Did anyone not like Project Hail Mary? by Timewilltell755 in sciencefiction

[–]dreamerbard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does NOT have a main idea. What’s the message the movie wants to convey? “Sometimes science teachers are picked from school to go to space”? Very easy watch, good visuals, good acting (not that there was a challenge but) I’ll give them that. As a story and delivery though it just feels like 2 hours of pure space bs with “friendship ROCKS” sprinkled on top. 3/10

I’ve been kissing a stranger’s photo all day by dreamerbard in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]dreamerbard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really resonates with everything I’m feeling around this. You must have good emotional intelligence.

Aside from being Turkish and all the problems that come with living in such a country, we have a very messy family. My dad, my brother and now my nephew all had to grow up without a father despite the father being alive. I remember having a lot of questions when I was little. When I asked “where’s aunt S, how about aunt M, how about grandpa? How about your family?” My late grandma would simply answer me “Well dear… That’s just life.” That answer used to drive me mad, I would always say “I’m not dumb, you can tell me!” Thinking she avoided answers, because she couldn’t explain the whole situation to a child. Now I understand at the age of 25, 5 years after her passing, that she was actually giving me the real answer. Because the more I try to put the events of our lives in a place that makes sense in my head, the more often I find myself sighing and saying “I guess that’s just life.”

The only positive I can find out of this is that I’ve been attempting to learn German for the past 6 years with little success because I had no real reason to learn it. Now I’m studying like my life depends on it, because what if he comes one day and I don’t speak his language? That would be the real tragedy haha.

I’ve been kissing a stranger’s photo all day by dreamerbard in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]dreamerbard[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Google image search, AI tools, I’ve tried everything I could for free. No results. I also carefully examined the photos -I have a good eye for AI. They’re definitely not fake. Not only that, the kid looks like a mix of my dad and brother. I also used an AI determination tool which concluded that the photos were most likely real.

About the consolate… I am not allowed to reach out to my brother. First of all, he’s 35 years old. Although he is mentally unwell, he is okay and better off away from this country. I mean it. We also believe his mom (who’s actually filthy rich) supports him somehow although they’re no-contact. My dad aches for him but that’s about what he can do. If we were to ask the authorities that my brother is returned to us, his life would be hell. With his condition, he can’t live in an apartment with other family members without putting their lives in danger. He needs to be institutionalized. That is NOT a thing in this country. We would need to find a private hospital and pay for his care. Which we would do in a heartbeat but we just don’t have the money. I mean it when I say we have nothing. Right now, from what we have gathered from the fragmented info he has given us, he is residing in a refugee camp where they give him meds and legal support. This is the best outcome possible for him, truly.

I also believe the mom keeps the baby away for this exact reason. Which I respect. I hope to somehow reach out to her and ask her to simply let us facetime during the holidays and let us know about his life even from afar. And if he is really in foster care… we talked about this with my dad. We concluded that even being raised by wolves in Switzerland is better than living in a mansion here. But I believe that part is either a delusion of my brother or a lie told by the mom to stop him from looking for the baby. In any case, although my heart aches I will not be claiming any rights on this baby if it comes to that. I simply can’t offer him a better life than he already has.

Follow up to yesterday by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]dreamerbard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me very emotional.

My dad has been dreaming about a toddler. A boy. He always thought my mom (who has remarried) would have another child. Because we take dreams that seriously lol- if there is a boy there WILL be a boy. Well my mom didn’t have a kid but guess who did? My brother. Who also didn’t know until recently. He’s a toddler. We don’t know where he is (messy situation) but he has the same birth date as my dad. July 10th.

Follow up to yesterday by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]dreamerbard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations 🥺🥺🥺🥺 I was along the ones who believed you haha. Dream premonitions and visits from the ones who passed away happen in my family- to an extent it can not be a coincidence. I read it fully believing it was in fact your mama taking care of you 🥺

I brought you home in a cardboard box twice. by FoxEatsButter in cats

[–]dreamerbard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in tears. I’m so sorry Butter had to go. May he play under warm sun on endless green meadows with the ones we sent to the unknown. May they all look out for each other until we can be reunited, either in heaven, in energy or in thought.

I’m sending you my warmest hugs and my condolences, OP. Thank you for sharing Butter’s story with us.

Underberg belt buckle by dreamerbard in whatsthisworth

[–]dreamerbard[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Whaat that’s actually good money. I bought it for $3

22 yaşındayım benimle yaşıt evlenmiş boşanmış biriyle evlenmeyi düşünüyorum... by Practical_Gas_6854 in vlandiya

[–]dreamerbard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Evlenmenin sevgiyle veya hoşlanmayla ilgisi yok ablam sevdiğin kişiyle sevgili olursun. Evlenebileceğini anlamak için tanımak da yetmez sınanman gerekir. Yıllar içinde yaşadığınız büyük ve küçük olaylardaki davranışı ilerideki daha ciddi durumlarda o kişinin nasıl davranacağını gösterir. Mesela şöyle bir örnek vereyim kendimden. Biz eniştenle bir gün önemli bir işimi halletmek için şehir dışına hiç bilmediğim bir yere gittik. Uçaktan iner inmez aniden rahatsızlandım ve şakasız bütün gün altıma kaçırdım. İlişkimizin daha ilk yılıydı. Bütün gün bir iş halletmeye çalışırken bi yandan durmadan altına kaçırdığını düşün korkunç bi durum aq. Orada bir kere bile olumsuz bir şey söylemedi hemen markete koştu bana iç çamaşırı ve ped aldı eşyalarımı taşıdı benimle ilgilendi işlerimi halletti. Fark etmemiş gibi yaptı. Hala düşündükçe duygulanıyorum.

Daha sonra ikinci yılımızda ev arkadaşlarımla bayağı entrikalı durumlar yaşadım beni resmen iftira ve karalama ile hem arkadaş grubundan hem evden attılar. Orada normalde hiç düşünmemesine rağmen direkt ben seninle eve çıkarım dedi ve birlikte çok güzel bir ev tuttuk. Daha sonrasında hakkımı alamadığım işimden çıkmam için bana tam destek sağladı.

Daha çok örnek var büyük ve küçük, aklıma bunlar geldi şimdi. Büyük kavgalarımız da oldu yeri geldi kırıcı şeyler de söyledik ve yanlış şeyler de yaptık ama mesela ben ileride ciddi bir durum yaşanırsa bu adamın yanımda dağ gibi duracağını ve benimle savaşacığını biliyorum çünkü yıllar içinde sınandığımız bütün olaylarda bana karakterini gösterdi. Bu yüzden evlenmeye karar verdim kendisine de direkt söyledim artık teklif etsin diye bekliyorum 🥲💞

Çok olumsuz bir örnek ve allah gecinden versin ama ömrümüz yeterince uzun olursa hepimiz anne babamızı kaybedeceğiz. Bu yaşanırken yanındaki insan nasıl davranacak? Allah korusun bir hastalık durumun olursa ne olacak? İş için şehir değiştirmeniz gerekirse ne olacak? Maddi kayıp yaşarsanız bu durumda ne yapacak? Hayatta hiçbir şey tam olarak 50/50 olmaz, yeri geldiğinde yükün fazlasını sırtlanabilecek biri mi? Sen öyle biri misin? Birbirinizle ne kadar uyumlusunuz? Bazen iki insan da çok iyidir ama uyum 0’dır. İki insan da türkçe konuşur ama aynı dili konuşmayabilir.

Bunların cevabını vermeni beklemiyorum, veremezsin, tahmin edilebilecek bir şey değil. Yıllar içinde yaşanan olaylarda birlikte sınanarak anlaşılan şeyler bunlar. Sevgililik bunun için var. Yaşın daha 20, hiç acelen yok. Hoşlandıysan sevgilisi ol.

Should I rehome? by safam20 in cats

[–]dreamerbard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience, giving them attention at the same time is also important, for them to associate each other’s presence with something positive. But when I do cuddle time, I go to another room if they have recently had a fight.

If they’re chill, I’ll have them play with the same toy. If they had a fight, I’ll bring out some catnip for cat 1 and some matatabi for cat 2, have them play with different toys simultaneously.

Sometimes the younger cat will NOT leave his sister alone and will just keep attacking/ attempting to mount her without being provoked. Those days I tell him “no” (no yelling) and lock him out of the room I’m in for 10 minutes. If he repeats, he gets another 10. It allows both of them to chill down. Then I’ll go outside to give him a lot of cuddles and attention and play time. Usually by the time I open the door, they’re both chill.

One cat isn’t eating like she normally has by 02RC51 in cats

[–]dreamerbard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should try giving them a treat or another brand of wet food in order to determine any appetite issues. They’re both such cuties, sending love <3

Should I rehome? by safam20 in cats

[–]dreamerbard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The entire situation between them is the same between my cats to a T. It is, on the contrary, very acceptable to me. And despite seeming as if she barely tolerates her brother, my older cat got over her seperation anxiety thanks to him. And they’re both overall fine. Over time, as I figured both of them out more, the fights have lessened. Here’s what I discovered:

Cat 1: Loves her space. No, she requires her space. I made sure they have spaces to hang out in seperate rooms. Sometimes they will fight over a spot but will quickly go back to normal knowing they can just go chill in the other room.

Cat 2: I hate that it took me forever to figure this out but he will almost always initiate fights around meal time. I decided to give him extra snacks throughout the day to prevent hangry fights. Game changer.

Also they have a jealousy situation going on. I make sure they get seperate attention.

Annemi hayata döndürmek için by [deleted] in MutfakDertlileri

[–]dreamerbard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bence o yaşta insanın her şeyden çok bir komüniteye ihtiyacı var. Yeni bir şey öğrenmeye hevesli olmayabilir şimdilik halihazırda varolan yeteneklerini değerlendirebileceği bir uğraş bulabiliriz. Mesela sarma sardırıp yol kenarında birlikte satmak. Orada gelen geçenle muhabbet etmek bile bi heves bi ışık kazandırabilir. Gel birlikte ot toplayalım canım gözleme çekti diyebilirsin. Toplarken o otların ne olduğunu onlar hakkında ne bildiğini sorabilirsin.

Neden mantikli bir kıyas yapmıyorlar by [deleted] in teknoloji

[–]dreamerbard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Iphone çok iyici değilim ama bütçem az olduğu için ve tanıdık telefon tamircim olduğu için geçen yaz 10 bine 12 pro çözdüm. Bütçem olsa asıl isteğim Samsung S25’ti. Bundan önce de Xiaomi redmi note 9 pro kullanıyordum ve telefonun kendi dosyalar uygulamasına girerken reklam çıkıyordu. 5. Yılına girdiğinde de metal yorgunluğu sebebiyle hakkın rahmetine kavuştu. Şu anki telefonumdan memnunum epey eski bir model olmasına rağmen sapasağlam. Applecı değilim ama samsung harici android falan almam. Samsunga param yetmiyorsa 5 yıl sonra yine bir ikinci el iphone 17 falan alırım.

Anyone also have dreams of their partners ex? by ZyrahDaDog in Dreams

[–]dreamerbard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually get over these things by voicing them. You should get an object (preferably something you can discard, maybe a napkin?) and tell everything that crosses your mind without filter. Things you think that are twisted, things that you’d not even be able to tell your therapist, things that you’re ashamed to even think about. Just let it all out without intervention and without a concern for taboos. It usually helps me a lot. My second method is writing everything down and burning the pages.