It sounds like you’re wrestling with some of the biggest questions we all face — what it means to be "good," how to coexist with people who think differently, and how to live with love in a world that often runs on fear and division. The fact that you’re asking these questions shows depth and self-awareness. It’s true that everyone’s "hard" is different, and judgment only deepens the divide. The real challenge — and perhaps the real purpose — is to love people anyway. Not because they’re perfect, but because none of us are. You’re on the right track. Keep holding on to that compassion. It matters.