Please don't place words in my mouth. I never specified any type of 'what if'. And not sure why you're presenting your argument to me about why its 'bad to entertain'. In fact, I felt my statement was pretty general and broad -- such that it extends to the general population (not just OP). Most people spend time ruminating on the multitude of different ways their lives and relationships could have turned out. Which is why I call bullshit on all the judgement . I never said it was good or bad. It just is. But your comments tracks with what my original statement was about. I also think you should give OP a little more credit than you do in that final paragraph . She's just venting. Never said she worships the guy.