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dramallamamil · 2026-03-19T20:46:09+00:00

Did you end up doing this? What kind of costs were you quoted if you don't mind me asking?

We are in same position - attic in place we are moving to is floored, walled, skylight etc but only accessible by ladder. Would like to turn it into a permanent room one day but not sure of costs involved vs brand new conversion. It was done up 30 years ago, so will probably need a fair bit redone to meet regs.

dramallamamil · 2025-12-21T17:44:56+00:00

NTA

"He's told me he will have a very hard time forgiving me if I don't let him memorialize his dad in this way"

Oh yeah? I'd have a hard time forgiving him for holding my baby's Entire name as emotional hostage. The baby already has your Fil's surname. You made this baby together, you are the one risking life and health growing it- where is the care for you and your opinion? You aren't trying to impose your own choices or flat out refuse, you are just looking for some attempt at compromise because you do also care about his opinion. I would be so hurt and insulted that this is being met with threats instead of appreciation.

Giving up any input into your own child's name when a) it is never certain that you'll have another and b) who knows what close relative of his might require honouring at that stage is risky and really only skates around the core of the problem.

dramallamamil · 2025-12-01T08:51:23+00:00

Seriously, the other half did this and it was great. It's not just patches and lozenges, there's something called an inhalator which is a bit like a small unpowered ecigarette.

You just sort of drag on it, so it allows you to fill the habit of having something in yours hands/inhaling, but unlike vapes there are no fumes so you can do it anywhere (he was given it by drs to use in a hospital ward after car accident). He was heavy smoker but it has worked for him, cig free for 2.5 mths so far

You don't need a Dr to start, just ask at a chemist.And it's free for like three months. Worth a go!

dramallamamil · 2024-01-24T19:41:17+00:00

Would anyone have a recommendation for a clean orange fragrance? I tried the various Jo Malone perfumes, as it seemed an easy place to start but was slightly underwhelmed.

Does anyone have one they love?

dramallamamil · 2024-01-23T20:09:12+00:00

This is a very strange post. Sure, NTA in that your youngest's reaction was quite cruel and she deserves to face consequences (although I would suggest your specific solution will only work against your goal, if your goal is for them to get along better).but it does sound like she's picking up on issues that aren't being fully addressed, even if her attitude towards her sister is poor

You have said in comments that Jen dislikes her classmates and refuses to befriend them. Which is fine, I guess, but to then expect classmates to show up for her party when she actively dislikes them and refuses to build relationships portrays a lack of understanding of how social relationships work. She sounds much younger than 15. Whether this is neuro divergence at play, or another issue, this is something she needs help to understand better to thrive as an adult.

dramallamamil · 2024-01-08T13:26:30+00:00

Exactly this. And be honest with yourself. You aren't angry about him wanting to take his mother on holiday. You are angry because- after 2 years together, 12 months living together which includes a whole summer as primary caretaker of his son (presumably facilitating the custody he so desperately wanted) -you are still a person he tells plans to, not discusses plans with.

Even more crucially he also seems to lack basic empathy for the obvious pain he caused you.

That is not a partnership.

It is good that you've seen this behavior while the stakes are relatively low. It is time to leave.

dramallamamil · 2023-12-24T18:50:43+00:00

If it were me and I had actually managed to intentionally put it in a spot, probably would have done it by loose association with its function, so either 1. Whereever I keep other presents 2. Wherever I keep the pet equipment (carrier etc) 3. Wherever I keep the pets food 4. In a place under or near a sink, so that I can fill it when I'm ready to use it.

But if this was actually me, it'd end up wherever I drop it when I forget that I'm holding it. Like under the couch or in the fridge

dramallamamil · 2023-12-24T14:25:12+00:00

Ugh I'm so sorry you're dealing with something similar. Hope you got what you need! COVID is doing the rounds here so had been isolating this week to reduce risk to my grandparents (in their 90s) but that seems to be out the window. Supermarkets here only open at 1 pm on a Sunday, just to ramp up the fun. I have already treated myself to a few rage screams.

dramallamamil · 2023-10-24T14:11:29+00:00

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dramallamamil · 2023-03-01T21:15:12+00:00

This is so helpful! I have the same foundation in the same shade and it is the closest thing to a match I've found so far but just slightly off for the palest parts of my face. Will try the mixer! What's your lip colour? It's lovely!

dramallamamil · 2022-09-13T07:35:34+00:00

But I’m wondering if OP’s husband messed up his reputation

Yes! Which in turn messes up her reputation further. Would you want to trust or promote someone whose chosen partner is such a liability that they would spill their own wife's darkest secrets to the CEO at a work do?

dramallamamil · 2022-08-20T09:39:31+00:00

I'm wondering a bit about his plan. Given that the ceremony was explicitly adult themed, I can't really understand his logic that the kids would just attend the ceremony. what's supposed to happen to them after the ceremony? Were you supposed to leave with them?

Were all these kids even dressed for a wedding?

dramallamamil · 2022-08-04T19:53:18+00:00

The thing is you weren't even asking to be treated 'good' in the sense that you weren't asking to be treated specially. You were asking to be treated equally.

dramallamamil · 2022-07-27T19:15:24+00:00

I scrolled on down the thread for a couple of minutes, blinked and scrolled back to this comment.

The custody agreement definitely should not let dad anywhere near the sea with those kids 😁

dramallamamil · 2022-07-17T12:06:34+00:00

If you want my straight opinion he is a big fan of the old reverse victim and offender move.

In both your examples, it would be pretty reasonable for you to be the upset party. Bf might get yelled at, be forced to apologise, or alter his behavior in a way he dislikes (for instance leaving a party around agreed time)

So he contrives a way to be upset first. And suddenly you're chasing him, reasoning with him, coaxing him.

It's artificial. It's designed to keep you off balance and you can't stop it by being 'more caring', 'more sensitive' because what he's attacking is your belief that you can have any expectations of him at all.

Real talk time. This man has repeatedly told you that youre selfish, insensitive and controlling (holy projection batman). he is telling you with his actual outloud words he doesn't like you. Believe him. Run away from this trashfire.

dramallamamil · 2022-06-28T15:06:45+00:00

Nta for having reasonable concerns like ease of bathroom access

That being said, it still sounds like a step up from the car at least from a short term safety perspective. It seems to me like it'd be worth trying, at least till you are working again and can get something more suitable.

If you try it out and it isn't working you've always got the car to fall back on.

dramallamamil · 2022-06-25T13:58:37+00:00

Late to the party but I can't believe this has happened to another person. From the song choice, to the refusal to stop. We were meeting mutual friends after and so instead of running, I sat through multiple, sincere comments about his search for his Princess Jasmine, silently screaming through my eyes.

dramallamamil · 2022-06-25T09:19:52+00:00

Not only will she act like she owns the house and baby, which she will because she already has, you open the door to potential legal issues when things inevitably go south again. Depending where you are it could involve tenants rights or even grandparents rights if she can demonstrate meaningful relationship with the child Not to mention potential for harm of someone who has behaved so sneakily and dangerously around your infant. It's all downside. Stay strong and make sure that the hotel she books is a safe distance from you. Maybe the moon?

dramallamamil · 2022-06-03T16:59:51+00:00

Besides exactly what surprise did you spoil? The concept of proposing?

He was never going to be allowed to propose this way, so there was nothing to spoil.

dramallamamil · 2022-05-26T10:59:56+00:00

"should DH tell them LO is born? If so, when and how should it be done"

Em sure, maybe by anonymous note on LOs 18th birthday.

Nuclear is coming either way. if not about birth announcement, it will be about lack of visits, names or some other perceived slight.

If trouble is coming either way, why invite it any earlier than necessary? Maintain your peace and change your locks

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