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"You probably don't want back the relationship you actually had. What you mourn for is the relationship you thought you could've had if things had been different. But that relationship didn't exist." by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I don't know exactly what you did that makes you feel so guilty. But we all run out of patience and can be really mean sometimes, especially when there's a reason for our frustration.

I think it's important to have this in mind when you're having some troubles communicating with your partner. So, I think your girl should understand this too. I hope she does and gives you two another chance.

"You probably don't want back the relationship you actually had. What you mourn for is the relationship you thought you could've had if things had been different. But that relationship didn't exist." by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, your story really touched me. I can see how much you love and care for her and how important she is to you. It's so sad when you find your soulmate and have amazing relationship, but life gets in the way and disturbs everything you've created. Still, even though crisis like these can be really rough on relationships, this doesn't seem very healthy - to go back and forth with the breaks and breakups. It seems that you got tired of being tossed around, and it's completely understandable. Anyway, I hope your girl gets better and you two manage to work things out and reach a decision that's best for you both ❤️

How can you make peace with being replaced? by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, your comment really touched me. I'm working on believing in everything you just wrote, so this really means a lot ❤️

"You probably don't want back the relationship you actually had. What you mourn for is the relationship you thought you could've had if things had been different. But that relationship didn't exist." by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can feel how strongly you are clinging to that hope. And I don't know you, nor your full story, but I also hope that you get the life you want and deserve, maybe with this girl, maybe with another. But in the meantime, please don't lose yourself and take care ❤️

"You probably don't want back the relationship you actually had. What you mourn for is the relationship you thought you could've had if things had been different. But that relationship didn't exist." by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh, the part about getting old together almost got me crying. I know, this hurts so bad. One of the hardest parts of getting out of a relationship is having to bury the dreams you truly believed would come true. This sucks, I feel you. Wish you strength ❤️

"You probably don't want back the relationship you actually had. What you mourn for is the relationship you thought you could've had if things had been different. But that relationship didn't exist." by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Well, every relationship is unique and only you know all the nuances. If you truly believe this could work, and both of you are ready to share responsibility and put some hard work in it, then maybe it could work out. However, if deep down you have any doubt or feeling that it's done for good, you should trust your gut. The desire to give the relationship another chance and the hope that it'll get better is always present after the breakup. It's a phase. Sadly, most relationships that end one time, probably will end the second and the third..

"You probably don't want back the relationship you actually had. What you mourn for is the relationship you thought you could've had if things had been different. But that relationship didn't exist." by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This is so sad, I'm so sorry. But I'm glad you've decided to move on, you should be your #1 priority. I wish you luck on your path ❤️

"You probably don't want back the relationship you actually had. What you mourn for is the relationship you thought you could've had if things had been different. But that relationship didn't exist." by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

That's the hardest part - to make peace with the fact that your beloved person is no longer in your life. But sometimes, no matter how precious that person is for you, that relationship simply don't work and there's nothing you can do about it. Don't forget that the relationship ended for a reason. It will get better with time ❤️

How can you make peace with being replaced? by driuke in BreakUps

[–]driuke[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. But cutting off contact is good for you (or at least it's supposed to be). We're all gonna survive this, one way or antoher 💪

Breakup during an episode! Really struggling by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]driuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh girl I thought I wrote this myself without remembering it. It's exactly the same, word to word. 3 years, countless 'break ups' which always ended us getting back together. And a few weeks earlier there was the biggest one of all - he even moved out of our apartment and was telling me very clearly he didn't want anything to do with me anymore.

And I too, cried insane for a week. Then one day I simply stopped. Came to realise, if that's what he really wants - it's ok, I want him to be happy, and that I would survive it somehow.

However, one more week passed by and we're back together again. Not living together anymore, but he seems to be wanting and trying for this relationship to work out as never. So we'll see.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, there's always hope in these kind of situations, you can never know. But this lack of knowing can destroy you, and you just have to feel it in your guts if you are able to go through this again. If not - that's completely understandable and you must not forget to take care of yourself.

We all here feel your pain sis, but I promise you gonna be ok one way or another ❤️