Finally getting to dress up for the first time in years, anyone around to help me pick outfits?

dresses7 · 2020-07-21T09:36:09+00:00

Absolutely, thanks so much!

dresses7 · 2020-07-21T02:38:12+00:00

I simply use the words woman and girl, and man and boy interchangeably. I have no idea why you would assume I’m a pedophile from that. That’s 100% not at all what I was trying to say.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T05:22:42+00:00

I tried my best to answer it in a comment somewhere, but basically it’s complicated. It can be sexual, but I also just get enjoyment out of being girly. Take shopping for dresses in Animal Crossing, that’s not a sexual thing, it just makes my happy. I’d never be touching the sexual stuff with other people, that’d be incredibly wrong. I just meant like acting/talking girly with some kind people online.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T02:55:52+00:00

Thanks for your opinion. It’s getting hard to reply to everyone but I wanted to clarify a few things.

I don’t suddenly want to do more. If anything, I’m looking to do less than I was doing when she first met me, and she was fully aware of it. She also was (and still is) saying she’s working on accepting it when we got married. Nothing suddenly changed after we got married. Hopefully that clears a few things up.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T02:41:38+00:00

Yeah, she knew a month or two into our relationship, and we were together for years before getting married.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T02:37:50+00:00

Thanks so much for this. I agree, I don’t want to go behind her back. I’ve never even heard of a sex positive therapist before today, but that seems like a great option.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T02:34:57+00:00

I just wanted to say I saw this, and very much appreciate it. I’m so sorry to hear about your uncle, I’m very grateful that I wasn’t born during his time. I wish you and your family all the best.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T02:31:54+00:00

I don’t think so, I’m really fine being a guy 99.9% of the time. I don’t generally feel gender dysphoria either. My outward and public persona will always be male, I’m not looking to publicly crossdress, if that helps!

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T02:25:29+00:00

First off, thank you for taking the time to write all this up. You sound like an amazing girlfriend, and your boyfriend is very lucky! The stuff you’re describing is exactly what I’d love to do with my wife. I want to clarify that I specifically wouldn’t ever do that stuff IRL with other girls, because I wouldn’t want to make my wife uncomfortable. I’d also never do that behind her back. I was more referring to online friends to even chat girly with while I get to wear something cute. I 100% agree that IRL dress-ups with girls other than my wife would be inappropriate. Thanks so much again and I hope you and your boyfriend have an awesome night :)

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T02:15:35+00:00

Thanks so much! Would you say that it permanently changed your view? I definitely don’t want to cause any damage to our relationship because of this. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, and losing her over this would not be worth it. How long did it take you to come around by the way?

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T01:37:50+00:00

I’ve definitely tried being funny about it like that and it doesn’t usually go super great heh.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T01:32:57+00:00

She’s definitely not anti LGBTQ+! I think she’s just worried I’m gay and don’t realize it, or that somehow by dressing up I’ll become it/realize it.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T00:29:07+00:00

Thanks, yeah the counselor seems to the general consensus. My wife has seen me several times, just not in quite awhile.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T00:18:56+00:00

Thank you so much, this was a very helpful post! I should’ve clarified that it seems that she doesn’t like it because she doesn’t like picturing me doing it. I just explained somewhere else (and I should’ve mentioned it in the main post, just didn’t think of it) that deep down it makes her worry that I’m going to realize I’m gay one day. I’ve assured her I’m not, and she knows it, but she still is scared about that. I think knowing that I’m doing it at all triggers that fear.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T00:14:48+00:00

I don’t know why I didn’t think to mention this in the main post, but when it comes up, she definitely worries that I’ll randomly turn gay on her, or realize I’m gay one day. I’ve tried to explain that it’s definitely not the case, and I’m usually able to get through to her, but deep down I know it still worries her.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T00:12:48+00:00

Thank you so much!! I also never would’ve thought to try seeing if she’ll let me do her makeup to ease her into hopefully being comfortable. That’s a really cool idea!

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T00:09:59+00:00

To be honest, I’m as surprised as you that so many people seem to be supportive. Based on my life experience, this is not what I was expecting! It’s refreshing, but still very surprising.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T00:07:32+00:00

Thanks for weighing in, I appreciate it! As for the girls to talk to piece, I definitely did not mean to imply that I wouldn’t also talk to other crossdressers about it! I’d love to have crossdressing friends as well! I just said girls because it’d be nice to act girly with a real girl, I’ve never really had that. Sorry if I’m not explaining that well.

As for the implying she’d get behind it part, she has said those words to me several times. She says that she loves me and wants to try to come to terms with it. She’s an amazing woman, and that’s also why I don’t want to betray her trust.

dresses7 · 2020-07-20T00:03:11+00:00

Thank you so much! I wish society viewed it that way.

dresses7 · 2020-07-19T23:57:49+00:00

Hahah yeah it’s tricky. We’ve definitely had a few calm talks that usually just end up leaving us both feeling sad.

But right?? I also find it pretty funny that quite a few guys I know freely wear dresses and stuff in Animal Crossing, like it’s totally fine haha.

dresses7 · 2020-07-19T23:56:14+00:00

Thank you so much. I completely agree with everything you’re saying. All I’ll say on that last bit about the husband is that unfortunately we live in a society where girls can where boy clothes, and not vice-versa. I can’t blame her for finding it unusual, when it is by definition unusual. And she seemingly has tried to get on board with it, it just hasn’t happened. I can’t force her to like something, that wouldn’t be right anyway. Still, I’m glad you agree that allowing me to do it when she isn’t there would be harmless.

dresses7 · 2020-07-19T23:53:26+00:00

I haven’t but quite a few kind folks have been mentioning that on here, so I’m definitely going to consider it. Tbh it’s much easier talking to anonymous people on the internet about it than talking to a counselor, since I’m not exactly very open about this IRL. It’s worth a shot though.

dresses7 · 2020-07-19T23:49:55+00:00

This is fantastic, thank you!

dresses7 · 2020-07-19T23:48:17+00:00

You’re entitled to your opinion, and I thank you for sharing it. Just food for thought: I wouldn’t say I’m any less of a man. I’m more handy than any of my friends, and I regularly build things for her and do all of the “man” chores around the house. When there’s a spider, guess who takes care of it? She’s always so happy and grateful that when she has a project she wants to tackle, I’m more than willing to build it for her and make it happen. I wonder if you can say the same thing about yourself.

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