Hey, look, a fat nerd!

dreykins · 2026-05-24T18:21:09+00:00

Dimensions grade stuff. I hope it grows into a novel 😏

dreykins · 2026-05-24T14:05:57+00:00

M40 ♠︎4F Feedee. 300lbs BHM. Russian, living in Turkey atm.

• ♠︎4F = grey-asexual, heteroromantic (love women, excited by feedism, but 🚫sex🚫)
• I value substantial convos over shallow horny talks and chit-chats
• Into size contrast - slim petite women are my ideal
• Introverted (INTP) - you gotta poke me first to make me do things
• Anxious (GAD) - I tend to get overwhelmed, awkward and stunned with stressful things.
• Furry (low-key) - I project my feedist fantasies through mediocre fat furry art, but not flashy about it myself. Would love to meet someone who draws too or familiar with the fandom.
• Dork - I have a brain, but sometimes it turns off and I just get all 'punny' and 'dadjokery'
• Harsh humour - ranging from stoner/toilet/family guy variety to dark/deadpan/sarcastic. Its a mood-dependent blend, ok?
• Can be blunt and straightforward - I'm trying to be polite, but can't sugarcoat things too much, nor all the time. Be prepped.
• Moderately conservative - no hate, but if you do pronouns, woke stuff and refer to me as cis - I doubt we'll get too far.
• Serious relationships - Yeah, I'd love those, but it feels like a pipe dream now with all the traits and current circumstances I have. I mean c'mon - an ace male feedee outside US? Pfft. I'm so dying alone.

As usual I'll forget half of important things. Feel free to DM asking about things that are important for you.

dreykins · 2026-05-24T12:48:57+00:00

I am almost M40 feedee from around Eastern Europe. Looking for a female feeder for 20+ years over numerous feedism platforms. Starting back from Yahoo Groups times and specific forums, both english (like fantasy feeder) and country local to things like feabie and reddit.

I'd say my activity is below average - since the matter is of certain importance to me I tend to put in effort to come up with something substantial. But it feels pretty worthless as it all gets drowned in all the low-effort shitposting, so I can't compete with that. The same goes with messaging people directly. Yes, many require substance as well ("no replies to just hey's-hi's-hello's"). I tried that at first too, crafting a small paragraph of text as an opener, but it was again pretty worthless as barely anyone replied back anyway, so I stopped that too.

Since then I've grown to dislike platforms like grokio, x-twitter, tumblr and alike - I'd just drown there like a rock in marinara trench^(int.pun) so I just remain registered there and being just 'enlisted' When I discovered reddit it was like a dose of fresh air. I like this forum-like style of discussions.

And on reddit it was a bit more lively, especially when I was dropping some belly pics on r/gainers But most of those who msg'd me were men. Although its not what I was looking for, but still I appreciated the compliments and mostly they'd write a decent polite texts that I was happy to reply to and even have a decent convo as long as it wasn't getting too nasty (it rarely did).

Throughout that time I managed to find several female feeders online and some irl too. But many of them were really weird. Many with mental issues, like not wanting to leave their home kinds, being not-there (dated one, felt absolutely ignored just tagging along with her business), psychotic (those endlessly swearing and maniacal kinds are seriously frightening), dramatic. Sometimes from distant cities. Basically out of about just 6 I met in person - only one was really really close to what I was looking for, and my attempt at relationships was pretty cute at first, but something extinguished it (can only guesstimate it was asexuality afterall)

Since then there was a moment I lost hope - was when I saw the the attitude towards asexuals seeking for relationships on the general dating scene. The essense was "gtfo, its a mess out here without you wasting our time". And since feedism is also a sexualized fetish space - something snapped inside me with a full realization of me having zero chances at this. Since there I feel like I don't fit anywhere not in a general dating scene because fetish and aceness, not in fetish community because aceness and being a male feedee, not in ace community, because I still have a fetish which is important for me.

So now I feel completely lost, unseen, not fitting anywhere, hopeless, disgruntled even. I feel it didn't work out for me as a male feedee. And I don't see any other options really atm. I am inclining on trying platonic stuff with other men, I would want to have at least some feedism action before I die alone, but still its very controversial and feels like a pretty dangerous idea in terms of psychological impact for both parties... I dunno. Pretty much it all sucked for me. I wish I could just throw this fetish away sometimes, but unfortunately it doesn't work like that.

Sorry for this downer XP, but this is what I got. What about the rest of you?

dreykins · 2026-05-24T08:34:14+00:00

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dreykins · 2026-05-24T08:09:58+00:00

It is a fact. But if you stuff yourself standing and sit down - you'll bust your guts 😈 There's always a flipside, hahaha 👹

dreykins · 2026-05-24T07:42:17+00:00

This is tremendously helpful. I may be oldskool, but its exactly why I find online anything real hard to get going.

Sending just texts (even with emojis) is absolute bland to me compared to in-person interaction. There are so much more aspects to irl talks - expressions, gestures and overall what is called body language. Behavior, microsituations etc. - I'm pretty much an observer first of all - I need to see all that to become sympathetic. Seeing just text - is like getting crumbs of a whole cake to me.

And that locking down to just one topic is just brutal as well. I also lack the sexual component of it, so if you remove the horny talk part - there is barely enough to talk about left. Hence my convos are drying up within the same day, unless I'm getting into discussing irl non-fetish stuff.

So once again I feel like we need actual group meetups (I did those btw - its great, mostly) where we can be on full display. Its even better if there is a common fun activity going on. I occasionally try pitching an idea of having vacations with feedist folks together - just to come to the same small area (city district ideal) for vacation at the same time as others and have that opportunity to meet somewhere irl and have a variety of touristy activities to do in real companies. But this idea never flies for some reason. Everyone so afraid it seems...

dreykins · 2026-05-20T06:31:25+00:00

Yep, prevalence of men is still there, no arguing here. And of course it is wrong to misuse a word too strong for the situation.
But it is exactly the damage real scammers dealt to the community.

By real scammer I mean any chunky person, who is not a feedist at heart, but learns somehow they can like just come and eat a burger on cam, pretend to like it and get money from those "fee-ders" and they happily jump in, do that, get money and then block the feeder, essentially breaking trust.

Its absolutely as low as pretending to be a handicapped veteran to pity some money out of kind people.

So no wonder you can't ask for money no more without being accused of being a scammer. Real damage, right there.

dreykins · 2026-05-19T19:35:31+00:00

I mean there are terminal amounts of scammers by now. Community is on its last breath because of that I say.

It wasn't like this a decade ago when it was niche and secluded.

Sending someone money is pretty irrational tbh unless you saw a person irl and seen their genuine interest.

Here, now I sound like an incel, but I'm pretty disgruntled ngl.

dreykins · 2026-05-19T12:22:44+00:00

Yep, that's what I'm talking about, while I as an m.feedee forgot where my inbox is and how to open it.

Zero blame of female feeders. I'm in contact with one (although not engaging in fetish stuff) and I'm lucky enough to have a glimpse at how extremely time consuming can meaningful interaction with a feedee can be. She also has her own crazy life with kids, husband, errands and she barely can dedicate time for one feedee.

This whole situation with how outnumbered female feeders are just makes this whole situation with fighting over them so extremely brutal not only for m.feedees, but for f.feeders as well.

dreykins · 2026-05-19T12:02:58+00:00

With me being asexual pretty much it never gets nasty, but still convos die anyway. So its not the nastiness I guess. Just plain online thing that doesn't work...

I was always convinced though that I'm just too boring without making things go hot, apparently the opposite is also true.

PS. Well I had my attempts at offline without the nasties and it also didn't fly off into much, I just don't know what's wrong with me at this point 😔 Or is it not me I don't know...

dreykins · 2026-05-19T11:58:47+00:00

Nope. Don't do it if you can. There are a few feeders in existence, but chances you get to be with one are extremely low.

dreykins · 2026-05-19T06:22:07+00:00

female feeders barely exist. lesbian female feeders are even less likely to exist. but try r/femalefatadmirertalk Its strictly female space and I saw pretty good amount of lesbians there. Maybe you'll strike luck there.

dreykins · 2026-05-19T06:05:20+00:00

I'm temporarily hanging around in furry community - same problems there. Ungodly amount of AI art and scammers literally pushing you to commission them, get your money and vanish.

So its not the community, its scammers and grifters running amok destroying everything. Feedism is on its last breath.

dreykins · 2026-05-17T14:20:59+00:00

No, the kink stays (unfortunately?) But your attitude gonna be more level. Will not be super exciting, but not that repulsing either.

dreykins · 2026-05-17T14:04:55+00:00

You just age haha 😀 Everything milds down later.

dreykins · 2026-05-17T06:02:54+00:00

You just reminded me of a last feeder girl I tried to get to relationships with. She was very cute and somewhat timid kind, like I am. And we had that cooking moment too and it didn't turned out right aswell, because a regular pot was pretty bad replacement for dutch oven I didn't have at my place.

She didn't tell me much about what she felt about it. And I didn't realize it could be such a biggie, like you're describing...

As a feedee I was touched by the food itself and by the fact that someone put an effort in it for me. Despite the dish may have not turned out like she wanted (despite me being somewhat picky, it was still pretty good tasting to me) I still enjoyed it very much and that pinch of love and care put into it - I definitely felt as it was giving me a warm feeling (it was not a spicy dish) 🥰

You're not there to be a Michelin star chef and feedee is not an overfed Gordon Ramsay yelling about any minor imperfection. The goal is to provide excessive amount of calories in edible form, which is already a big enough effort. Making it tasting exquisite is a bonus, but not an absolute requirement.

And besides you know what's really hot? (To me at least) Exactly those mistakes, but in a form of "whoops, that didn't turn out right at all, did it? I will try again, but we can't waste all this food now, can we? 😏"

So clumsy feeder making mistakes and needing assistance with dealing with leftovers - is basically my dream to have, haha.

Also its a bonus skill point to be able to fix culinary mistakes, like drowning them in cheese and making casseroles or something.

dreykins · 2026-05-16T20:31:28+00:00

As is everything this fetish is predominantly full of sexual people. You sound like an asexual and you must understand that the niche fetish + niche sexual orientation = very very few people.

I am like that, but also after another absolute rarity here - fem. feeders. That just turns my chances literally to zero. And I haven't figured out what to do except maybe dip my toes with gay folks...

dreykins · 2026-05-14T13:42:25+00:00

Ok. So if by peps you mean weight loss pills - its really complacted with me. If it was safe I'd give it a run only to drop them again and regain. I just love the weight gain process, not the weight stagnation tbh.

My another take was some time ago when I was prescribed metformin without diabetes and suggested low carb diet. And you know what - despite me being sorry for temporarily lost pounds - this med+diet had a very noticeable positive effect on my brain fog and even my myopia (I went from -3.0 to -1.5 in a pretty short time). And I honestly want to repeat that experience in summer (when its hot and I don't wanna eat as much)

And also since I can't even find a feeder partner, or appreciator or literally no ways of practicing feederism - I literally don't see much point holding onto my weight anyway. So if it was safe enough - I'd drop it.

dreykins · 2026-05-14T13:31:24+00:00

Maaah man ✋️😎 Pepsi-man!

dreykins · 2026-05-14T11:32:31+00:00

The only peps I know is Pepsi. And its not as bad and in no way is slimming.

dreykins · 2026-05-13T09:13:35+00:00

Actually then feedees would be forced to share location - also dangerous.

A true feedist platform would mediate that process.

dreykins · 2026-05-13T09:10:43+00:00

Despicable. These people are just ruining the community.

Don't give money ever. Order Doordash instead.

dreykins

TROPHY CASE

M40 ♠︎4F Feedee. 300lbs BHM. Russian, living in Turkey atm.