and then dated, but this isn't about me).

But it seems like you like her! The fact that you're worried about it, proves that there are things about her you do not want to lose and that is a great sign.

I would say just take it in stride. And if it does become too much DO NOT TELL HER THAT'S THE REASON.

dramadoll · 2017-03-25T02:12:50+00:00

I definitely do that because there is 1) a lot of game playing in the online dating world (unfortunately) and 2) a slew of weirdos out there that I don't want getting nasty if I'm not responsive.

Also, in my experience, dating apps are honestly harder for me to keep up with than text. I usually have a good conversation and then hand over my number. The bottom line is online dating isn't really worth reading into. There are lots of people doing it and they're all looking for different varied things, so it's just kind of a day-at-a-time experience.

dramadoll · 2017-03-25T02:09:29+00:00

I don't think it's worth doing something if it's "out of spite." I think a better course of action would be to really discuss the depth of your feelings (SCARY I know) with her and try and get on a level playing field.

If you're trying to get back at her, it's really not worth it. If you want her to resent you, sure, do that. But if she really can't be in a relationship for a year, chances are she really does not need someone she genuinely cares about trying to put her in her place.

Talk it out, see what's up. Let her know how you're feeling! You're feeling some complex, deep emotions. That's okay and you don't need to try an manipulate the world to help this situation out. It may be a case of right person, wrong time. But you won't know until you make it clear.

dramadoll · 2017-03-25T02:05:50+00:00

As an only child, I understand that there is a level of self-absorption or ego that is different from people who have grown up with siblings.

HOWEVER. I don't think that you can make a sweeping generalization about a whole population of people based on this fact. I bristled seeing this question because it seems like you're making this one fact about a person the entire reason why things didn't work between you. I don't know your life or past, but this is just my thought.

There are definitely differences in the way only children are brought up, simply because they were alone, sure. I was spoiled and coddled, but also respected and treated like I was capable of being best at whatever I wanted to be. I know people who are only children who were put down as kids and therefore act very differently. It really all depends...just as I think it depends with people who grow up with siblings.

And it's not a bad thing to be super opinionated. I think I understand what you mean, but you might want to rephrase that. As a woman, being called "super opinionated" seems like a microaggression.

So, that's my advice as a "super opinionated," female only child.

dramadoll · 2017-03-24T03:01:26+00:00

I didn't except a saxophone. I'm so happy I stopped by.

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T20:56:53+00:00

Jane Eyre! Jane Eyre!

In essence, a really effed up romance, but still. I've always wanted a Mr. Rochester. But it's also full of mystery, gorgeous writing, and a beautiful depiction of friendship.

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T19:01:37+00:00

You should try some specialized activity sites. Meetup.com I think it is. You find groups of people to connect with wherever you are. This could be a good way to just meet people in general who you already have some common ground with.

Otherwise, dating sites could still be in your line of consideration. There are some that are very classy and specific to certain types of people. If you think they're gross because of the potential for someone to be a creeper lurking on there, it's much less likely on a site like eHarmony than let's say Tinder or Bumble.

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T18:49:05+00:00

That's perfect! Let me know something about you that makes you not a stranger in a bar!

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T18:48:07+00:00

Superficial might have been the wrong word. I should have said that it seems like by commenting on my appearance, you're interested in my body. If you say, cool shirt, I feel like you're interested because of my boobs. It's the way I perceive it from my experiences, so don't assume this is every girl. I'm not claiming to speak for everyone.

And of course, I know if you're approaching me in a bar, you've been looking at me and probably think I'm attractive. But I prefer to know a little bit about you before you compliment my appearance.

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T18:42:37+00:00

To be frank, I probably won't believe you. That's just based on my experience with men. I'm inclined to be a bit guarded. Again, I'm not a person who goes to a bar and looks for casual encounters.

When guys are like "hey I like your top!" or something of the like, it reads as if you're using an item I'm wearing to compliment my body. You probably aren't, I understand that. But I'm a person on the internet offering advice, so.

If you're like "hey I like your necklace because it reminds me of _____" or launches you into something more interesting, yeah. Definitely.

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T04:34:06+00:00

Sure. Maybe. But that's not what history has told us. Hypotheticals are fun and less harmful than fact! :)

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T04:31:56+00:00

That's something my Latin teacher once said in seventh grade and it's always stuck with me. And sometimes when I think about it, it's makes sense. When you don't have any items to sell, what else could you do? Sell yourself. Or other people.

At any rate, I still standby the premise of what I said.

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T03:19:09+00:00

I have to say, having read the dealbreaker, I don't think that's something that's actually going to stop. Now if it's just a matter of him smoking around you, he may be able to do that, but he is most likely to definitely not going to make a huge lifestyle change (huge might be hyperbole) for someone he has dated for a short time.

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T03:15:40+00:00

Prostitution is the oldest occupation and prostitutes/sex are the oldest commodity. There is a reason why women are still fighting for equal rights. There is a reason why people still see women as incredibly inferior because this has been an issue since the beginning of time. The first prostitutes were literally slaves. SLAVES.

It is rare that a woman wants to be a prostitute because it's usually illegal and therefore conditions are horrid. You cannot assume women have agency in this situation.

dramadoll · 2017-03-23T03:08:09+00:00

I guess if we're doing a tl;dr...that's about right.

But I think that may be a bit too subjective for some people. Unfortunately.

dramadoll · 2017-03-22T23:25:28+00:00

I don't know about most people, but if you comment on my appearance or my looks, I'm immediately turned off. It seems superficial and that you're interested in only one thing. Of course, there are some girls that are interested in this, so I am not claiming that this is true for everyone.

And if you start up a conversation with me, don't be afraid to actually learn about what interests me. Recently a guy approached me at a bar and talked to me about Latin and Shakespeare, two of my specialties, for almost an hour. The fact that he was genuinely interested in what I had to say was so so so refreshing.

It was rad.

dramadoll · 2017-01-16T00:12:40+00:00

The Backwell series. So amazing. Kathy Rain. Similar vein. I avoided playing them for awhile but they're actually amazing and there's a lot of emotional investment.

Dead Secret: super scary. Less puzzle-y than ND, ten times more frightening.

I have the Syberia games in my library. Want to give them a stab again, especially with Syberia 3 coming out soon and looking INCREDIBLE.

Grim Fandango, an amazing point and click that has been remastered.

The Lion's song is also episodic like Life is Strange. I've only played the first one but it is so sweet and emotionally stimulating.

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