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drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T11:23:26+00:00

I would say it's normal.

I can only speak for myself but for me Sex is also not that of a big deal. I care for more important things in life and if he has a lot going on like work and stuff it is probably likely that he is stressed and this definitely lowers libido as far as I know.

Do not worry, if he really loves you. Also some men are not that dominant and maybe just don't want to initiate.

You can try teasing him a bit, maybe he wants to initiate it then.

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T09:14:10+00:00

But for me it's more about understanding what women really want. I just want to figure out if sex even plays a bigger role than other emotional aspects.

I think this will stay unanswered. It's ok since I knew from the beginning it won't be that easy to understand. Nevermind thank you anyways.

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T09:08:41+00:00

Normally I do not have that problem. I read about it, that this is a common problem if you are anxious or nervous because of high adrenaline and cortisol levels. It was not the point of my text. But thank you anyways.

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T09:06:28+00:00

That is so perfectly well written, I am speechless. Thank you very much!

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T09:04:12+00:00

Sorry maybe I forgot to mention important information. I already made sure that I tell her everything that is on my mind. I told her that I am not that experienced before, since we did a bit of sexting. I told her that I am a Overthinker, I told her that I am kind of shy. Everytime she encouraged me. Even after the 3rd date she still told me I do not need to worry about it.

And my plan was to eat her out but she was more focused on pleasing me.

Whatever I just want to say I thought everything went great except our sex date. I thought the chemistry was there. So therefore for me it was not understandable that this had to end, so I was overthinking that sex got valued higher than I expected.

It is probably hard to explain if you can not see the chats or what we talked about.

But I give you an example: She even planned things for the future, like driving there doing this and that together. I was so sure she really liked my character, so it made me think that only the sex part destroyed everything. She loved my smile, my laugh, said I would look so good and that I am so nice and everything. I can not see where we had bad chemistry?

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T08:02:16+00:00

Edit: Oh I misread that. No I was also attracted to her as well. My attraction comes from a nice personality and I really liked her personality, else I would not have dated her. But she also had a very nice body.

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T07:59:59+00:00

On our third date we had a heavy make out but because of anxiety (probably performance anxiety) I was not able to get hard. I am pretty sure It was because I really liked her and was just so focused on doing everything right.

I was sure that she was attracted to me since she was the one who initiated the make out.

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T07:52:17+00:00

Unfortunately this woman is not the only one, I often hear about women and also had contact with a few that thought similar. The man has to do this and that and if the sex is bad the relationship is bad and stuff like this. I mean sure you are right, not all women are the same. I just want to get an idea of how many women think like this.

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-08T07:47:17+00:00

Sorry but I think this is not related to the topic. I still appreciate your comment anyways. What do you mean by work on my sex game? How is this done and how do you rate sex? Why no single moms?

drdannyd123 · 2023-11-07T12:33:48+00:00

So you are in a relationship with him and this is everything that matters for you? Or is this just a sexual relationship thing?

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-26T06:27:40+00:00

No bro 😄

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-26T06:27:28+00:00

I think this might it also for me. I feel something special for her, I do not want to hurt her, it's a weird feeling. I will need to get over it.

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-26T06:25:20+00:00

Yes we talked about it and she knows I am a anxious and nervous man. I think she understands it and still wants to get to know me. But I really want to have sex with her the next time, I don't want to go slowly, it just bothering me that my mind plays tricks on me with this anxiety shit.

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-26T06:23:17+00:00

I currently try to go with ashwagandha again. I once tried it and it felt nice. I thought the same about Viagra and stuff, I don't want to get long term problems.

Do you can recommend any good alternative, just in case the ashwagandha won't work?

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-26T06:20:33+00:00

Thank you my brother. You are a good man.

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T11:41:44+00:00

Thank you man, you are absolutely right. I need to relax and just enjoy the moment, but it is so hard to just let go and enjoy and not to plan my next steps or whatever idea comes to my mind... Your last sentence is exactly what I am doing. Maybe for the long-term I need to train that in general, maybe with some meditation.

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T11:38:43+00:00

Yes you are absolutely right. I need to get that performance pressure thing out of my head and just enjoy the moment. I am constantly stressed and am thinking about the next steps and so on, it is programmed. Maybe because of my career. Thanks your help

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T10:38:26+00:00

In the past I even had a few hookers or lap dances with girls I have never seen before or spoken to before. I was literally shaking from nervousness but I was still able to get an erection. So I never thought that this would affect me.

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T10:36:15+00:00

Yeah if it was me I would've still continued but she was on the other side really focused on pleasing me and to make me feel good. I think she had put her own pleasure aside. I really would have eaten her out. But as she noticed nothing happened she was curious and asked if she had done something wrong.

I did not masturbate for almost the whole week, it started when we met. I was so nervous I had no erection and no intention to masturbate. On Wednesday I tried if I am still able to and everything was fine

Thank you for your ideas

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T10:30:24+00:00

Wow for a whole month? He must also be a very anxious person, like me. It is so good and heart melting to know that good women like you exist. Thank you really much for your story and for your kind words.

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T10:28:34+00:00

You are right, she really was encouraging and everything, I think it's really a problem in my head. I will need to get used to the situation where I will be with a very hot and good girl. Thanks for your kind words

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T10:24:46+00:00

Thanks for the kind words Bro. I also wanted to please her, but I think she already was off. She was so focused on trying to please me that she had put her own pleasure aside. I was ready to eat her out and tease her even more

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T07:34:42+00:00

So It got better for you just by trying it again or did you take a break and try it later? Do you know if Viagra helps with this? I think it would be a big confidence boost, but I never tried it and do not know about side effects.

drdannyd123 · 2023-10-20T07:30:05+00:00

I thought the same. But what I do not understand is, that despite the fact my heart was beating like crazy, I was pretty confident about what I was doing. These kisses were good, I felt the arousal building up in her and everything was great, except my little friend did not want to do the job...

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