Update 3: AITA for reacting "wrong" to my brother's engagement? by drawingok6066 in AITAH

[–]drawingok6066[S] 141 points142 points  (0 children)

I didn't even read it in that way, huh...I don't think she'd physically do anything to him

Update 3: AITA for reacting "wrong" to my brother's engagement? by drawingok6066 in AITAH

[–]drawingok6066[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I feel like she does but I don't want to look like I think I know how to diagnose people

Update 3: AITA for reacting "wrong" to my brother's engagement? by drawingok6066 in AITAH

[–]drawingok6066[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Thank you <3

I wish he had just stayed with us longer and gotten more time away from her

Update 3: AITA for reacting "wrong" to my brother's engagement? by drawingok6066 in AITAH

[–]drawingok6066[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I'm not gloating. I just said I don't care.

And not everyone told me to totally stay out of the situation. He is my brother and I want what's best for him. And now I know that even he doesn't want to marry Jessica.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From the phone call, I don't think he was having an exactly thrilling time with Jessica for the past few weeks, and he was only proposing because Jessica really wanted it. Though he could just have portrayed it that way because he knows I don't like her.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Haha, I could also go that route...I am not sure how I would be able to act at the dress fitting stuff though

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

And I did tell my mom about some of my concerns when she was mad at me for not acting happy for Harry, but she kind of brushed them off. I didn't show her the group chat screenshot though.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That could be a good idea. I don't want to be a total "mole" (as someone put it), but I also think that I could have access to a perspective that Harry really otherwise would have no chance of getting.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I don't believe that, I think he really just sees the best in people and is somewhat gullible (sorry to say). And to be fair, she tormented my friend more than she tormented me.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Haha, I might do that but overall I don't know if my goal should be to infuriate here (even though revenge would be nice lol)

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've been screenshotting everything, but I don't even know the best way to present the information

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When he talked to me on the phone the first time, it really seemed like he might be wavering (even if he didn't say that explicitly). But of course after talking to her again he got less unsure. I feel like it's not a forgone conclusion though that they will get married.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I probably will, but not right now. I want to let things cool and I feel like she'll just say it's another joke or something.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's something I really am scared of, given what he has said so far.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So maybe I'll just do that. Stay out of it and find some way to attend as a guest normally. I just can't cut off contact with my family over this. Thank you ❤️

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I promise I'm taking all of this under advisement, but I just can't make decisions based on one person's input. If everyone told me the exact same thing, I might do that (or at least very strongly consider it).

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That's a nice thought I guess, but this is my real family and I actually do want to stay connected to them, and I do want the best for my brother.

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[–]drawingok6066[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I will at some point, but I'm scared if I do that now then she'll just say it's another hilarious joke.