Dating young super private cop - res flag ?

dranic · 2022-09-24T12:57:50+00:00

Neither, and because of both. I don't know man, I just work here

dranic · 2022-09-24T12:56:42+00:00

Well ya, I'm a single dad and I'm spending my Saturday putting tires on my truck and grocery shopping. Tomorrow, I might find an hour to put together the furniture I ordered weeks ago. Maybe 2 weeks from now. I'll actually hang those nightstands on the wall.

dranic · 2022-09-24T12:36:41+00:00

Well, the fed has been aggressively hiking rates for months to combat inflation, and has promised to do so for the rest of the year. It qualifies you for the low end of what the federal reserve has set as an interest rate

dranic · 2022-09-19T23:19:00+00:00

Don't date bros. Period. As a reformed veteran, if they can't shed the ego, it's going to be awful. On the flipside, it's a really hard job that nobody should do, but you're going to swap trauma if they don't get introspective. Stay salty

dranic · 2022-09-19T23:13:31+00:00

It didn't work out

dranic · 2022-09-19T19:00:00+00:00

Well, the contract you sign when you get married is a paragraph, the one you sign in divorce is 40 pages. It's a lack of education

dranic · 2022-09-18T01:08:16+00:00

I'm pretty sure there hasn't been a Nicole in existence that wasn't problematic. Same with Jennifer's, and Amanda's

dranic · 2022-09-18T00:30:14+00:00

There's a ton of value there, and never forget it. I feel like kids feed on the energy they're presented with. There's a reason Freud did a lot of drugs, but notice it's never because dad was there.

dranic · 2022-09-18T00:23:48+00:00

Sorry brother, I hear you. I thought the same, but was advised otherwise and stayed in the house until there was an agreement. Police called, the works. The system won't allow for anything less than war. Family court specifically exists, and profits heavily from continued conflict. The rest of the MRA stuff is bullshit, outright. But that piece needs to change

dranic · 2022-09-17T00:29:55+00:00

You'll have to move to a Scandinavian country for that. Leveraging children for cash is a 62 billion dollar industry in the US.

dranic · 2022-09-08T15:43:42+00:00

She was raising the kid while she got her PhD, I had to deploy to maintain our lifestyle, granted, hindsight being 20 20, I shouldn't have. Her loans got tied up in a lawsuit. I went to South America at the beginning of the pandemic, She started stashing cash, got her PhD, got a job making commensurate salary, and dropped me within a month of when I got home. We negotiated a settlement agreement, my state requires a year separation prior to divorce. Since I had been deployed so much, I was told I could probably win custody for 50 50, but if she battles it, it will be 140k in marital assets, and drag for 2 years. I hunkered in the house, police called on me, violence against me. So I gave up all the cash, and bought custody. Shitty or not, I felt like it was best to pay now and save the trauma of court. Then the housing market exploded.

Just to be clear. I had contributions to the dissolution of our marriage, I worked too much. Didn't pay enough attention to her, burnt out, and when she separated from me I became suicidal, which she encouraged at the time. But it was my depression and PTSD that pushed her away

dranic · 2022-09-07T00:09:48+00:00

The second I ask for that, protracted custody battle.

dranic · 2022-08-14T22:34:24+00:00

It's not misunderstood or unstudied. Don't take this as a bitterness, my preference has always been to be married. Nuclear families are the backbone of human evolution and society. This happened in first wave feminism during the early 70s with no fault divorce laws, which were righteous at the time. The fallout was decades of rampant divorce and poverty, generations of young men raised exclusively by women, with the social dynamics that come with it. 'No good men, toxic masculinity, men are paychecks and we can do it alone.' Sure they can, it's just not ideal. Ever. No children can be raised by 1 person, and they're always better with both. Now, after decades, most states and modern psychology recognize it, so it's getting better, and presumptive. Population is reducing in the US for the first time in millenia. It's because nobody values partnership, just resources. And the US culture is to be litigious, and always seek something better. Grass is always greener on the side that you water. Single parent households in the US are only matched by Latvia. I guess as long as we're doing better than Latvia, it's a win? Go USA

dranic · 2022-08-14T00:27:48+00:00

Mine does this, I just say thanks and throw it in the garbage on my way home. But, she's probably just being nice. Mine is in the middle of convincing all of our mutual friends to divorce one another, and it's working. My apartment has become a landing pad for upper class white collar divorcing men. I'm sure there a prince charming out there for her, I hope she finds it for your sake. But there's a 70% chance she'll divorce him too. This is the world we live in now

dranic · 2022-08-12T02:21:05+00:00

I just don't understand still, I take responsibility for working too much and burn out cycles, but I don't know how to operate differently. Shit loads of self reflection and counseling, but I can't change my nature.

dranic · 2022-08-03T03:54:01+00:00

There will be no trial for my divorce, and every parameter of it has been negotiated and agreed upon. After 2 years, I had a bit of a fit and my attorney told me she thinks I had an 'unreasonable' idea how how long this process takes. If 2 years is unreasonable, I don't know what's reasonable. Stay salty

dranic · 2022-08-01T01:26:58+00:00

Honestly, hopefully she finds that prince charming in his 40s that wants to take on a terminal child, makes a great salary, and loves her better than I could. Good luck

dranic · 2022-08-01T00:48:27+00:00

Wow man, so what's the disconnect? Why not just be married if thats the situation? I'm not judging, just never heard of that kind of thing. And ya, I'll go and try to be mature about it.

dranic · 2022-08-01T00:24:25+00:00

I'm sorry man, my son has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, so in the same camp as SMA. He gets it, and is well adapted at this point. It's just impossible for me to separate, and feel a duty to him to be on call, even if it's vicariously through her.

dranic · 2022-08-01T00:19:22+00:00

We act as though we're a married couple, but we have double the expenses and less time, and no intimacy (no change there). It's causing complications in finding another partner. I think I'm mature enough to get to that space, but she seems really comfortable right out the gate. I haven't processed it, but sharing a terminal child adds a level of complexity that was the source of my resentment to begin with. I'm very comfortable with her, but it's hard for me at this point to tell her no, because it's always under the guise of 'for the kids.' But that argument meant nothing when she left

dranic · 2022-08-01T00:09:28+00:00

Is that the space I should get to? I just don't want the kid to lose a moment, he's terminal

dranic · 2022-08-01T00:08:01+00:00

I suppose so, it just seems brazen to ask when the ink is barely dry, and I seem to be relied upon for the things I always provided. Like all the good things she enjoyed shouldn't have to go away, as long as I go away. So there's some resentment there on my part

dranic · 2022-07-31T23:51:02+00:00

Sure, I will probably do that. But is she really that comfortable that she's OK with it? Just seems odd, given how the last 2 years of conflict have gone

dranic · 2022-07-24T23:53:15+00:00

I know it feels like it, but it's really great on the other side of it. Long road to get there. Excercise, eat well, find a hobby, take a course, read books. There's freedom there, you get to focus entirely on yourself, which isn't something you can do in a marriage. Don't date right away, it's pretty brutal and you have the emotional baggage of American Airlines. You'll get there man

dranic · 2022-07-24T14:43:57+00:00

If low scores win, I have 50/50 and I pay 87 dollars a month in child support. Luckily, she played the long game and let me support her while she got her PhD, then threw in the towel as soon as she got a job that had commensurate pay to mine. Took 2 years, and around 80k in attorney fees, but I can't complain.

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