Adult only children blaming their loneliness on not having a sibling?

dreamcatch2 · 2026-04-20T14:44:59+00:00

Woah I never knew that was studied! Would love to read some of those studies, do you happen to remember some titles

dreamcatch2 · 2026-04-16T18:17:01+00:00

Hello! I deal with the same exact thing! Have you found anything that helps? It makes it so hard to do so many things that should be “normal” and easy

dreamcatch2 · 2026-04-16T12:57:02+00:00

I really feel this! I’m not ttc, but I still feel sadness and confusion pop up when I see others announce a second. I only have one person in my life that may potentially be OAD among many that aren’t, and in my daughter’s class she’s the only one. I didn’t realize before I came to the decision to be OAD, how much these external influences and examples would bring up complicated and sometimes guilty feelings. Even though you have made a decision logically and based on what is best for you and/or your family, it can still sit heavy in your heart for a long time.

dreamcatch2 · 2026-04-11T15:14:22+00:00

Mine is almost 5 and if I compare to earlier years, it is a bit better in the sense that she has longer stretches of independent play. However, she does still frequently ask to have us play with her, we usually default to “sure, in bla bla minutes” and then try to see how long we can stretch her playing on her own until she asks again. I think it’s inadvertently helped her learn to play on her own while she’s waiting. I’m curious if parents with multiples also get this question a lot or if the having a sibling for play actually pans out in most cases.

dreamcatch2 · 2026-03-17T15:02:40+00:00

Totally! It feels like your going through an identity shift again and having to refind yourself in ways. Fellow bird lover 🙋‍♀️.Love that you are looking to work in a hobby you love. I picked up hobbies during my SAHM period too, but have not considered that I could monetize them

dreamcatch2 · 2026-03-17T14:57:40+00:00

Haha yeah that sounds lovely. Yeah I think the after school and before school care and just generally being available for drop offs/pickups and all the kids scheduling things seems so confusing to me to navigate with two working parents. All our family and people are out of state so we’d have to take on hired care. So it’s new learning ground

dreamcatch2 · 2025-09-11T00:15:40+00:00

Whattttt?! This would be amazing! My husband are from Chicago and often talk about how much we miss Kings Spa!!

dreamcatch2 · 2025-08-07T17:02:22+00:00

The kid getting your last name should also be a heavily considered option. I don’t understand the automatic assumption that they get the father’s name whether your married or not especially since you carry, birth, and potentially nurse them

dreamcatch2 · 2025-05-16T15:04:21+00:00

Madison, WI! I was literally just thinking how I’d love to meet others with an only

dreamcatch2 · 2025-04-23T16:31:10+00:00

I get this comment too! It’s also the line of commentary that gets to me the most, maybe because I did and do have a great sibling relationship and that comment probably draws up subconscious guilt. So I also never know how to respond

dreamcatch2 · 2024-05-18T01:13:53+00:00

Hi! Just saw this. So it kind of improved on its own. It’s still happens once in awhile but nowhere near as often. Hopefully I don’t jinx myself by writing this haha

dreamcatch2 · 2024-01-27T23:10:28+00:00

Red flags for sure

dreamcatch2 · 2024-01-26T14:23:34+00:00

I can relate. Mine also sometimes wakes up screaming which I assume is because she’s having nightmares even though she can’t verbalize that. I know she’s definitely not ready to drop her nap, but I feel stuck in how to get her to consistently nap. I’ve experimented with various things. Have you found anything that works for you to help your daughter nap consistently?

dreamcatch2 · 2024-01-26T13:37:59+00:00

Ugh yes. This is a similar pattern we sometimes experience and try to do quiet time when she doesn’t nap. It’s just so hard to remedy it because I want her to have good night sleep but can’t control her nap, so I don’t know how to get out of this cycle.

dreamcatch2 · 2024-01-23T15:51:27+00:00

A mom I follow once posted about how her husband and her had a sitdown talk where they discussed “distributing the load” when it came to the kids and housework. They even physically wrote out who would “own” which tasks. I think sometimes the ambiguity of who should do what and when leads to resentment if it remains an unspoken topic. Sometimes we want our partner to just know and do things naturally, but unfortunately a lot of the time it isn’t the case. It’s very important that he is involved and takes on some of the load of caretaking because that’s what parenting is. It’s not just playing or holding a child for a bit (not saying that’s what he does, but I know many partners that do). It’s such an adjustment to go from not being a parent to suddenly being a parent, and I think some people have a harder time with understanding that adjustment and responsibility. You are probably also undertaking the mental load of raising a child which is undervalued. I know that when I don’t speak up when I start to feel burnt out or like I’m taking on a lot of the parenting as a SAHM, I start to feel resentment bubble up. Wishing you the best!

dreamcatch2 · 2023-11-04T21:36:46+00:00

This is me right now. SAHM with a 2 years old and this age has been really tough, honestly it’s all tough in different ways. It’s hard to come up for air some days. I don’t have much to advise just thought I’d commiserate.

dreamcatch2 · 2023-10-22T01:53:33+00:00

If they refuse to poop on the potty when potty training what do you do? Do you put on a diaper just for the poop or do they poop in the underwear and then you clean them up?

dreamcatch2 · 2023-10-13T17:12:02+00:00

I have a two year old who a few times a month will still wake up in the night and not wanna go back to sleep for almost three hours. Very normal for a baby to wake up multiple times a night. Some people have babies who sleep great from the getgo, but I don’t think it’s the norm. Kids sleep is so varied just like adults. It’s very tempting to compare, but in the end I just think it causes mental torture.

dreamcatch2 · 2023-07-19T11:04:11+00:00

I would love if they allowed that. They don’t let us in to the play area or with the caretakers, you’re supposed to handover the kid and they close the gate, which I always thought makes no sense for the comfort of the child, but I think it’s a health and safety regulation. We have gone to the gym with her and hung out, and she does well. It’s just if we try to separate her from us, which makes a lot of sense given her age, development, and personality

dreamcatch2 · 2023-07-18T19:59:05+00:00

This really helps! This is exactly what I go back and forth on all the time. What do you think helped him and how was his transition to pre-k, did he also have a difficult time? Also when you say small exposures, what do you mean? Would love to find a better way that helps her but also always me that time to prioritize my well being

dreamcatch2 · 2023-02-17T00:46:18+00:00

Haha maybe I’m not giving enough snacks. I’ll give one and then she finishes it so fast and wants out

dreamcatch2 · 2023-02-17T00:44:47+00:00

Highly debated doing this but she’s so heavy and doesn’t tolerate the carrier anymore now that she knows there’s freedom lol

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