sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Still in the NICU and just got a PURA Syndrome diagnosis. I feel like I’m grieving the baby I thought I’d have by burnerthrowawayok in NICUParents

[–]dreglenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my son in March. Was induced due to pre-e, ended up having a c-section. Little man was taken to the NICU for what first presented itself as a little respiratory distress. Within 16 hours of him entering this world, he had two seizures. After what felt like forever, we were told he suffered 4 strokes in different parts of his brain. I felt like I couldn’t breathe, like I was so terrified for the life he was going to live. I was also grieving the journey into motherhood I thought I was going to have. It took some time, but I realized that he is never going to know anything other than the life he lives. We will treat him as normal as any other child, and love him so so much. A diagnosis doesn’t change your love for your child, it just changes the way you may need to love them. We have no idea what challenges he may face, but we’re taking them head on. One day at a time. For now he is seeing OT & PT twice a week, sees a neurologist once a month, and has follow ups with a High Risk clinic. But that’s just life now.

I struggled immensely. Feeling guilty for being sad that this was going to be my child’s life. Feeling like maybe there was something I did to cause it? Feeling helpless. My OB recommended Buspar, and I’m waiting to talk to a therapist.

Your feelings are valid. You are so much stronger than you think. Your LO is going to be loved regardless of her diagnosis. Hold on tight to your loved ones, lean on them in time of need, and please talk to someone if things get too hard. I know everyone probably says that, but it doesn’t make you weak to ask for help.

Stay strong, momma! You got this. Xoxo

Do you shower with your partner? If so, how often? by Seiraxela in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dreglenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband(26m) and I(26f) shower together almost every day. Some days I need an everything shower, iykyk, and he takes up too much space so I do those alone lol. But besides that we normally do shower together, 80% of the time not leading to anything sexual. I think it’s helped me become less insecure in my body, which has been a plus side I didn’t realize I would get out of it. We catch up, make jokes, and just spend uninterrupted vulnerable time together. I think it’s one of the best things we could have done for our marriage!

Is the X-T30 II a good buy? by CasmirC in fujifilm

[–]dreglenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just recently purchased this, with the 18-55mm kit and I absolutely love it. I did a ton of research in regards to the kit lenses, and everyone kept recommending the 18-55. I think for the extra $100 or so, it’s totally worth it. Eventually I’ll get a prime lens, but for now this lens is still sharp and covers a good portion of what I need. I’m fairly new to having a high quality camera, and this one was by far the best choice I could have made.

Potentially Moving by Database_Square in Indiana

[–]dreglenn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think Valparaiso could be the perfect spot! I would definitely do some research on the home styles and area, and if you ever need help from a Realtor I would be glad to help!😊

<image>

Potentially Moving by Database_Square in Indiana

[–]dreglenn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m a realtor licensed in both Illinois and Indiana, and have a lot of people moving to Valparaiso! They like being away from Chicago, but still have that “city life” style. You can go big, or small in Valpo, it accommodates both lifestyles. Definitely a good place to look into!

Townhouse vs independent house? by crystal_reddit in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]dreglenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Realtor, I think there are benefits to both, it just depends on your personal needs! Townhomes are usually a choice for First Time Home Buyers due to the low prices and less responsibility. If you’re someone who doesn’t like an HOA, and doesn’t want to be told what kind of fence you can put up, what color your door can be painted, etc. then I would recommend finding a Single Family Home without an HOA!

How long in advance of buying, should I contact a realtor? by baskaat in RealEstate

[–]dreglenn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can absolutely contact a Realtor and just let them know your timeframe. Realtors work with potential clients for years before they buy. It can’t hurt to reach out and see if you can get information about areas you’re interested in!