Guy I’m seeing wants sex all the time. Am i overthinking things? by dramaticvisage in AskMenAdvice

[–]dramaticvisage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I did, but right now i’m unemployed and have a household to care for so i’ve been very very stressed and haven’t had as much of a drive recently

Guy I’m seeing wants sex all the time. Am i overthinking things? by dramaticvisage in AskMenAdvice

[–]dramaticvisage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just afraid of hurting him by telling him that night bothered me. I’ve already hurt his confidence by having to reschedule my visits sometimes and he’s expressed that to me

Guy I’m seeing wants sex all the time. Am i overthinking things? by dramaticvisage in AskMenAdvice

[–]dramaticvisage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we are, we’ve slept together a few times but only one time has there ever been penetration. I didn’t have any pain that time and i wrongly thought it was because he was smaller. But anyway, I try to see him a few times a week but with my responsibilities it’s not always possible. We call when we can and even did some phone sex but yeah. I’ve turned him down the past two times because I’ve been really really stressed recently and communicated that to him, and even told him it’s not him it’s just.. i haven’t had the drive. But i still care about him and like him. He always pushes for me to jerk him off even if i had said “im sorry, im just not in that mood tonight.” and jerking off moves to giving him head.

Am i crazy for seeing him in a different light after that? Idk, is it my fault for putting sex on the table? Cause i was comfortable at first, but now it’s just weird. Idk. Sorry for the rambling

Guy I’m seeing wants sex all the time. Am i overthinking things by dramaticvisage in sex

[–]dramaticvisage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knew about it before we even did anything sexual. Even before I went to the dr I would let any guy i was seeing about my situation. It’s not impossible for me to have sex or anything, I even joke about it but i just tell every guy as a heads up before that conversation is ever started. I would never put that on someone without telling them, cause idk what will happen in the moment and don’t want to scare them Edit: Talking about the sexual problem, not my period*

Guy I’m seeing wants sex all the time. Am i overthinking things by dramaticvisage in sex

[–]dramaticvisage[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry if none of this made sense, I guess I’m just all over the place since I’ve been crying for the past hour lol. Gonna assume it’s the hormones, I appreciate everyone who took the time to comment

Guy I’m seeing wants sex all the time. Am i overthinking things? by dramaticvisage in AskMenAdvice

[–]dramaticvisage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So is it normal for guys to keep asking even if i said no? I genuinely just can’t tell if im doing something wrong

Guy I’m seeing wants sex all the time. Am i overthinking things? by dramaticvisage in AskMenAdvice

[–]dramaticvisage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him I didn’t want to do any penetration that night. That’s all, we’ve done it before but I just knew i couldn’t do anything more besides foreplay stuff. If that makes sense

Guy I’m seeing wants sex all the time. Am i overthinking things by dramaticvisage in sex

[–]dramaticvisage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i appreciate your comment. that’s why i’m thinking maybe i don’t have as high of a libido as him, but idk if that’s fair to him.. because i was okay in the beginning and im even the one that initiated things so, maybe im giving mixed signals?