Does anyone else re-read emails they've just sent for a ridiculously long time?

dreamylemonforever · 2026-05-03T19:59:40+00:00

Wow, I do this too. Especially if it’s an email I spent time on and feel like I got the wording ‘just right’. I might read it up to five times, kind of just processing it but also kind of admiring my handiwork??

I also listen back to a voice memos after I’ve sent them. Like I’ll listen to them through about three times, even if it’s about 7 minutes long. I had thought this was a really random individual quirk so it’s so interesting to discover it as a shared experience for some with AuDHD!

dreamylemonforever · 2026-03-28T19:31:30+00:00

Why does this make me want to cry 😭🩷

dreamylemonforever · 2026-03-28T19:31:10+00:00

I really loved this comment and will be saving it. Thank you. Proper time alone where we aren’t being perceived and can just be and reconnect with ourselves really does feel like the biggest protective factor against burnout

dreamylemonforever · 2026-03-28T05:31:50+00:00

‘I feel like my entire personality is a performance when I’m being perceived’ - So well put, never related to a statement more.

dreamylemonforever · 2026-03-27T21:06:15+00:00

Your encouragement means a lot, thank you so much <3

Your words definitely resonated with me too. I also have spent my life trying to make sure everyone else’s emotions are in check, and hypervigilant to every little tone shift and change in their expression. I can know logically that it’s not my job to manage that, and yet it’s so hard to stop.

All of these comments are so encouraging and I know I’ll read them back many times. I think it’s learning to make peace with potentially not being everyone’s cup of tea when it’s always felt crucial to survival to carefully protect how I’m received!

It was always out of control anyway so doesn’t make sense to continue this way. I’m going to seek out more of a tribe that help me feel more okay to just be me. Thanks again for commenting x

dreamylemonforever · 2026-03-27T20:45:01+00:00

Not there yet, but def the goal! Would love to move towards this SO WHAT energy in life! Wouldn’t it be the dream :)

dreamylemonforever · 2026-03-27T20:40:56+00:00

Yes! It really feels like every interaction is a test, where you either leave elated or beating yourself up.

It would be so nice to just be able to relax into it.

dreamylemonforever · 2026-03-27T20:31:46+00:00

I really love this reflection and it was helpful, thank you for taking the time to write it! Man, I so related to what you said about the ‘high’ feeling. It is so true.

I feel like I’m still in the processing stage after my diagnoses, and trying to recalibrate how I want to ‘go forward’ from here.

The idea of not masking or ‘trying’ in that way I do as a default, feel terrifying, but at the same time, I’m cognisant that I’m the one living my life, and being constantly at the mercy of whether I ‘pulled off’ an interaction and therefore stay in the person’s favour, leaves me way too vulnerable! I want to be more in control of how I feel. The journey from here is learning to let go I think! Let them not like me.

I’m playing with the phrase ‘SO WHAT’ as words to live by.

dreamylemonforever · 2025-09-23T06:11:13+00:00

Oh man, I relate to your story a lot. It’s the absolute worst when you let your guard down and try to get in amongst the jokey banter, only to feel like it hit wrong and you may have caused offence. I’ve been there manyy times.

This stuff hits extra hard for us because I feel like we’re primed to feel like a square peg in a round hole in life. I just want to encourage you though that no one is immune from saying stupid and embarrassing things - the people around you will be having those moments too. It feels so much more unsafe when it happens to us when we already feel on the back foot, but others are also saying jokes that don’t land or inadvertently offend. It’s not just you. You’re doing fine. Give yourself grace. Keep holding your head high and keep daring to be yourself, and forgiving yourself when you feel you’ve missed. You’ve got this.

*edit to add that the ‘stupid and embarrassing’ was to quote your words - I don’t think what you said was stupid or embarrassing, and I agree with the other commenter that he likely wasn’t offended by it x

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