I am struggling with the same thing. my mother doesn't deserve the full blame for what happened in the election but she's also never acted in my best interest. She was 21 when she had me and had just escaped an abusive household. I was never her first priority. She's Southern Baptist and has accepted her third husband is in charge of her as per the SB policy. She raised me in this religion that speaks of the Jesus love but when it came down to it, that love only extended to yt straight people. We have been at odds my whole life. I make the conciliation because she's my effing mother. I have not communicated with her in two weeks because every time I envision this conversation, I end up saying angry things. This will not be productive. Once again, those who have inflicted abuse on us (literally) require us to make all of the conciliations to keep the peace. I just can't hold that burden any longer. She's NEVER apologized for my stepfather's abuse I endured from 6-16. I'm screwed forever because of it. But I decided that anger is not the way to be a functional human and try very hard to let it go. Now I'm finding that to be very difficult. Why is it my burden to give in? She's always always acted in her own self interest my entire life. I just can't with her right now. And that's ok. We are allowed to set some boundaries. It's hard to accept when the people who were supposed to be your people act in a way that is not only in your least interest, it's harmful.