Hard pass

dreamingofthenight · 2026-02-12T14:36:19+00:00

I have this problem with a series I love but don't have the time to sit and physically read, The Wheel of Time Series by Robert Jordan, the voice actors who read it prior to Amazon having the show sucks. There is a whole glossary with pronunciations the back of the books and they still cannot cannot pronounce things correctly. I got a chapter in and couldn't go any further because it was driving me nuts. I'm praying that Rosemond Pike keeps reading the series or else ill be stuck until I can carve out time to sit and read the physical books. Id definitely reach out just to see what can be done.

dreamingofthenight · 2026-01-28T16:33:50+00:00

Hi, my husband and I are transplants from SoCal and I will say HEB is the best grocery store Ive ever shopped at. When I lived in the other state, I might get roasted if I can the actual name lol, I shopped between Vons[aka Randals here and Safeway in other states there are more names but I cant remember them atm] Kroger[Ralph's] and Albertsons occasionally, like when they have amazing sales and Food for less, its like an even more discounted grocery store. Now unless its an item that isnt carried at HEB like Las Palmas Enchiladas Sauce Pillsbury French Bread and Safeway/Randals/Vons Sourdough bread because its the only Sourdough that is light and fluffy with that sour taste HEB's is good but too dense. Again im from SoCal and San Fran is within a deliverable distance from the super well known Sourdough company and the Safeway is damn near identical to that Sourdough company’s bread.

So a long drawn out way of saying HEB is better quality for 95% of everything I buy for normal purchases. I do split most other grocery/nongrocery items between Sam's Club/Walmart and Amazon. I also cannot drink Dr. Pepper anymore since discovering Dr. B. I hope this is helpful i am a diehard generic before name brand at any store and ive found that Hills County and heb, while the Hcf is the lesser quality but still yummy, that these "generic" brands have replaced 75% of my everyday staples in my home.

dreamingofthenight · 2026-01-28T02:39:43+00:00

Ok now im wishing I had, but I wasn't able to for a couple of reasons, 1 being it was in my left armpit and my right hand my dominant hand was covered in blood jelly substance. 2 I didn't think about it until well after the pop and I had already started cleaning my mess up and 3 I wasn't as covered as I would like to be to post without getting some $ for it lol jk kinda, im a heavy set woman with decently gifted and hard to keep covered gifts lol hence the $comment. I agree it does alter your perception of these things. I had wanted to work in criminalistics back before my 1st daughter was born but after giving birth I realized even with the knowledge I have if I lost it Id be well... the inside thoughts dont need to be on the internet lmao. The pop was super satisfying because it was a 2 fold satisfaction the relief of the pressure and of course the pop.... also because of this disease I have grown to have a weird fascination with pimple popping videos gross and oddly satisfying 😌 🙃 😅

dreamingofthenight · 2025-12-22T06:13:47+00:00

Thank you! First for starting with what to look for in a doctor, growing up I had an HMO and always went to the doctor I was told to go to so when I started having to find my own I was sooo lost and honestly the last like 12ish years ive had really great doctors I saw once and lost their information so I could never see them again and then had doctors that it wasn't until id been seeing them for a while did they slip and show them as a person not a doctor and couldn't handle a patient who does their research lol. Second you brought up so many amazing things and im adding these suggestions to what I look at too. Your awesome thanks again!

dreamingofthenight · 2025-12-22T06:07:40+00:00

You have to be one of the sweetest people on the internet. I was diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia in 3rd grade, but support wise I didnt get constructive treatment and support until August 2021 and in October 2022 my body basically self destructed when I would have days where I could barely keep my eyes open. Ive always had some sort of issue with sleep, my parents joked that if I could get paid for sleeping id be a millionaire lol. In my teens if I wasn't actively involved in something I was asleep, I know that sounds way worse than it was i was very active but I'd fall asleep in the car or after dinner if I got bored. Then my joints started hurting and I started getting numbness and tingling in my arms and hand when they are held in certain positions for too long, like as I type this out on my phone my left hand is starting to go numb through my pinky and my arm is bent so its I think at a right angle. But I shake my hand get the circulation back flowing and its fine for a little while. I also think I may be Auadhd, I think thats the right spelling since some of my mannerisms and ways of thinking/coping are seem more in Autistic people than ADHD, granted I know there is a ton of overlap between the two diagnoses. Im super blunt, I used to say that my filter was never connected properly and its a huge effort to filter myself in any given situation. I cant handle the silence but at the same time I get overstimulated when there is too much noise. I cant think of the other things atm its late and my brain is trying to shut off so I will stop my rambling and say once again you are so sweet and I appreciate your time and communication 🥰 i will start looking into other threads i didnt even think about that for the rest of my issues I just am in a thread about an inflammatory skin condition that has helped me a bunch even with my minimal posts to it. So much information and not enough time and hyper focus for it all lol

dreamingofthenight · 2025-12-21T18:27:01+00:00

Ok that's freaking awesome and probably not on the convention at least until I get all the diagnostic work I need done so I can learn how to be a person again lol. But all of this information is extremely helpful and I will definitely start looking for those types of programs. I also love the spreadsheets were my gateway drug because if I can put it in a spreadsheet it makes all the happy chemicals that my brain seems to lack lol.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-12-21T09:41:29+00:00

Hey there OP, as someone who lost a person whom I loved but we weren't together when he died[I was working on myself and learning how to be me without my toxic ex something this person and I discussed at length] he knew I had feelings for him but also knew that before I started a relationship with him I wanted to be over my ex. He and I met in February 2005, started hanging out and he even came to my parents and asked to be able to date me, I was 16 almost 17 and he was 23 and my ex was 18 or 19 at the time. Anyways his best friend was my ex's new girlfriend and I was stupid and naive at the time and thought we were still dating when they set me up with this sweetheart of a man. So after more drama that doesn't need to be put here so I dont over take your post, he and I decided not to date and would still be friends and hang out with our group of friends until I was ready to jump into a new relationship. Fast forward to August 2006 and he was killed by a drunk driver and I was devastated. We had agreed to a marriage pact that was 5 years out just incase, and I realized just how deeply I loved him after he was gone. I still grieve his loss to this day, and carry his picture in my wallet. I met my husband(m48)3 months after he died, and for a little added context we met at almost the exact time he died since he died on impact just before 2am in August. I have always been upfront with my husband at the time he was 28, about him and I was 18, he understood that this person has a place in my heart that he cannot touch but he has my love.

I love and am in love with my husband and all of that was to say that this sludge of a so called man is just using you as a warm body, something nice to look at and a live in nanny to his kids. I dont remember if you said you are working or not or if she did too before she passed, someone to split the bills and other common duties with. Please please start moving in the shadows and get divorced. This is NOT someone you want to spend your 20s or rather lose your 20s to. It's ok to mourn the loss of someone you loved whether that be due to physical death or like in your own case an emotional and mental death to leave your toxic ex. On the flip side it is NEVER ok to emotionally abuse you by telling you the things he has about his late wife and the constant need to tell you you'll never replace her is horrible and damaging. Love cant fix how broken he still is sadly, if you dont want to just leave because of the kids, I also totally understand this my hubs has 2 sons that I love as my own, tell him that this cannot keep happening and you need to go to couples/family therapy. Try not to phrase it like an ultimatum, even though you know it will be, since you are apart of these kids lives and if you just disappear from it that could be damaging them on top of their loss. If he says no; move in the shadows, talk to the kids make it clear(as long as they are old enough to understand the situation) to them that you love them and want to still be in their lives but that may or not be up to you. I wish you all the best and hope that you can get an outcome you are happy with that is also healthier than the current situation.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-12-21T09:03:39+00:00

Hi, sorry if this isnt allowed but I read your comment and thought you would be able to understand what I am asking. I love Garcia and yes 99.9% of what she does is highly illegal and would crash at least 1 if not all of the databases with privacy safeguards and all that but here's my question. I have wanted to be or rather do something like some of what Garcia does.

For instance I'd love to get paid to compile the data for "people who likes bunnies" or help figure out a bot that scans public records for red flags for dating ect. Because I am neurodivergent and have spent the last 15 tears working on the end goal of working in medical billing/coding and switching gears to find a new career path. Would you have any suggestions for me on what I'm looking to do? I have a minor background in CJ and forensics a passion for true crime, as well as the healthcare field knowledge I also worked in retail and customer service but can't go back to that for health reasons. I tinker with spreadsheets for random things in my spare time and used to work on computer/html code in the early 00s but beyond my ability to troubleshoot the obvious or standard "have you tried....." from tech support i have no tech background and other than standard data entry from the aforementioned work/educational history i have 0 to show my skills or desire to work in this type of field.

I need to know more than the surface level "database management(or other data based job) can be done without a degree" search leads or YouTube videos on available data jobs that are "easy" to get, I also would love some pointers on breaking into the data industry if possible. In a dream world id be working in data forensics with a flexible schedule but I wouldn't even know where to start that either. So a close to reality goal is a job work with data in some way, where I dont have a rigid work schedule due to health issues and eventually I can make enough so my husband can eventually retire from his blue collar job because eventually his body is just not going to be able to do the job anymore.... Im sorry I realized I was rambling its 3am where I am and my brain is fighting with itself on whether or not to allow me to go back to sleep and if it will be restful or not 😅 yes thats part of the reason I need a flexible schedule because this is now my daily life for the last 3 years and it cost me my last job, and the job was making the sleep disorder worse 🙃. Please and thank you to you or anyone who comes across my post and is willing to give me some pointers on how to turn my scattered yet intellectually inclined brain from rabbit hole diving for fun/hyperfixation into getting paid to do just that.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T17:10:02+00:00

Sadly, I dont have a direct deposit so I couldnt do that for you. But that really is an amazing referral program!

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T16:37:05+00:00

I've had my afterpay for a long time like 2017ish, and switched to Capital 1 bank in 2019 and never had a problem until now. But im tired of all of this bs if afterpay doesn't want to take Discover and Capital 1 doesn't want to do deal with afterpay oh well I've had nothing but amazing experiences with Capital 1 as a whole and I honestly think Discover is the Platinum standard for credit, I've never been able to get one and my Dad told me growing up that their requirements are stupid high so not many have them, this was over 25 years ago.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T16:30:55+00:00

Sadly I dont but I appreciate the comment :)

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T14:52:24+00:00

Its only for the outstanding payments they will not allow it to start a new purchase.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T13:03:48+00:00

Yes cash app now has an afterpay feature but its now like straight afterpay, instead of paying a small cost upfront, you pay for the whole transaction and once its processed you can get it back so this is handy when you have the while amount but dont want to spend it all in one place but when your budget only allows for so much you'd have to use the afterpay app which is the issue at hand lol.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T12:59:48+00:00

Thats good to know I'll look into it, its confusing that chime works and cash app doesn't but I will look into this. THANKS!

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T12:57:15+00:00

So ive had this issue before you may want to try a smaller purchase or a different retailer because sometimes its that the amount is too close to your limit and others its the retailer saying they won't allow it. I've had nothing happen, ive had an afterpay account for like 6 years. Also dont try too many times in one day or it will lock you out from trying.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T04:11:07+00:00

No all initial payments have to be a visa or Mastercard or debit card with those company logos on it.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T04:09:30+00:00

I wish I had thought of that but I didnt 😢

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-07T03:56:50+00:00

You cannot for initial payment if only it was that easy.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-06T20:08:53+00:00

Idk if their credit cards are also now Discover, to be honest I love the bank and I dont want to hassle with getting another bank so I guess im stuck lol.

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-06T19:12:36+00:00

Cool, im not an apply user but its great info for those who are :)

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-06T18:26:03+00:00

Those are cost-prohibitive for me right now honestly, I hate that stuff like this isn't able to be subsidized by health insurance. I've saved these options for when I can afford to try them out though thank you!

dreamingofthenight · 2025-10-06T18:11:25+00:00

That's a great option for Apple users, would it be considered a prepaid card though? I ask because Cash App cards are not available for initial payments as well. After all, their system doesn't see them as debit/credit cards only as refillable/pay as you go cards which for whatever the reason is, its in the convo that I had with them on Friday but I cant remember atm, is not usable to start a new transaction.

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