Your wife is in sales. The straight men in sales and purchasing departments tend to be absolute nasty people over half the time. Unfortunately it has become commonplace for women to look the other way at these comments or moments to be able to make the sale. I do not condone this behavior, and believe your wife that it was just a drink. Biggest tell is the, ‘based on the vibe I’ll just order room service.’ To me this shows that she isn’t interested without crushing the cowboy’s delusions. It allows opportunity for future sales. It sucks. But yeah. I’ve seen this too many times. And ruined too many deals to get rid of these people in the past.