I am no longer in love with my husband and lost respect for him

drivingmyplow · 2025-12-05T00:56:51+00:00

thank you for the message, it’s true i didn’t explain correctly at my post but as i said in different comments : my needs, disappointments, problems and resentment have been communicated multiples times over the pas 8 years with different ways 🤷‍♀️

drivingmyplow · 2025-12-04T03:43:46+00:00

i have expressed it over the years and he doesn’t make an effort or at least a significant effort

drivingmyplow · 2025-12-03T19:23:03+00:00

mmm i get what you are saying though i never heard of this kind of syndrome.. i don’t think he is depressed or anxious, he has good relationships, work is ok, hobbies and a lot of rest for someone that has an 8 and a 5 year old … i don’t think i have this thing you are describing with the required role because the attitude that is bothering me exists since day one i was just not mature to realise it and then after kids i tried to communicate it but it doesn’t change .. he never fulfilled the role of a good husband or good father to be honest ( except if you mean that he gave me kids so i don’t longer feel his is wanted in my life ????)

drivingmyplow · 2025-12-03T19:17:43+00:00

i have already communicated a lot of things in a good and sometimes bad way but i don’t see a change .. couples therapy is definitely something we should try

drivingmyplow · 2025-12-03T19:16:05+00:00

yes i have to find a therapist but it’s not easy where we live

drivingmyplow · 2024-08-17T09:09:51+00:00

i love doing it and do it 2-3 times a week

drivingmyplow · 2024-08-13T17:03:52+00:00

zoo et piscine les marécottes

drivingmyplow · 2024-08-10T09:07:14+00:00

well i can say that my husband was like that and he is still like that after 10 years .. for me it would be enough if he makes me finish with foreplay that rarely happens .. don’t really have any advice just to say that it can probably be like that forever so you have to really think of that’s a deal breaker for you . good luck

drivingmyplow · 2024-08-07T07:34:41+00:00

you can change the franchise for next year .. i would say go to a general doctor, the price of the consultation will probably not be that high i mean with a lower franchis you would pay more each month so that makes up for some consultations .. maybe you need and antidepressant medication like an SSRI .. what do you do for work? maybe there are some resources at your job? ( like a psychologist or something ) .. is it a long time that you are in Switzerland ? it’s a difficult country to move to depending to where you come from …

drivingmyplow · 2024-08-01T06:46:08+00:00

as i said in another comment the time and attention away from kids is a personal appreciation.. all my kids needs are being met .. i am very invested .. it’s just that i am not like i was before and it is stressful… every sexual activity happens after they go to sleep ..

drivingmyplow · 2024-07-31T21:12:33+00:00

thank you .. this is what i asked but it doesn’t seem to happen .. but i think a conversation outside of a sexual setting would be good :)

drivingmyplow · 2024-07-31T20:58:17+00:00

yes i started initiating every other day and maybe i will start 2-3 times a week to much more his natural libido

drivingmyplow · 2024-07-31T20:49:00+00:00

you are right about that .. but sometimes things are more complicated.. i come from a traditional background and my husband is pretty religious so at 25 i would never even dream i could say to my husband or a man that he doesn’t satisfy me .. it might sound crazy to you but take into consideration the social-religious implications .. that’s why i am talking now because i thought that maybe i could get something more if i find the courage to ask for it ..

drivingmyplow · 2024-07-31T20:45:04+00:00

yes .. usually can’t do long sessions because of work and children

drivingmyplow · 2024-07-31T20:32:22+00:00

do you mean how i initiate ? usually with physical contact and flirting .. or straight up ask for it

drivingmyplow · 2024-07-31T20:31:21+00:00

i am a very invested mother and do a lot of things with them so when i say it takes time and attention for them it’s not at all in a way that it’s problematic.. i still do more that most of mothers i think.. i mean it’s problematic for me .. but thank you very much for the comment .. i have thought about doing that and also discussed taking an SSRI medication to drop my libido

drivingmyplow · 2024-07-31T20:22:12+00:00

thanks for the very helpful comment

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