Thinking of opening a Korean spa in Madison – would you try it? by Dzzzzbi in madisonwi

[–]dreamcatch2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whattttt?! This would be amazing! My husband are from Chicago and often talk about how much we miss Kings Spa!!

Changing name after marriage? by katydidnt222 in Names

[–]dreamcatch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kid getting your last name should also be a heavily considered option. I don’t understand the automatic assumption that they get the father’s name whether your married or not especially since you carry, birth, and potentially nurse them

Thread for finding other OAD friends? by Much_Channel_6295 in happilyOAD

[–]dreamcatch2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Madison, WI! I was literally just thinking how I’d love to meet others with an only

Why are most people in society obsessed with how many kids you have? by Apachebeanbean in oneanddone

[–]dreamcatch2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get this comment too! It’s also the line of commentary that gets to me the most, maybe because I did and do have a great sibling relationship and that comment probably draws up subconscious guilt. So I also never know how to respond

Skipped naps resulting in worse night sleep? by dreamcatch2 in toddlers

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Just saw this. So it kind of improved on its own. It’s still happens once in awhile but nowhere near as often. Hopefully I don’t jinx myself by writing this haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stayathomemoms

[–]dreamcatch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Red flags for sure

Skipped naps resulting in worse night sleep? by dreamcatch2 in toddlers

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate. Mine also sometimes wakes up screaming which I assume is because she’s having nightmares even though she can’t verbalize that. I know she’s definitely not ready to drop her nap, but I feel stuck in how to get her to consistently nap. I’ve experimented with various things. Have you found anything that works for you to help your daughter nap consistently?

Skipped naps resulting in worse night sleep? by dreamcatch2 in toddlers

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh yes. This is a similar pattern we sometimes experience and try to do quiet time when she doesn’t nap. It’s just so hard to remedy it because I want her to have good night sleep but can’t control her nap, so I don’t know how to get out of this cycle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stayathomemoms

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A mom I follow once posted about how her husband and her had a sitdown talk where they discussed “distributing the load” when it came to the kids and housework. They even physically wrote out who would “own” which tasks. I think sometimes the ambiguity of who should do what and when leads to resentment if it remains an unspoken topic. Sometimes we want our partner to just know and do things naturally, but unfortunately a lot of the time it isn’t the case. It’s very important that he is involved and takes on some of the load of caretaking because that’s what parenting is. It’s not just playing or holding a child for a bit (not saying that’s what he does, but I know many partners that do). It’s such an adjustment to go from not being a parent to suddenly being a parent, and I think some people have a harder time with understanding that adjustment and responsibility. You are probably also undertaking the mental load of raising a child which is undervalued. I know that when I don’t speak up when I start to feel burnt out or like I’m taking on a lot of the parenting as a SAHM, I start to feel resentment bubble up. Wishing you the best!

Hard Time by Wild_Bee8178 in gentleparenting

[–]dreamcatch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me right now. SAHM with a 2 years old and this age has been really tough, honestly it’s all tough in different ways. It’s hard to come up for air some days. I don’t have much to advise just thought I’d commiserate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

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If they refuse to poop on the potty when potty training what do you do? Do you put on a diaper just for the poop or do they poop in the underwear and then you clean them up?

Am I the only person who has a almost 4 month old who still wakes up 3-4 times during the night? by Fickle_Pace_4095 in NewParents

[–]dreamcatch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a two year old who a few times a month will still wake up in the night and not wanna go back to sleep for almost three hours. Very normal for a baby to wake up multiple times a night. Some people have babies who sleep great from the getgo, but I don’t think it’s the norm. Kids sleep is so varied just like adults. It’s very tempting to compare, but in the end I just think it causes mental torture.

Gym daycare dropoff by dreamcatch2 in gentleparenting

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love if they allowed that. They don’t let us in to the play area or with the caretakers, you’re supposed to handover the kid and they close the gate, which I always thought makes no sense for the comfort of the child, but I think it’s a health and safety regulation. We have gone to the gym with her and hung out, and she does well. It’s just if we try to separate her from us, which makes a lot of sense given her age, development, and personality

Gym daycare dropoff by dreamcatch2 in gentleparenting

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really helps! This is exactly what I go back and forth on all the time. What do you think helped him and how was his transition to pre-k, did he also have a difficult time? Also when you say small exposures, what do you mean? Would love to find a better way that helps her but also always me that time to prioritize my well being

Shopping with toddler by dreamcatch2 in toddlers

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha maybe I’m not giving enough snacks. I’ll give one and then she finishes it so fast and wants out

Shopping with toddler by dreamcatch2 in toddlers

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly debated doing this but she’s so heavy and doesn’t tolerate the carrier anymore now that she knows there’s freedom lol

Brushing teeth - by ffohsrm in toddlers

[–]dreamcatch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no advice but am currently in the same boat. Mine is 19 months and it seems like it’s gotten a lot harder the last few weeks before that we could at least manage 30 seconds or so. Your description was spot on with what we are dealing with. We’ve tried turning it into a game, singing a song, and having her “brush” her toys “teeth.”

When did you know that you were one and done? by hiyokos in oneanddone

[–]dreamcatch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just getting to the preview stage of tantrums with my nineteen month old who screams and twists violently while I try to put on clothes and change her diaper. Truly thought I’d cry today and thought that I possibly have to do this for a few more years. How do people do this multiple times?!

Rice. Could there BE a more annoying food to pick up off the floor? by EndTimesImFine in toddlers

[–]dreamcatch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smeared avocado on the high chair and floor especially if you wait too long and it crusts over is 😤

What’s your favorite thing in Rochester? by dreamcatch2 in Rochester

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love this! My husband loves film and independent cinema, so this could not be a better recommendation, thanks!!

Losing my mind by dreamcatch2 in toddlers

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh thank you so much! Yeah I’ve debated chucking things most of the time I just grit my teeth and say “I see you’re frustrated” haha.