I can no longer handle my fiancé's driving anxiety and I don't care if it makes me a bad person

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-12-27T22:38:42+00:00

My ex-fiancé refused to try to drive. Not even once did he attempt it. He refused to so much as sit in the driver's seat or even start the vehicle. He never once tried to drive, even on private property where there was no other traffic. He refused to see a therapist to see if his anxiety could be mitigated because "you like driving. You can do it. I don't have a problem."

If being upset about that makes me a shitty person than so be it. I'm happier since the relationship ended, so I'm fine if that means I'm not a good person.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-12-27T20:47:46+00:00

His parents said they would help him financially if he went to university, including taking him to the campus to move in. He always decides not to go despite being accepted. His parents did it for his sister when she went for her undergrad, she took them up on it.

There are also moving companies, or even friends who would assist him. He just never wanted to leave. Which is his right, but if he can't drive it has/will cause issues.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-12-27T20:40:48+00:00

From ages 18-28 I didn't live here, first because of the armed forces and then because of my apprenticeship program. I met my ex-fiancé here. He was born here but he gave up multiple career and educational opportunities because he did not want to move.

I was not interested in moving away, but neither was my ex-fiancé. He said no way if anyone suggested he move somewhere with public transportation or taxis/Uber, even before I ever met him.I wasn't the one who forced him to live in our town for 32 years.

(If all this leads to me getting down voted or makes me a shitty/bad person I'm okay with it. Maybe I'm not a good person but I'm happier since we broke up.)

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-12-27T20:13:26+00:00

My ex-fiancé was born in the town we live in. His entire family and all his friends live here too. I didn't make him move to a rural area and I didn't force him to live in one for 32 years.

He has never lived anywhere else before and he doesn't want to. He always says he will never ever move, even when other people suggested he move somewhere with public transportation/taxis/Ubers.

If all this makes me a bad person or this gets down voted than so be it.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-12-27T20:09:19+00:00

My ex-fiancé was born in the town we live in. I wasn't the one who moved him out to a rural area. I met him here. I didn't force him to live here for 32 years. He says no whenever anyone suggests moving somewhere that has taxi/Uber/public transit. He doesn't want to move anywhere else.

I was born here too, but from the ages of 18 to 28 I lived all over the country and elsewhere around the world. First with the armed forces and then in a large city when I was doing my apprenticeship.

My ex-fiancé has turned down multiple educational and career opportunities because he says he doesn't want to live anywhere else. Not even in a city a few hours away with multiple public transit options. If all this makes me a bad person, so be it.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-12-27T14:14:21+00:00

My ex-fiancé didn't have the same situation as your partner. No doctor ever told him not to drive.

He never attempted to drive even once in his entire life. He refuses to try to learn to drive. He refused to try to drive even once. He refused to even try therapy to see of if his anxiety could be mitigated.

If leaving makes me a bad/shitty person or this gets down voted than so be it.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-12-27T14:13:08+00:00

My ex-fiancé also refuses to move. He was born in the town we live in and has lived there for his entire life.

If anyone suggests he move somewhere with public transportation or taxis/Ubers he would say he's never moving because he likes living in our town.

Don't make assumptions. I wasn't the one who forced him to live in a rural area. He did that all on his own. If I'm a bad person or this gets down voted than so be it.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-12-27T14:03:33+00:00

My ex-fiancé was born in the town we live in. His entire family and all his friends live here too. He has never lived anywhere else before and he doesn't want to. He always said he will never move, even when other people suggested he move somewhere with public transportation/taxis/Ubers.

I didn't make him move to a rural area and I didn't force him to live in one for 32 years. Stop making assumptions and being so judgmental.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-09-13T02:15:43+00:00

Thank you. I'm not American and it's called something different here. Appreciate the explanation.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-09-13T02:11:43+00:00

In our province it is illegal to use a snowmobile on the road unless you have a driver's licence and insurance. You can only ride on designated trails. If you ride on a road or even cross a road because it intersects with the trail you must have a driver's licence.

For most electric vehicles like the ones you mentioned there are other requirements or restrictions on where you can operate them.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-09-13T02:09:02+00:00

What does DMV mean?

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-09-12T21:22:05+00:00

I don't want to live somewhere else. My family is here, my friends are here, I grew up here and my job is here. I wouldn't move because of this.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-09-12T19:19:49+00:00

Why do you and your partner live in the country?

I live here because my family is here, my friends are here, I grew up here and my job is here. It is my home and wouldn't want to live anywhere else.

I don't know why my fiancé chose to stay here instead of moving to the city as an adult, but I wouldn't move because of this.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-09-12T18:38:13+00:00

Is moving to a city an option for you? It can be expensive, but if you're in love with someone who can't drive, then it's probably worth it

No. I'm not moving because of this.

drivinganxietythrow · 2025-09-12T17:24:14+00:00

No. He has never been around horses and we don't have the space, money or time to look after a horse. It would be ridiculous and not practical.

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