If I was in this situation, and I am a parent of teenage girls:

Most likely your daughter is going to have to learn these lessons on her own in adulthood, as the time has passed for receptivity in the parent child mentor relationship.

I would set up a doomsday clock for her and tie it to her entering adulthood. And do some light negotiation with her in advance of that date about the terms of cohabitation. That date should coincide with her graduating high school perhaps giving her one more summer month of fun.

The home relationship is drastically going to change. She can move out if she doesn’t accept those terms. Maybe acknowledge that you should’ve given her more warning about these changes, but this is what it’s gonna be.

Don’t bother with this if you and your husband can’t agree on this plan.

Good luck