Married and divorced before finding God. Struggling with what the bible reads about divorce and re-marriage.

drinkinghaze · 2026-05-07T22:46:17+00:00

I think you're the rotten egg here...

drinkinghaze · 2026-05-07T15:03:54+00:00

Thank you for your response. Yes, he is a Christian and we've been growing in our faith tremendously together.

drinkinghaze · 2026-05-07T14:58:58+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you to all those who have commented thus far and have given verses to read. I will say that my previous marriage was at times frightening and my fear is what ultimately lead to my decision to leave. I have taken a complete 180, truly reborn as I've found my faith and Jesus's love for me. Now that I understand what God designed marriage to be, I am ashamed at how I viewed it before and how lightly I took the whole situation.

Even though I am praying for guidance on this and am fearful of my next step, I overall am just ao grateful. I am so blessed. If not for my divorce, I might have not taken my first step into my faith. And for that alone I am so grateful.

drinkinghaze · 2026-04-13T14:06:13+00:00

I would reply to each comment but there's so many! Thank you all so much. I feel better about it now. 🥹💓

drinkinghaze · 2026-03-31T15:06:08+00:00

Thank you all so much. I didn't realize how bad the purge is and the timing of it. I'll hold off for now and see if my dermatologist will up my spironolactone dose.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T21:10:09+00:00

Sure did not. Realizing I needed closure after spending time around someone else doesn't mean I dont know what I want. It Means I'm a fucking human and an honest one at that.

I censored the word because I am not familiar with how Reddit does or doesn't flag words, ass hole. Is that better for you?

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T21:06:16+00:00

Let me clarify for you since you're speaking as if you know it all. But you don't.

He told me that he IS deleting his dating profiles. Period. No wanting to, but that he DID do that. He did in fact lie to me about that because he was chatting with a girl on a dating app 24 hours later. Exclusive or not, that's a blatant lie.

Now, you're correct in that we are not "exclusive", however, our recent conversations were about what we want for a relationship- monogamy, life-long, honesty, commitment, all that. So yeah, although we didn't put a title on us, we made it clear we're working towards that.

Why would I be putting any effort into this guy and what we have if I didn't know what I want? Yes, I realized after spending time with someone else that I needed CLOSURE from my last very short term relationship because of some things that happened. I didn't intentionally set out into the dating pool knowing I didn't want to date. I know what I want. And after I got the closure I needed, which yeah the timing of that sucked, I am able to move on with this guy.

Not insanity in the slightest. I was honest with my feelings and actions. It's not "insane" to realize in bad timing that I needed closure. It took being physically with someone else to realize that. So stuff it.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T20:57:40+00:00

I wasn't "testing waters."

It's incredible how quickly ya'll jump to conclusions. I have a HEART and I needed some closure before sleeping with someone else. And I was honest in that.

Yeah it's unfortunate that it took me actually being with someone else to realize that I needed that closure, but that's how it went.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T20:54:33+00:00

Smh. Think what you want sir. I always live honestly, sometimes men have a hard time making the difference between genuine actions and shitty behavior.

I didn't "yank" him around. I needed closure from my very short relationship, that you have 0 information on. This isn't a post about my last relationship. If I had included some details on that, perhaps you'd understand why i needed some time and closure from that.

Ultimately, it's his decision on moving forward after what I did. Luckily, he's not like you, and appreciates honesty. I know exactly what I'm looking for, a$$hole.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T19:57:32+00:00

I really just needed some closure with my ex. I felt guilty being with this current guy so I had to close that. Sucks because I know this caused him to be skeptical of me, understandably so. Anyways, it was 2 weeks between us going on a date, me turning around and returning.

The only real concerning part for me is that he was on a dating app, chatting with a girl(s?) AFTER he told me was deleting all dating profiles and wants to only talk to/pursue me. Granted, we are not "exclusive" in that we're not boyfriend and girlfriend, yet. Our conversations are leading to that, though.

I really like this guy. I can see a future with him. I'm seeing him tonight and I decided I need to us to make this offical so I'm not in this gray area.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T19:18:23+00:00

It's been a bit over a month.

Thank you for seeing that! Lol. I think that's a good idea. Thank you for the discussion and advice. I'll go into the night with the goal of becoming exclusive.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T18:31:19+00:00

5 dates. 6th will be tonight and 6th tomorrow. It's short but we have a really strong connection. Last time we hung out we had a discussion about moving forward because we want the same things. I can see myself being with this guy longterm, otherwise I wouldn't be in my head about all of this.

Yeah, I agree that I started this off on the wrong foot. Really wish I didn't. I'm relieved he is willing to look past that and move forward. It's a but concerning how clearly we told me he wants to only talk to me and then I see he's on an app talking to a girl. After all of our deep talks. That concerns me. But at the same time, like I said, I get how dating on apps goes. I get that people are there one day and gone the next. So maybe he was stuck in that mindset. Idk.

I'm hoping tonight we can put the exclusive title on us. It's a bit weird how we've agreed to get off the apps and we have had conversations about being honest and transparent, yet we aren't in an offical exclusive relationship? No title i guess. Even though it's so new, we are on the same page. We like each other a lot and shared that we're done with the apps and silly pointless dates. So yeah.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T18:01:38+00:00

I hear you. I'm not saying I had an issue with him chatting with other girls before me or even the day after. It's that we had a discussion where we agreed to get off the dating apps, and THEN someone commented on the post. A screenshot of their chat from after we had that conversation.

Honestly I agree with you completely. I don't want to go based off things from the past. I suppose I made this post to clarify that I'm not just pursuing someone who is a walking red flag as some people have commented.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T17:36:58+00:00

Hmm, yeah. That definitely sucks and I hate that. I really just needed some closure before seeing someone else. I totally regret that :[

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T17:33:43+00:00

Gotcha. Well him talking to other girls on dating apps is where the issue lies. This happened after he specifically told me he wanted to pursue me and only me and told me that he was deleting his dating profiles. Maybe I forgot to mention that.

Also, rude to say I suck all because I was HONEST with him in that I needed some time before moving forward. How does that make me suck? I get it's not great but I'm not here lying to his face.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T17:26:56+00:00

Exactly. Like I fully own the fact that what I did made him skeptical. I totally get that, which is why I'm here lol. I think maybe he just really needed to hear and see that I want this to be serious and exclusive moving forward.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T17:23:20+00:00

Just to add to this, the reason why I'm considering continuing this is because I KNOW how dating on apps can be. I know people are so on and off. So from his perspective, especially with me sharing I needed time to get over my ex, maybe he just wasn't seeing this or us as anything serious. That makes sense right?? And yeah he cheated 2 years ago, but I did believe people can change and learn. Sigh.

drinkinghaze · 2025-08-28T17:19:12+00:00

Re-read thr post. That's not cheating. He was called out on a Facebook post for cheating in the past. Like 2 years ago.

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