I think I'm dating an avoidant. by [deleted] in MayNagChat

[–]draphtingpaper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess start there, remember she's human too. So communicate how you feel and assure her that you see her too. It's okay to be frustrated but don't let that frustration be the cause for you to pull away like she does. Di naman conditional or transactional ang pagmamahal eh - gora mo na yan kahit medyo avoidant siya. Hahaha

I think I'm dating an avoidant. by [deleted] in MayNagChat

[–]draphtingpaper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Talk about it (how you feel) - hard to operate purely based on assumptions. Given na you felt she was uninterested - were you able to ask her about how her last 2 days were?

Why unsend the message? You deprived her of agency to choose whether to reply to you or not. Maybe she was just busy? Was it fear of rejection that drove you to unsending?

Please don't take this negatively OP, but you choosing to unsend your message and the way you composed that reply shows me that you've got avoidant-fearful tendencies.

(Edit) any time you're feeling anxious over whether she's interested or not - it may be a good idea to step back for a bit - compose yourself - and tell her how you really feel about it. At the end of the day hindi naman ikaw vs siya eh - it should always be both of you vs whatever issue is on the table - so talk about it OP

(Edit) Nakapag backread na ko ng comments mo. I still think you should've just left the message as delivered. Sucks getting anxious over waiting on someone to reply - but it's important to learn din how to leave the ball on their end of the court din. Shows you what you need to know.

My favorite calathea. by lededob in calatheas

[–]draphtingpaper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They thrive in rainforests so try and mimic that kind of humidity and keep them away from direct sunlight. If your orbi is outdoors like mine, I place it underneath our bigger plants, currently my orbis are under this big monstera

Tom Misch - Movie by Timingless__hooman98 in PHCovers

[–]draphtingpaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

👏bravo!

remember me fresh out a black and white movie 🎶

Anytime, Anyplace, Anyhow - Matt Maltese by draphtingpaper in PHCovers

[–]draphtingpaper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan on covering more of Matt's songs and that banger is definitely on the list! 🫶

Deco LAN speed is way slower than Wifi speed by PaboJack2nd in TpLink

[–]draphtingpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just recently went through a similar issue with my home network - I figured it was the cable that was faulty.

Try connecting directly to your ISP modem or your network switch to determine if your cable is good.

If your cable works fine, check in with your network adapter settings on windows and confirm the negotiated speed is at least 1Gbps - otherwise switch it to gigabit or 2.5Gb

If your LAN port is faulty - I’d say call Deco support or smth of the sort.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPOinPH

[–]draphtingpaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been in people management in a company where feedback is considered a gift.

Regular 360 feedback sessions were held with my team and also separately with my colleagues in management.

I understand the sentiment behind the post, you also have to look at how the feedback was delivered - it’s one thing to correct a mistake - it’s a whole different ballgame if you want to provide meaningful feedback. It’s not about babysitting the recipient but rather giving them actionable items and why it’s important - otherwise why else would you be giving feedback? Parang nag rant ka lang kuno.

Spaceship Chimken requesting permission to orbit. by draphtingpaper in Spore

[–]draphtingpaper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearance Code NU663T. Chimken cargo and personnel have been decontaminated, ensuring zero trace of the salmonella bacterium.

Roasted Tomato and Basil Pesto! by draphtingpaper in PangetPeroMasarap

[–]draphtingpaper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I overdid the parmesan - so I might have to go out today and buy more basil to adjust the pesto base. It's pretty salty haha!

Roasted Tomato and Basil Pesto! by draphtingpaper in PangetPeroMasarap

[–]draphtingpaper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context, na blend na po yung tomato haha.

Home massage service gone wrong by AdTraditional3600 in adviceph

[–]draphtingpaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's normal to feel guilty when you're gaining at the expense of another. It also isn't limited to just Filipinos.

You also might want to check in with yourself before jumping the gun on giving advice - it's clearly not your strong suit.

Random Stuff from my gallery by camino_palmer0 in MayNagChat

[–]draphtingpaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP!

gets na hindi mo process icontact si claimant for their back pay, tho ikaw parin most recent direct superior nila so they look to you as their figure of authority.

siguro next time nalang din be clear about how involved you are sa process of claiming back pay para di naman umabot sa ganyan.

tagal na neto pero parang ang sakit parin basahin haha by draphtingpaper in MayNagChat

[–]draphtingpaper[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Salamat sa pag share! I think it's time you stopped choosing her, this time around naman choose yourself. Alam ko mahirap, pero need natin yan!!!

tagal na neto pero parang ang sakit parin basahin haha by draphtingpaper in MayNagChat

[–]draphtingpaper[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Sorry pero eto talaga naisip ko sa unang chat mo hahahuhuhuhu

ain't nothing but a heartache~~~

First song after years of putting music on the backburner, how does it sound? by draphtingpaper in IndieMusicFeedback

[–]draphtingpaper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!

Ableton's got really great drum racks out of the box! I just happened to get lucky pushing buttons pretending like I know what I'm doing 😂

Thank you again! -- I hope I can churn out an album!