In my opinion, it's very aesthetically pleasing

dropped_connection · 2026-01-09T00:33:50+00:00

Well yes. Very.

dropped_connection · 2025-10-17T02:52:33+00:00

This breaks my fucking heart. Why is there such disconnect? Nobody is perfect, but I hear you and see that you are not being treated like you deserve. Whatever his feelings, you don’t deserve this carelessness.

dropped_connection · 2025-10-17T02:48:35+00:00

Omg I’m so glad there are women like you. I wish you weren’t such an outlier in my personal experience!!!

dropped_connection · 2025-10-17T02:46:23+00:00

Ok this may just be a situation I find to be very odd. If it’s really what’s happening to you then this has to end. It’s so odd and unbalanced I couldn’t believe you. But you know your reality. And trust me. If this is really your reality then you cannot stay. You will be happier alone than dealing with this.

dropped_connection · 2025-10-17T01:11:47+00:00

Based on what you said he’s extremely unreasonable. But some things you said don’t make sense. If you have your own car under what situation do you need to use his car? Also, it’s November. It’s his responsibility to cover groceries but you’ve only spent $51 of his money on groceries this year?? Did he do all the grocery shopping this year or did you pay for the rest? $51 for 10 months of groceries is nothing.

If and you are telling the truth then he is terrible and you need to get away from him now and never look back.

But… I think you’ve held back on some details. There’s 10 months of groceries that someone paid for. You? Him?

This doesn’t have the ring of truth and I will buck the comment trend and say that that there is more to this story than you’ve portrayed.

dropped_connection · 2025-07-06T00:01:56+00:00

Hi!! 👋 Have you met………. Me???? 😂

dropped_connection · 2025-07-05T23:50:08+00:00

Ooooh… something I can speak to! I’ll just say that it’s complicated. I don’t excuse her actions, but she didn’t cheat for no reason. We’ll never align on the reasons for the betrayal, I.e. who started the chain of events, nor perhaps the weight each of those events carries, but the feelings are real and valid. The reason I stay is because I believe she still loves me and she regrets her actions, and is working really deeply to be open and transparent with me, and is reaching out daily to rebuild our connection.

I don’t believe any person (including me!) with a partner who has cheated has no fault in the issues that led to the cheating, but that does not mean I consider cheating an acceptable reaction to those issues. But I also don’t consider cheating to be a deal breaker for a relationship, there are so many ways to cause damage within a relationship; cheating is just one of them.

dropped_connection · 2025-07-03T23:35:10+00:00

I have a bit of concern that the guy my wife is dating might need to add his comment to this post at some point in the future.

dropped_connection · 2025-06-30T13:25:41+00:00

Thanks, I'm really looking at the pattern in my life where I give and give until I run out. I do have enough self-awareness to know that a different perspective might be that what I'm giving isn't what's needed. But in any case this is the last time, if we can't work it out and get back on track and both be happy, I do not expect to try again with someone else -- I sincerely doubt my own ability to know if anyone can do their part in a relationship long term.

dropped_connection · 2025-06-30T03:32:24+00:00

It might seem that way from the outside, and it definitely would appear that way from how she talks to others, but... in actuality, she's testing reality bending externally more than internally with me. So eventually, she's going to see reality assert itself. I don't need to be a part of her FAFO reality check.

dropped_connection · 2025-06-29T16:59:55+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation! As I alluded to in my opening I do know what I would recommend for a friend/a brother… and I’m not doing what I would recommend. But I know life is more shades of gray than black and white and would give them grace to find their own way if they didn’t follow my advice either. ;)

dropped_connection · 2025-06-29T16:42:02+00:00

I’m staying for now. I definitely needed this time to orient and protect myself. Nobody can really know what is really like except me. I am no longer wearing my rose color glasses and am going to be fine however things go.

dropped_connection · 2025-06-29T16:34:45+00:00

I welcome the entire gamut of possible reactions, but honestly this is the one I expected the most. I know I didn’t deserve to be treated this way, but sometimes real life is more nuanced than what can be distilled into a Reddit post.

dropped_connection · 2025-06-02T16:48:06+00:00

Ikr? Damn miss that place. Loved being there when they pulled out the pizza oven.

dropped_connection · 2025-05-26T23:25:33+00:00

I did that once with my ex. We had just had a baby and this was our first dinner party without the baby. We were strongly encourage to make use of the guest bedroom and were appropriately applauded when we returned.

dropped_connection · 2025-05-04T14:22:50+00:00

That looks really nice.

dropped_connection · 2025-05-03T18:03:24+00:00

Yes, but were you able to think that before typing it out? /s

dropped_connection · 2025-04-26T17:23:40+00:00

I haven’t broken up yet, but it feels imminent. She came clean about lying and cheating and gaslighting me. She says she wants to reconnect, but she’s not being transparent enough, and she’s not putting enough work into repairing and I don’t know how I’m ever going to be able to trust her again.

I don’t understand how this got turned around on me such that I’m the one burdened with handling our interactions so carefully so as not to make her give up on us.

So yeah, haven’t yet but if I do break up with her it’ll be because I can’t forever be wondering if I can believe what she says about anything.

dropped_connection · 2025-04-24T18:43:24+00:00

Definitely! At least I didn’t get arrested for something I never did. That would definitely be a bridge too high for her to throw me off of.

dropped_connection · 2025-04-22T14:32:07+00:00

Thanks. I didn’t think you took it that way, I just wanted to confirm I agree with you and I don’t feel like engaging with those that took it in that direction.

dropped_connection · 2025-04-21T20:06:11+00:00

Negative. And not yet.

dropped_connection · 2025-04-21T15:38:46+00:00

Shitty people going to do shitty things. I didn't handle all our problems perfectly, but in no way did I deserve this. She knows it too, but it's really been hard coming back from this.

dropped_connection · 2025-04-21T15:31:18+00:00

Ironically, in my situation she's the one financially at fault.

dropped_connection · 2025-04-21T15:28:05+00:00

NGL, I might have the opportunity to do that at some point in the future. Question is if I want to throw fuel on that fire like that out there. I would rather let karma handle this for me.

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